Gender Fluidity

[AtLast]

Originally Posted by Metropolis

Hey Atlast, I think... I may have to make a clarification b/c what I highlighted there feels a bit off like it maybe could be misread as to what I'd said earlier.

My choice that butch wasn't the best fit for me was more a personal thing and doesn't rest solely on my gender fluidity as I kind of explained in my last post. I know you're speaking for yourself and what you meant but just want to keep clear on my personal perspective. No offense I hope...

Peace,
Metro

No offense at all taken! I see where you have carved your personal expansive niche. Clarification is always a good thing. Actually, it is the expansiveness that interests me, but, probably in my own manner.

Hummmm... I might need to clarify some things, too- my earlier post(s) were not mean't as negative. I have a deep appreciation of butch history/herstory and feel honored to have found this community. There have been quite a few people (on and off-line) that have enriched my life from here. The social network of B-F folks here is very active and commited to our community. That has been invaluable to me. Due to some physical restraints, I can't participate as much as I used to and like everyone, particular sub-groups become one's comfort zone. LOL, especially when you have less time and umph to participate!

I have just never been someone that fit into anything constraining. Not a good rule follower when I think about it. Never would have made it in the military. Nor would I ever have been good at being something like an accountant with strict protocols to follow. Just not in me. So, for me, trying to fit neatly into one specific identity doesn't work. This comes with its own set of stressors and at times, conflict. I don't have any negative judgements of others being able to do this at all. In fact, differences among us is one of my favorite aspects of the B-F dynamic and community. I know we can have our spats, etc., but, when I look at the diversity around me, I feel joy. At times, I do feel like I may not fit in, but, I think we all go through this at times. It has been hard to be the masculine female I am (butch as it applies to me in many ways). But, I know this is home, too. I also have always felt a bit out of step with every population/community I have ever explored. so, I think this is about me, not this community.