Breeder and other words we use to hurt our own.

[JakeTulane]

Originally Posted by waxnrope

Thinking, Jake, and as I recollect, I have never heard the word faggot used as an endearment ... fag, sometimes, yes.

I refer to myself (as do some of my friends) as a "faggy" butch ... it is meant as an acknowledgment that I share some stereotypical behaviors and ways of being as my gay brothers. These are good things, by the way. So, I don't mind that, nor do my gay male friends, as they, too, call me this at times. But, faggot, no. Never in my recollection have heard it in anyway except derogatorily.

Thank you wax. Odd that if we drop off 3 letters.. it is "seen" differently, or felt, or heard.

[SuperFemme]

Originally Posted by JakeTulane

Thank you wax. Odd that if we drop off 3 letters.. it is "seen" differently, or felt, or heard.

Ohhh.

GOOD point.

Fag vs. Faggot

I think the latter is used in a more vicious manner.

[betenoire]

I really think that the relationships between people is a HUGE deciding factor in what is okay and what is not okay. When you reach a certain level of familiarity with someone boundaries shift.

Take for example, my friend Bob. I love Bob. We've been friends for, well, for nearly forever. Bob calls me names all the time, her favourite being "twat". I'm sure she's done it at least once in these here forums.

I am okay with Bob calling me a twat, because Bob is my friend and she loves me and I know that Bob has absolutely no malicious will when it comes to me. I call her all sorts of things, too. (My personal favourite is anal fissure.) It's all good. It's part of our shtick.

But if someone who I did not have that kind of relationship with were to call me a twat - I would probably break their nose.