what NOT to do in a relationship.......

[Soft*Silver]

Dont tell me I look fat in anything. I am fat. I will look fat. If you are going to critique my clothing, talk about IT, not ME. Tell me it doesnt flatter me. Tell me the pleats are too much. Maybe you cant ID what it is you dont like. Tell me that! Dont tell me that there is something wrong with me when its the outfit you are commenting on

now, if you are going to critique me and tell me I am fat, you best qualify that. Too fat than when we first dated? Too fat to introduce your buddies to? Too fat for your exes to see and make comments about? Too fat for you to want to bring me home little candy treats anymore? What?

Dont expect me to like what you say if you are going to call me fat. But if you are serious and not just being mean, I will listen. I might not do a damn thing about it..but maybe I will. Maybe you are worried about my health or wondering why I gained that 10 lbs over xmas (forgetting the dozens of cookies I baked that you ate too) If its a kindness, i will indeed listen, but you need to know, I am never not going to be fat. I like my fat old self. I was skinny once, and damned near killed myself to be like that. Now I am 53, silver haired, ample bodied, sharp minded and smart as a whip...the least of your worries about me should not be that I am fat...lol...

[bigbutchmistie]

Originally Posted by softness

Dont tell me I look fat in anything. I am fat. I will look fat. If you are going to critique my clothing, talk about IT, not ME. Tell me it doesnt flatter me. Tell me the pleats are too much. Maybe you cant ID what it is you dont like. Tell me that! Dont tell me that there is something wrong with me when its the outfit you are commenting on

now, if you are going to critique me and tell me I am fat, you best qualify that. Too fat than when we first dated? Too fat to introduce your buddies to? Too fat for your exes to see and make comments about? Too fat for you to want to bring me home little candy treats anymore? What?

Dont expect me to like what you say if you are going to call me fat. But if you are serious and not just being mean, I will listen. I might not do a damn thing about it..but maybe I will. Maybe you are worried about my health or wondering why I gained that 10 lbs over xmas (forgetting the dozens of cookies I baked that you ate too) If its a kindness, i will indeed listen, but you need to know, I am never not going to be fat. I like my fat old self. I was skinny once, and damned near killed myself to be like that. Now I am 53, silver haired, ample bodied, sharp minded and smart as a whip...the least of your worries about me should not be that I am fat...lol...

Ms Softness if any butch doesnt recognize the beauty of who you are and is abusive to you in that light. They arent worthy of you. And that goes for all femmes... I could never imagine telling a femme she was fat. Or not introducing her to my friends. You know only best for you my sweet friend.

[Soft*Silver]

Mistie..I love ya! Its an old story and its over now...lol. LONG over, long time ago. But it still pertains to this thread, so I included it.

I dont think there will be another butch to ever make me sad again, honey. I would kiss you if I could....for the love you gave me here tonight...

and by the way, I look damn good fat...lol...

Originally Posted by bigbutchmistie

Ms Softness if any butch doesnt recognize the beauty of who you are and is abusive to you in that light. They arent worthy of you. And that goes for all femmes... I could never imagine telling a femme she was fat. Or not introducing her to my friends. You know only best for you my sweet friend.

[bigbutchmistie]

Originally Posted by softness

Mistie..I love ya! Its an old story and its over now...lol. LONG over, long time ago. But it still pertains to this thread, so I included it.

I dont think there will be another butch to ever make me sad again, honey. I would kiss you if I could....for the love you gave me here tonight...

and by the way, I look damn good fat...lol...

BBW's are beautiful And you deserve nothing but the best Ms Softness, thank you,

[Lynn]

Don't yell at me or call me names. Don't be sarcastic when you are angry or say "nothing" when I ask what's wrong.

Don't notice and appreciate beautiful women and expect me not to do the same. We sometimes are attracted to the same thing. Sorry that weirds you out.

[bright_arrow]

Originally Posted by Lynn

Don't yell at me or call me names. Don't be sarcastic when you are angry or say "nothing" when I ask what's wrong.

Don't notice and appreciate beautiful women and expect me not to do the same. We sometimes are attracted to the same thing. Sorry that weirds you out.

I am guilty of sometimes being sarcastic while angry, though I do my hardest not to be.

And I hate to be told "nothing" is wrong when something is clearly wrong...

[Lynn]

Originally Posted by desdansmoncoeur

I am guilty of sometimes being sarcastic while angry, though I do my hardest not to be.

And I hate to be told "nothing" is wrong when something is clearly wrong...

Believe me, I can be sarcastic, too. I work on it.

Maybe the biggest one of all is:

Don't be hesitant to take responsibility for what you do, and I'll do the same. Everyone makes mistakes and no one is perfect. A quiet apology goes a long way.

[bigbutchmistie]

Originally Posted by Lynn

Don't yell at me or call me names. Don't be sarcastic when you are angry or say "nothing" when I ask what's wrong.

Don't notice and appreciate beautiful women and expect me not to do the same. We sometimes are attracted to the same thing. Sorry that weirds you out.

Yea I hate that too. Being yelled at and called names. I also hate the sarcastic "nothing" when asked if something is wrong.

[Soft*Silver]

yeah....well....call me fat and I will say "nothing!" when you ask me what is wrong...lol....

we will need a to put out the fires with that!

Originally Posted by bigbutchmistie

Yea I hate that too. Being yelled at and called names. I also hate the sarcastic "nothing" when asked if something is wrong.

[bigbutchmistie]

Like everyone else dont compare me to your exes. I am nothing like them. Im my own man and a damn good one. I can promise you that

Dont expect me to be superman 24/7 a week. Im human and I have my down time.

[JinxdGirl]

• Do not tell me to get over my past. I've dealt. I'm dealing. It will still pop up now and then.
  
• Do not get mad at me for what I did in YOUR dream.
  
• Do not expect me to cook & clean. I'll do one, you'll do the other.
  
• Do not change the rules in the middle of the game or relationship.
  
• Do not threaten me. Ever. Seriously.

[bigbutchmistie]

Understand that I dont have family dont belittle me because you do.

Dont be verbally/physically/emotionally abusive in any way to me

Dont expect me to pay your bills

Dont complain about me being too mushy. When Im a man whose comfortable enough to tell you and show you that I love you and adore you.

When you know I dont dance, dont dance to love songs with other butches while out. Its disrespectful. And rude. Besides I may have two left feet but would slow dance with you given the chance.

Dont fall asleep during a heartfelt conversation

[bright_arrow]

Don't tickle me to wake me up. You will have one seething, hissing, hellbent femme on your hands!

[bigbutchmistie]

Originally Posted by desdansmoncoeur

Don't tickle me to wake me up. You will have one seething, hissing, hellbent femme on your hands!

Im the same way except I will be one moody dude. LOL I cant stand to be "hollered" at either to be woken up... DONT every do that one either lol

[dark_crystal]

do not escalate every disagreement to "we might as well just break up, then"

because we will.

i have been emotionally blackmailed with this one too many times, and i dated a butch a couple of years ago that i warned straight up about this. i was really attracted to hym. i really liked hym. we had a really good time together. i was considering relocating, even.

then one day hy picked a fight with me thru text message (!) and when it didn't go hys way hy texted me that maybe i should just go find someone else if i wasn't going to act right (!)

hy never heard from me again.

[Rockinonahigh]

Oh yes I get ya'll on the hollering,tickleing and belittling ...one more thing to add..dont ever grab me in anger and threatin me..not cool..u will not win...u will be out the door ina flash.

[Julie]

To be naked ~ Body and Soul
Is a most vulnerable place
Do Not turn your back and walk away
I will never forget that hurt ~ nor will I let it go

[foxyshaman]

Dont start a deep conversation, or try to sort out an issue, when I am on my way to bed. Or when I am in bed. If you want to talk to me, do it when i am awake.

[bright_arrow]

Don't push me when I'm irritated at you. I like to think I'm very laid back, it takes a bit to set me off, and I don't want to be annoyed/angry with you. It takes a lot more for me to get over being angry with you than if I am just irritated. Besides, I will get snippy. There's a side of me you shouldn't have to ever see, and if you do, not directed at you!

[bright_arrow]

Don't tell me you don't deserve me. You do. I am not perfect, I have flaws. How do you not deserve someone who will care about you and love you? Everyone deserves that.

Don't get snippy with me. You might be in a bad mood or caught off guard but do NOT bite my head off. And do not use profanity aimed towards me or something I may have done. I get defensive and the last thing I want to do is be around you because now I feel like worthless.