How to tell if she's into you...

DapperButch · 02-28-2011, 06:24 PM

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Originally Posted by Jax

Good Thread! I am new and just dipping in and jumping out trying to get used to the temp on the planet..Please bare with... She is into you if'?..? You cant go to the bathroom alone on your first date..

I would say if she wouldn't let me go to the bathroom alone that is scary weird!

Jax · 02-28-2011, 06:41 PM

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Originally Posted by DapperButch

I would say if she wouldn't let me go to the bathroom alone that is scary weird!

Ha Yes it was very scary..and thats why Jax never knows until its on me!!

LeftWriteFemme · 02-28-2011, 06:51 PM

If she is in your bed..........she might be interested in you

proximitywithoutintimacy · 02-28-2011, 07:00 PM

Haha, thanks!

Well, it's a really funny story how it happened, but to sum up? My good friend, who is her good friend... told me to "go for it."

Only, this girl I like... doesn't know I'm friends with her friend. Did that make any sense?

I've heard that if she gives her number, instead of asking for yours, it's a good sign she's interested... I guess I'm just nervous because she's pretty much one of the most gorgeous girls I've ever met. Mhm.

She asked for my FB, first, though... is that normal these days?

Gayla · 02-28-2011, 07:07 PM

I'm probably not the best authority on what folks do these days but I would that her asking you for any kind of contact info is a good sign.

Set the nerves aside, breath, and call her!

And then come back and tell us what happens!

Julie · 02-28-2011, 07:09 PM

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Originally Posted by proximitywithoutintimacy

She asked for my FB, first, though... is that normal these days?

Facebook Breakups are HORRID (so I have been told)
Don't give her your FB name.

Kobi · 02-28-2011, 07:20 PM

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Originally Posted by InfiniteFemme

Facebook Breakups are HORRID (so I have been told)
Don't give her your FB name.

Geez Julie she hasnt had a date yet and you already got her worrying about nasty FB breakups.

Prox....call her, ask her out. Saves a lot of time and energy.

Let us perves know how it goes. Photos are optional.

Julie · 02-28-2011, 07:21 PM

Well, I was just doing the right thing and giving a girl the heads up!
Sheeesh!!!

justpjhere · 03-01-2011, 07:10 PM

id say when she shows up at in the morning on your day off with your favorite coffee and said i thought you might like coffee...lol

Koffeelvr · 08-11-2013, 12:52 PM

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Originally Posted by justpjhere

id say when she shows up at in the morning on your day off with your favorite coffee and said i thought you might like coffee...lol

If someone did this for me, I would be grinning all day long.

EmJay · 08-11-2013, 02:32 PM

It really sucks when you get all the right words.. But your left waiting for the actions to follow. Especially because all those perfect words make you want those actions so badly. *Heart is working hard to mend and try and move past this situation right now*

If you think telling a girl you are in to her, care for her, love her.. is the right thing to do, because you think that's what she wants to hear.. You are wrong. You just mess with our mind, and our heart.. And it hurts more in the end than just being straight up and saying your not for me.

^^^ that is what makes it sooo damn hard to tell if someone is really in to you or not.. Took me time to figure it out, longer than I would have hoped for.. But at least I get it now. Maybe it's not even that it is hard to tell.. Maybe sometimes you know it, but you just don't want to accept the truth.

homoe · 12-23-2018, 11:59 PM

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Originally Posted by justpjhere

id say when she shows up at in the morning on your day off with your favorite coffee and said i thought you might like coffee...lol

If this happens and you're not sure if she's into you, you're beyond a 2 x 4 !

Bèsame* · 12-24-2018, 08:37 AM

when she flies across many states to kiss you💋💋

Esme nha Maire · 12-24-2018, 08:47 AM

If anyone figures out how to tell if someone is really into you, please let me know! I am TERRIBLE at telling such things, unless a person is really obvious about it.. On one occasion, someone was trying to chat me up for a solid half hour before my then partner rescued me - she and her friend had been having bets as to how long it'd take before I twigged!

MysticOceansFL · 03-01-2011, 07:41 PM

If you've been talking with the same person for awhile and are friends and she "on her own actions gives you her number an says give me a call" thats a sure sign for sure.

flower77 · 07-25-2011, 03:34 PM

Um.. if I was into you I'd probably go dumb.. you know.. cos all the blood leaves my brain! That is why it's good to meet someone who genuinely makes you laugh.. giggling is a clue (and she's not laughing at you, unless you are making a joke about yourself and you meant her too!) I listen alot. I smile. Take deep breaths. Make eyes. I can't beleive you don't know these things ;-) you cheeky ones ;-)

Sometimes I think I confuse women 'cos if they reached out to touch my arm then I'd be all nervous but that's not the same as making a cold face and stepping backward, which would be "not into you". Reading between the lines it's a compliment I'm all tense! If you know what I'm saying! Sexual tension!

So be careful to know the difference between excited/nervous and not interested/hostile. How she shows her interest in you isn't always blatantly obvious.. so.. There are some videos on YouTube I've recently watched, although straight, kind of give you some solid clues. Named something like How to tell if a girl/boy is into you.

I hope that helps.
F xx

Sassy · 08-11-2011, 06:42 PM

If she's into you, she'll find a way to make it known.

I'm the shy type. But after I met B, my sweetie today. I took some initiative, found out her name, stalked her on facebook until we exchanged emails. Took her to dinner and plied her with beer until she agreed to take me home

(OK, maybe I didn't have to push her to hard to take me home -- I'm cute dammit.) But you get the picture? Even us shy ones, if we see what we want, we'll find a way to make sure you know it.

Mr Nice Guy · 08-11-2011, 06:57 PM

I wouldn't know if someone was into me unless she said something.

Slater · 08-11-2011, 09:17 PM

I just assume she's not. I'm almost always right. Bah, humbug.

--Slater, who might not be in the best frame of mind to be commenting in a thread of this nature

VintageFemme · 08-11-2011, 10:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Sassy

If she's into you, she'll find a way to make it known.

I'm the shy type. But after I met B, my sweetie today. I took some initiative, found out her name, stalked her on facebook until we exchanged emails. Took her to dinner and plied her with beer until she agreed to take me home

(OK, maybe I didn't have to push her to hard to take me home -- I'm cute dammit.) But you get the picture? Even us shy ones, if we see what we want, we'll find a way to make sure you know it.

I love this, 'plied her with beer until she agreed to take me home' LoL so cute!

I totally agree though. If she's into you, you'll know it. If you don't know it, then she probably isn't.

02-28-2011, 06:51 PM	#3
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02-28-2011, 07:00 PM	#4
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02-28-2011, 07:07 PM	#5
Gayla Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Kinky Butch Top Preferred Pronoun?: I'm not picky Relationship Status: She makes me dance like a fool and forget how to breathe. Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: SF CA Posts: 3,229 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 877 Thanked 7,077 Times in 1,966 Posts Rep Power: 0	I'm probably not the best authority on what folks do these days but I would that her asking you for any kind of contact info is a good sign. Set the nerves aside, breath, and call her! And then come back and tell us what happens!

08-11-2013, 02:32 PM	#11
EmJay Member How Do You Identify?: femme Join Date: Nov 2012 Location: Canada Posts: 124 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 338 Thanked 447 Times in 96 Posts Rep Power: 3970857	It really sucks when you get all the right words.. But your left waiting for the actions to follow. Especially because all those perfect words make you want those actions so badly. Heart is working hard to mend and try and move past this situation right now If you think telling a girl you are in to her, care for her, love her.. is the right thing to do, because you think that's what she wants to hear.. You are wrong. You just mess with our mind, and our heart.. And it hurts more in the end than just being straight up and saying your not for me. ^^^ that is what makes it sooo damn hard to tell if someone is really in to you or not.. Took me time to figure it out, longer than I would have hoped for.. But at least I get it now. Maybe it's not even that it is hard to tell.. Maybe sometimes you know it, but you just don't want to accept the truth.

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07-25-2011, 03:34 PM	#16
flower77 Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: Ms Relationship Status: Single pringle Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: UK (South) Posts: 11 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 17 Thanked 27 Times in 9 Posts Rep Power: 238401	Um.. if I was into you I'd probably go dumb.. you know.. cos all the blood leaves my brain! That is why it's good to meet someone who genuinely makes you laugh.. giggling is a clue (and she's not laughing at you, unless you are making a joke about yourself and you meant her too!) I listen alot. I smile. Take deep breaths. Make eyes. I can't beleive you don't know these things ;-) you cheeky ones ;-) Sometimes I think I confuse women 'cos if they reached out to touch my arm then I'd be all nervous but that's not the same as making a cold face and stepping backward, which would be "not into you". Reading between the lines it's a compliment I'm all tense! If you know what I'm saying! Sexual tension! So be careful to know the difference between excited/nervous and not interested/hostile. How she shows her interest in you isn't always blatantly obvious.. so.. There are some videos on YouTube I've recently watched, although straight, kind of give you some solid clues. Named something like How to tell if a girl/boy is into you. I hope that helps. F xx

08-11-2011, 06:42 PM	#17
Sassy Member How Do You Identify?: Female Relationship Status: Together Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: In the sunshine Posts: 598 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 815 Thanked 1,929 Times in 460 Posts Rep Power: 19641164	If she's into you, she'll find a way to make it known. I'm the shy type. But after I met B, my sweetie today. I took some initiative, found out her name, stalked her on facebook until we exchanged emails. Took her to dinner and plied her with beer until she agreed to take me home (OK, maybe I didn't have to push her to hard to take me home -- I'm cute dammit.) But you get the picture? Even us shy ones, if we see what we want, we'll find a way to make sure you know it.

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08-11-2011, 09:17 PM	#19
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