The Mythical *Pass* for Differently-Abled People

[weatherboi]

tough love vs. extra leeway???

it is all relative to the situation. i read things wrong all the time. i have terrible dyslexia. honest intent. we help and treat each other accordingly. some people manipulate and take advantage of extra leeway and cry that they can't handle tough love. so what then?? let them continue to cross boundaries and placate the behavior?? i am not in support of banning people who need this community. i am however weary of people who continue to cross boundaries all over the place. whatever the reason.

[Apocalipstic]

Originally Posted by weatherboi

tough love vs. extra leeway???

it is all relative to the situation. i read things wrong all the time. i have terrible dyslexia. honest intent. we help and treat each other accordingly. some people manipulate and take advantage of extra leeway and cry that they can't handle tough love. so what then?? let them continue to cross boundaries and placate the behavior?? i am not in support of banning people who need this community. i am however weary of people who continue to cross boundaries all over the place. whatever the reason.

I really think some people don't have the emotional and mental maturity to not cross boundaries no matter how many times they are told.

I think some of these same people do need our community.

I think we have decide what kind of website we are going to be. Are we going to make allowances for those people who ON LINE cross our boundaries? Are we going to try and learn to communicate with them, or choose to ignore them? Or do we need to just have a zero tolerance policy?

To be clear, I am not speaking of anyone who poses a physical threat to anyone or their family. Actual proven physical threat, ZERO tolerance!!!

[weatherboi]

Originally Posted by apocalipstic

I really think some people don't have the emotional and mental maturity to not cross boundaries no matter how many times they are told.
agreed because i know this from personal experience.

I think some of these same people do need our community.
yessss me too

I think we have decide what kind of website we are going to be. Are we going to make allowances for those people who ON LINE cross our boundaries? Are we going to try and learn to communicate with them, or choose to ignore them? Or do we need to just have a zero tolerance policy?
i think a zero tolerance policy is just as extreme as giving a pass to bad behavior. i think it is relative to each unique situation. i think it is very clear that this website is striving to be inclusive to all even at the expense of others sometimes. everything comes with a struggle. so how long do we continue to try?

To be clear, I am not speaking of anyone who poses a physical threat to anyone or their family. Actual proven physical threat, ZERO tolerance!!!

yessss and i think that to some degree if harassment is happening online then accountability is to be had!

just being honest

[Apocalipstic]

Originally Posted by weatherboi

just being honest

I agree with all of your answers.

I think to some degree, on a case to case basis, for me, it seems morally important to make an extra effort to communicate with people who communicate differently than I do when we cross paths...(I am bad at it by nature, so it is a learning process).

And whether or not it is wanted, important to make an extra effort to understand where anger comes from and how people relate.

I think sometimes when some extra care is taken in the first place things will not escalate to the point where rules are broken or people hate each other and someone talks smack...but when that happens I am glad we have the time out thing.

Sometimes people just do not have to coping skills to be on a website and some people can function with some extra help. I am very glad I am not the one to have to make the decision who is and who is not. That's really heavy.