Letting Go Of Friendships

Arwen · 12-02-2011, 11:16 AM

On the topic of letting go or hanging on, there was a post on Oprah.com today.

What do y'all think of this?

http://www.oprah.com/oprahs-lifeclas...to-Let-Go-Of_1

Vlasta · 12-02-2011, 11:32 AM

I cleaned my house of so called" friends" when I found out all the betrayal . I have very few friends now , but I am more happy . The relationships that I have are sincere not deceptive which I was so naive before to the point I was there for them financially , supportive and just being true friend .

A friends while they are giggling in your face and the same time they stab you in back have no place in my life .

Please go away if your only interest is you , jealousy and deception .

Ciaran · 12-02-2011, 12:46 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Arwen

On the topic of letting go or hanging on, there was a post on Oprah.com today.

What do y'all think of this?

http://www.oprah.com/oprahs-lifeclas...to-Let-Go-Of_1

I'm not an Oprah fan but I do strongly agree that there are often very good reasons for hanging on to things or people that may make us uncomfortable or uneasy or that we just don't like.

RockOn · 06-30-2012, 11:32 PM

Stumbled into here for the first time.

Arwen. I want to tell you "thanks" for the topic.

Kätzchen · 02-09-2026, 11:23 PM

I’ve taken steps, over the past few weeks, to put distance between myself and someone I’ve been friends with for over 30years. I can’t justify in my mind the stark difference between the two of us: she and her husband have been part of the community of people who stand by “t——p” and voted both times for that person. She is privy to parts of my private life that I’ve shared with her, but she truly does not understand how SA has largely shaped my life in ways that I still don’t have a vocabulary for.

I’m sad that I’ve spent years of commitment to our friendship. I just can’t justify being associated with her anymore. Her values collide with mine. And more importantly, it’s far better to not enjoy friendship with her anymore. I’ve struggled with being a friend to her when she’s not even a good friend to me. I’m not going to settle for less than I feel I deserve. And I deserve better than what has been given to me all these years we’ve known each other.

At least now, by exercising better choices, I’m giving myself a pat on the back for looking out for me and my mental health.

Stone-Butch · 02-12-2026, 11:40 PM

Betrayal is enough for me to dump a supposed friend. Other than that I do think that time and distance take their toll on about everyone. Friends, especially couples do separate and go different ways so sometimes it is difficult to keep in touch with one and not the other perhaps because of your own partner being friends with them. One of my best friends father died and she gave her whole self to the care of her mother, left the province and does not keep in touch with any of past gay friends, including me. It is hard to really know when you are not in touch for a while that perhaps the person is deceased or disabled and not wanting to be with old friends because of that. It is a shame to lose touch with friends but it happens and before you know it there is no longer any in touch with those you saw or spoke to all the time. Yes time, time moves on.

12-02-2011, 11:16 AM	#1
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12-02-2011, 11:32 AM	#2
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06-30-2012, 11:32 PM	#4
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