The Loft: Butches and Femmes in their 40s, 50s and over.

[sylvie]

Originally Posted by Kobi

I have noticed single, older people on a few threads talking about the kind of relationships they prefer at this stage of life and why they are seeking a particular type of thing i.e. long distance vs local, live-in vs not, hot/steamy vs companionship, commitment vs dating etc. I'm wondering what single folks in this thread are thinking/looking/hoping for in their next relationship and why, if they care to share that.

you know.. i don't know what i really want anymore.. i do know someday i want commitment, and i do know from now on, it will be friendship first.. i need to someone as much as i want them to know me, to see if there is compatibility .. i'm old school, i'm stone, i'm submissive, i'm many things that tie up into one unique girl - and it's difficult to find someone who respects & appreciates those things about me - so no more seeking.. at this point it's just about continuing on my journey of self & meeting new friends and getting myself back out there.. and then, what happens, happens..

as for long distance vs local.. i've done LDR and it's difficult.. but not impossible, if there is a chance of 'together physically' at some point in time..and the feelings and connection were there, i'd be open to LDR again.. but with some meetings and real time.. i couldn't do LDR permanently, i need interaction..

hot/steamy vs companionship.. i want companionship.. with a big order of hot & steamy all tied into one.. *s* i yearn for someone who'll not only be my love, my protector & partner but.. someone who'll also be my best friend.. i love to laugh, i love to know i've someone i can always count on.. i love passion, i love randomness, i love the unexpected ..

lastly - i'm a very laid back kind of girl - and its' not that i don't care.. i'm just not one to pry, i build a trust with friendship and once that trust is there, i am always 'there' but willing to give needed space ..

for a gal who said i didnt know what i want, i guess i do know some.. funny how that happens, lol.. ♥ anyway, great question!