Big Girl Love

[ScandalAndy]

I'm responding to this hella late, as usual, but the bolded bit below (alliteration, hehehe) really speaks to me. I find that because of my weight I am often immediately placed in the 'friend zone' when meeting potential partners. I also feel like most people don't look at big people as "sexual people", like we're some sort of anatomically devoid dolls that don't think about or have sex, because that's too gross or something. It bugs me, a lot.

Originally Posted by Miss Scarlett

Yes!

Actually what I say is "Kiss my big, fat, fuzzy, lesbian a$$!" Well, now I say saggy instead of fat. But you get the idea.

Princess, I don't understand what the heck they were expecting if you sent them accurate pics...some people are just plain wierd.

Equally annoying are the people who don't want overweight friends.

Or the ones that do - so they feel better about themselves. My former employer actually felt threatened by my weight loss! She equates a person's value to their weight. If I saw a mutual acquaintance and mentioned it to her her first question was about their weight. This included a friend who was recovering from breast cancer. She's very wrapped up in herself. For example - I had lost over 60 lbs and she did not notice until someone brought it to her attention. Then she came to me and said "Someone told me you lost over 60 lbs. Is that true?" I stood up and she nearly fell over.

Do you find that your weight makes you invisible to some people?