Big Girl Love

ScandalAndy · 07-06-2011, 08:42 PM

I'm responding to this hella late, as usual, but the bolded bit below (alliteration, hehehe) really speaks to me. I find that because of my weight I am often immediately placed in the 'friend zone' when meeting potential partners. I also feel like most people don't look at big people as "sexual people", like we're some sort of anatomically devoid dolls that don't think about or have sex, because that's too gross or something. It bugs me, a lot.

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Originally Posted by Miss Scarlett

Yes!

Actually what I say is "Kiss my big, fat, fuzzy, lesbian a$$!" Well, now I say saggy instead of fat. But you get the idea.

Princess, I don't understand what the heck they were expecting if you sent them accurate pics...some people are just plain wierd.

Equally annoying are the people who don't want overweight friends.

Or the ones that do - so they feel better about themselves. My former employer actually felt threatened by my weight loss! She equates a person's value to their weight. If I saw a mutual acquaintance and mentioned it to her her first question was about their weight. This included a friend who was recovering from breast cancer. She's very wrapped up in herself. For example - I had lost over 60 lbs and she did not notice until someone brought it to her attention. Then she came to me and said "Someone told me you lost over 60 lbs. Is that true?" I stood up and she nearly fell over.

Do you find that your weight makes you invisible to some people?

Electrocell · 07-06-2011, 08:46 PM

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Originally Posted by ScandalAndy

I'm responding to this hella late, as usual, but the bolded bit below (alliteration, hehehe) really speaks to me. I find that because of my weight I am often immediately placed in the 'friend zone' when meeting potential partners. I also feel like most people don't look at big people as "sexual people", like we're some sort of anatomically devoid dolls that don't think about or have sex, because that's too gross or something. It bugs me, a lot.

Big people are ususally more sensuous and sexual from my experience.

dixie · 07-06-2011, 09:06 PM

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Originally Posted by ScandalAndy

I'm responding to this hella late, as usual, but the bolded bit below (alliteration, hehehe) really speaks to me. I find that because of my weight I am often immediately placed in the 'friend zone' when meeting potential partners. I also feel like most people don't look at big people as "sexual people", like we're some sort of anatomically devoid dolls that don't think about or have sex, because that's too gross or something. It bugs me, a lot.

Agreed. Ha! If they only knew how well we can rock their world! lol

Actually, from my experience, I haven't really had an issue for the most part. Usually, if they have an issue, they aren't someone I would want to date anyway. Hell, even when I was skinny I wasn't skinny. I'm a thick girl, always have been. Yeah, I'd like to be a lil smaller than I am now, but I don't EVER wanna lose my curves.

Electrocell · 07-07-2011, 06:33 PM

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Originally Posted by dixielady

Agreed. Ha! If they only knew how well we can rock their world! lol

Actually, from my experience, I haven't really had an issue for the most part. Usually, if they have an issue, they aren't someone I would want to date anyway. Hell, even when I was skinny I wasn't skinny. I'm a thick girl, always have been. Yeah, I'd like to be a lil smaller than I am now, but I don't EVER wanna lose my curves.

Curves is always good

.Agree would like to lose a few more pounds myself.

ScandalAndy · 07-11-2011, 10:37 AM

So femmes, where do you shop? Are there any particular styles you feel are complimentary to your curves?

For everyone: what's your favorite thing to wear that makes you feel amazing about yourself?

Electrocell · 11-03-2011, 02:17 AM

Bumping this thread

smouldering · 11-03-2011, 05:51 AM

Good morning to all

I hope everyone is having a good Thursday morning so far, this whole thread has made me smile, I am a full figured curvy girl and although i try to be confident, i have those days where i just feel unattractive, sure i get compliments about being cute, beautiful etc.. and i appreciate that more then you know, but sometimes it is hard to ignore those that say.. you have a pretty face.. BUT or you would be so beautiful if you would lose weight ugh.. i hate that lol..
The older i get the more i've adapted the attitude of if you don't like me for me, curves and all then i have no time for you

.. i am pretty awesome once you get to know me *grins*

Scorp · 11-03-2011, 06:30 AM

Hi,

All I know is that I LOVE women of all sizes, especially voluptuous women. Nothing but pure yumminess.

My honey was having some body issues one day moreso than the norm and not feeling too good about herself. Something she's struggled with for a very long time. Honestly, I love her no matter what size she and she's gorgeous inside and out is and this is a fact.

Unfortunately we live in a society who passes judgement on women, especially big beautiful women and it sucks.

Therefore, I would like to share my story with all you beautiful ladies:

I was actually at my massage spa and waiting for my appt. On the table were some books and this one caught my eye because it had a cute cover with a pig on it. It was called "The Pig of Happiness". I started flipping through the pages and while doing so came to the following pages and I found this to be endearing and beautiful in a cute but meaningful way. I took my cell phone and snapped a picture of it and sent it to my honey just to let her know I love her and her body no matter what.

I think you're all beautiful and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

Lastly, to my precious, gorgeous wife: You are sexy, and yummy and I'm one lucky bastid

No need for me to say anything else. This speaks for itself.

Electrocell · 11-04-2011, 03:09 AM

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Originally Posted by smouldering

Good morning to all

I hope everyone is having a good Thursday morning so far, this whole thread has made me smile, I am a full figured curvy girl and although i try to be confident, i have those days where i just feel unattractive, sure i get compliments about being cute, beautiful etc.. and i appreciate that more then you know, but sometimes it is hard to ignore those that say.. you have a pretty face.. BUT or you would be so beautiful if you would lose weight ugh.. i hate that lol..
The older i get the more i've adapted the attitude of if you don't like me for me, curves and all then i have no time for you

.. i am pretty awesome once you get to know me *grins*

Good for you.

07-11-2011, 10:37 AM	#5
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smouldering Member How Do You Identify?: Punky girly girl, glittery femme Preferred Pronoun?: she, her, etc. Relationship Status: Single, Recovering Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Ohio Posts: 1,288 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,306 Thanked 3,974 Times in 924 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	Good morning to all I hope everyone is having a good Thursday morning so far, this whole thread has made me smile, I am a full figured curvy girl and although i try to be confident, i have those days where i just feel unattractive, sure i get compliments about being cute, beautiful etc.. and i appreciate that more then you know, but sometimes it is hard to ignore those that say.. you have a pretty face.. BUT or you would be so beautiful if you would lose weight ugh.. i hate that lol.. The older i get the more i've adapted the attitude of if you don't like me for me, curves and all then i have no time for you .. i am pretty awesome once you get to know me grins __________________ ~~Smouldering~~ Suit the action to the word, the word to the action. ~William Shakespeare

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11-03-2011, 06:30 AM	#8
Scorp Italian Stallion How Do You Identify?: DNA Usually... Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: In a van, down by the river.. Posts: 2,702 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,557 Thanked 4,713 Times in 1,263 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Hi, All I know is that I LOVE women of all sizes, especially voluptuous women. Nothing but pure yumminess. My honey was having some body issues one day moreso than the norm and not feeling too good about herself. Something she's struggled with for a very long time. Honestly, I love her no matter what size she and she's gorgeous inside and out is and this is a fact. Unfortunately we live in a society who passes judgement on women, especially big beautiful women and it sucks. Therefore, I would like to share my story with all you beautiful ladies: I was actually at my massage spa and waiting for my appt. On the table were some books and this one caught my eye because it had a cute cover with a pig on it. It was called "The Pig of Happiness". I started flipping through the pages and while doing so came to the following pages and I found this to be endearing and beautiful in a cute but meaningful way. I took my cell phone and snapped a picture of it and sent it to my honey just to let her know I love her and her body no matter what. I think you're all beautiful and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Lastly, to my precious, gorgeous wife: You are sexy, and yummy and I'm one lucky bastid No need for me to say anything else. This speaks for itself.