PTSD and Trauma recovery

[ravfem]

Originally Posted by friskyfemme

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What I came to accept...I am only responsible for me. I am at peace with myself and can be there for my family in their crisis without becoming part of it.

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hi FF

i love when we figure out that we're only responsible for ourselves, i do think it goes a long way towards finding that inner peace.

It's always been hard for me to separate myself emotionally from loved ones issues. my therapist taught me about "not making their problems yours" which i found to be greatly helpful, but it's something i still struggle with. i think it's because of that part of me that wants to "fix" everything for people i care about. i hate seeing someone hurt or angry about something, it always makes me so uncomfortable and so i immediately start trying to figure out ways to fix it for them.

i've found that when, instead of doing that, i am able to just listen and be supportive, i am much better off emotionally.