Open Letter: Dear Femme

[Arwen]

Originally Posted by apretty

i bolded this portion because it was something that i was going to speak to on the 'exlusion' thread: femmes who defer to all things "butch", those that aggressively hand over their power as if subjugating herself were an art form (newsflash: that's totally weird).

I think it may be weird if it is not a known TPE (Total Power Exchange) relationship. I've been in those (with bio males and butches). Giving up the power is freeing on one hand but there is a loss of self if you and your Dominant are not careful.

I've seen some seriously kick-ass strong femmes in these relationships. They are not doormats. As someone else said (Snow?) those submissives were some of the strongest women I've ever known.

And I have also seen what the negative side of that turns people into--grasping, clinging, whining, can't make a decision to pee or poop by themselves. It's ugly. And there's no saving those types from themselves. They will keep going back to that type of relationship until they wise up and grow the spine necessary.

I know. I used to be one.