A Blast From The Past:

[Jaques]

Originally Posted by June

Hi, Kats --

This is a fun idea for a thread, but as a member, and a feminist and a Femme, I find the term "scream like a little girl" pretty offensive, as though 1) Only little girls scream and 2) Butches aren't allowed to be scared because being scared is only for little girls.

Sometimes, I still get scared. And sometimes, I even scream (Usually during Zombie movies). I get what you're trying to say, even though I don't agree with it. Butches can scream too, as can FTM's. Being more masculine doesn't necessarily make you braver or less likely to experience fear, and it's a shame to perpetuate this.

I realize that we can't see facial expressions or hear voice tone, so I want to tell you that I am coming from a place of friendly concern, and my voice is not strident. I am really enjoying getting to know you here on the forums and look forward to someday meeting you! I just think it's important to speak out when stereotypes are present.

--June

......I feel this is also the way we have been programmed from young, some women like a guy to be tough and strong and her tarzan, but in reality, it puts a lot of pressure of a bloke, butches f2m's included in this.
I found before i took testosterone, i could cry easily but in all honesty now find it more difficult, even though i feel like it at times, i dont believe its in my head either, testosterone has changed me somewhat, but i can only speak from personal experience. I actually do find it hard now to cry and show as much emotion.
A guy once told me his father beat him at the age of 5 for crying and said "men dont cry" - it was a long time ago, during the war - he's dead now, but i think in those days and even now to an extent, men thought it was their duty to bring their sons up tough and to look after themselves and their families - rather primitive way of thinking but understandable and of course its still going on.................