The Loft: Butches and Femmes in their 40s, 50s and over.

[sylvie]

Originally Posted by Kobi

I have noticed single, older people on a few threads talking about the kind of relationships they prefer at this stage of life and why they are seeking a particular type of thing i.e. long distance vs local, live-in vs not, hot/steamy vs companionship, commitment vs dating etc. I'm wondering what single folks in this thread are thinking/looking/hoping for in their next relationship and why, if they care to share that.

you know.. i don't know what i really want anymore.. i do know someday i want commitment, and i do know from now on, it will be friendship first.. i need to someone as much as i want them to know me, to see if there is compatibility .. i'm old school, i'm stone, i'm submissive, i'm many things that tie up into one unique girl - and it's difficult to find someone who respects & appreciates those things about me - so no more seeking.. at this point it's just about continuing on my journey of self & meeting new friends and getting myself back out there.. and then, what happens, happens..

as for long distance vs local.. i've done LDR and it's difficult.. but not impossible, if there is a chance of 'together physically' at some point in time..and the feelings and connection were there, i'd be open to LDR again.. but with some meetings and real time.. i couldn't do LDR permanently, i need interaction..

hot/steamy vs companionship.. i want companionship.. with a big order of hot & steamy all tied into one.. *s* i yearn for someone who'll not only be my love, my protector & partner but.. someone who'll also be my best friend.. i love to laugh, i love to know i've someone i can always count on.. i love passion, i love randomness, i love the unexpected ..

lastly - i'm a very laid back kind of girl - and its' not that i don't care.. i'm just not one to pry, i build a trust with friendship and once that trust is there, i am always 'there' but willing to give needed space ..

for a gal who said i didnt know what i want, i guess i do know some.. funny how that happens, lol.. ♥ anyway, great question!

[cuddlyfemme]

Originally Posted by sylvie

i'm old school, i'm stone, i'm submissive,

You just totally described me. I think being Stone makes finding that special Butch even harder...i've been giving this alot of thought

[cuddlyfemme]

Good morning everyone. Happy Friday!!! *sets out coffee, tea and pasteries*

[Jet]

Some good news today. I am going to have an MRI done on my shoulder. I found a doc in my network and co-pay is do-able. It's going on 4 weeks and I can't engage my shoulder so its pretty much halted my activities. This is a load off my mind.

[LipstickLola]

Originally Posted by Jet

Some good news today. I am going to have an MRI done on my shoulder. I found a doc in my network and co-pay is do-able. It's going on 4 weeks and I can't engage my shoulder so its pretty much halted my activities. This is a load off my mind.

I'm really glad you get to have this done!! Do you suspect a rota tor cuff tear? those are soooooo painful, treatable but ouch

[Jet]

he thinks its a tear, but he's not sure where or how bad. I just have to get it cleared up so the MRI will be a big help

[lipstixgal]

Originally Posted by Jet

he thinks its a tear, but he's not sure where or how bad. I just have to get it cleared up so the MRI will be a big help

Good luck with the MRI

Hola lofters!! Just relaxing after long week at internship Tuesday and Thursday are the worst days they are the busiest!! but good and I like it wish I could get a job there!! Will get reference though I think, want to be a nurse but later on!! Hope everyone is having a good evening so far!!

[DomnNC]

Originally Posted by Jet

he thinks its a tear, but he's not sure where or how bad. I just have to get it cleared up so the MRI will be a big help

I hope the MRI shows your Dr what needs to be done and you can get it done and mend quickly. Pain is a pain in the butt! Good Luck!!