Single FTM's & Femme's

veryfemme · 12-29-2011, 02:53 AM

I know we are all single and looking for love but I am curious as to how many would actually relocate for a possible relationship? I moved for my recently failed relationship and I am looking to move back to my home area within a year to two years. Just a question I thought I'd throw out there.

Leigh · 12-29-2011, 03:46 PM

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Originally Posted by Library_girl

(Ditto to my friend Matthew......still single and still hoping!)

I've been away from the Planet for a few weeks so I had to drop in and say hello. Too much work, not enough time for myself.

ScandalAndy, I appreciate your post about loneliness, and I love Liam's suggestion. I struggle with loneliness too, sometimes, as I'm sure many of us do. I'm guessing lots of us nodded our heads as we read that post. The holiday season doesn't make it any easier, right? Since I don't have a partner to spoil with gifts, baking, other special holiday stuff, I just give all of that "holiday spirit" to my niece and nephew, my dad, my friends, my employees. And when it comes to just plain old loneliness, I try to focus on other things, like family, friends, pets, work, anything to keep the brain occupied. Liam's idea is much better, though! But when my time is short, I just have to keep my brain busy. There are times I just HATE being single. Sure, there are a few good things about being single, and I even have married friends who envy my "freedom", and so on. (whatever!) I will happily trade in those little "advantages" any time, any day, no hesitation.

Ok, enough rambling!

(((((((((((Library)))))))))))) I miss talking to My friend, I hope you are doing well sweetie ......... lets chat again sometime

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Originally Posted by veryfemme

I know we are all single and looking for love but I am curious as to how many would actually relocate for a possible relationship? I moved for my recently failed relationship and I am looking to move back to my home area within a year to two years. Just a question I thought I'd throw out there.

I would definately consider moving for the right one. Right now I am registered for college and should graduate by the end of October 2012 so after that I am free to go where I want ~ this time would be perfect to get to know someone thus if I ever was to move I will know its right

spritzerJ · 12-29-2011, 09:28 PM

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Originally Posted by veryfemme

I know we are all single and looking for love but I am curious as to how many would actually relocate for a possible relationship? I moved for my recently failed relationship and I am looking to move back to my home area within a year to two years. Just a question I thought I'd throw out there.

I moved for a relationship that didn't work out. It was a spectacular fail. I don't think I'd relocate again. At least not the same way. I'd do it very differently if I could be convinced. I don't know if I will move back to my home area or not yet. We'll see.

kannon · 12-29-2011, 09:44 PM

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Originally Posted by veryfemme

I know we are all single and looking for love but I am curious as to how many would actually relocate for a possible relationship? I moved for my recently failed relationship and I am looking to move back to my home area within a year to two years. Just a question I thought I'd throw out there.

I moved to my current location for a relationship. Before I moved, I got a pretty good job here. Even though the relationship failed, I tried to make the most of it, and give the city a chance. Six years later, I still don't like this area, and I'm planning on moving, but I am accomplishing some stuff: I bought a house and I'm going to complete my masters. I think I've made lemonade out of lemons.

I would do it all over again for the right woman. However, the next time, I will be more selective.

sarahwho · 12-29-2011, 10:25 PM

Probably wouldn't move. My parent's are here, work, my son's academy......sigh....then again, some day down the road, I might change my mind....it's been known to happen.

ScandalAndy · 12-29-2011, 10:26 PM

I've done it with disastrous consequences, but I would probably do it again after taking my sweet time making sure the person I'm considering doing it for would absolutely do the same for me. It's a respect thing.

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Originally Posted by veryfemme

I know we are all single and looking for love but I am curious as to how many would actually relocate for a possible relationship? I moved for my recently failed relationship and I am looking to move back to my home area within a year to two years. Just a question I thought I'd throw out there.

atomiczombie · 12-30-2011, 12:23 AM

I can't move because I need to be close to my daughter. And my parents are elderly and need my help a lot too.

VintageFemme · 12-30-2011, 10:56 AM

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Originally Posted by veryfemme

I know we are all single and looking for love but I am curious as to how many would actually relocate for a possible relationship? I moved for my recently failed relationship and I am looking to move back to my home area within a year to two years. Just a question I thought I'd throw out there.

I did it once with disastrous results but then there were some very extreme circumstances that surrounded and led up to that relocation. Would I do it again? I don't know. I'm very rooted where I live but then I have done a lot less for love so, yeah I probably would .... if it were the right thing to do. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

Julien · 12-30-2011, 11:07 AM

Would I move for a love relationship? I think I would if the circumstances were just right for me and her. Especially the job front. I think it would put undue burdens on the relationship if one of the couple has no job prospects. Am I being too realistic not a romantic? The question is how do we know when the circumstances are right? A lot of honest communication and visits. A bit of a reality check along with the romance of the relationship, that is where honesty comes in. I can dream can't I?

veryfemme · 12-30-2011, 11:39 AM

I think the job aspect is extremely important. I was lucky when I moved for someone I got an awesome job and that is what has kept me where I am, if not for the job I know for sure I would have moved back to be closer to my family. I guess the move question is the hardest of them all.

QueenofSmirks · 12-30-2011, 11:53 AM

I think the much bigger question is "What would it take for you to move?" The moving itself seems inconsequential if you have a great job lined up, you've spent every other weekend together for a year, and a continuous week twice in the last six months, and you're compatible, in love and the planets are aligned.

However, that rarely seems to be the case, and I'm continuously astonished at how quickly people move out of state for someone they've only spent a few days with real time. Yes, there are phone calls every day and tons of time online, but it boils down to a few days in real time, and that just isn't long enough to get to know someone, in my opinion. I think there are definitely success stories, but I also believe there was a lot of luck involved there, because again, how can you really make a truly informed and intelligent decision on whether to live with someone if you've only spent 10 or 20 or even 30 days of face-to-face time with them? I'm definitely not old fashioned - I'm just cautious. I'm also not someone who needs to be with someone; I'm perfectly happy being single, or just dating, so there is no driving force for me to want to live with someone, and the older I get, the more I appreciate my own space and don't want to live with anyone. Less fuss that way

Leigh · 12-30-2011, 11:55 AM

Just wanted to come in & say hello to everyone

veryfemme · 12-30-2011, 12:11 PM

Hiiii

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Just wanted to come in & say hello to everyone

sarahwho · 01-01-2012, 07:42 PM

Happy New Year to all!

VintageFemme · 01-02-2012, 10:59 AM

Happy New Year Everyone ♥ !!!

ScandalAndy · 01-05-2012, 10:01 AM

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!! Let's get with the excellent newness!

Leigh · 01-09-2012, 12:40 PM

Hey everyone, just came in to wish all of My friends and fellow singles a fantastic 2012 :-)

**waves hello to veryfemme**

TenderKnight · 05-02-2012, 12:57 PM

Hello, all

I have been away from this site for well over a year now, but thought I would swing on by and see what was happening.. Some may remember me and some may not, lol

I will refrain from posting a full out personal ad, but I am looking to date some folks.. Not really looking to move in with someone or move across country, lol.. But if you and I happen to be in the same area at the same time, coffee and conversation never hurt anyone, has it?

I see this thread has been a lil slow lately, but i will keep my eyes open

-Tony

12-29-2011, 10:25 PM	#5
sarahwho Member How Do You Identify?: lonely femme.... Preferred Pronoun?: her/she Relationship Status: single - I quit Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Ohio Posts: 232 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 80 Thanked 152 Times in 69 Posts Rep Power: 2722346	Probably wouldn't move. My parent's are here, work, my son's academy......sigh....then again, some day down the road, I might change my mind....it's been known to happen. __________________ You will find a girl prettier than me, smarter than me, and funnier than me, but you will never find a girl just like me.

12-30-2011, 12:23 AM	#7
atomiczombie Member How Do You Identify?: Femmesensual Transguy Preferred Pronoun?: He, Him, His Relationship Status: Dating Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Rio Vista, CA Posts: 1,225 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,949 Thanked 3,220 Times in 759 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	I can't move because I need to be close to my daughter. And my parents are elderly and need my help a lot too. __________________ http://i277.photobucket.com/albums/k...orums_2000.gif Russian Unicorn http://occupiedmedia.us/

12-30-2011, 11:07 AM	#9
Julien Member How Do You Identify?: TG/GenderQueer Preferred Pronoun?: I'm flexible, but only up to a point. Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Alabama, Gulf Coast area Posts: 1,007 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,247 Thanked 2,702 Times in 737 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Would I move for a love relationship? I think I would if the circumstances were just right for me and her. Especially the job front. I think it would put undue burdens on the relationship if one of the couple has no job prospects. Am I being too realistic not a romantic? The question is how do we know when the circumstances are right? A lot of honest communication and visits. A bit of a reality check along with the romance of the relationship, that is where honesty comes in. I can dream can't I? __________________ Julien “Self-plagiarism is style.” Alfred Hitchcock Formerly known as Graphiteta2s

12-30-2011, 11:53 AM	#11
QueenofSmirks Member How Do You Identify?: Just Me Preferred Pronoun?: she/her Relationship Status: Busy Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Phoenix - Valley of the Sun Posts: 1,429 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,010 Thanked 2,916 Times in 880 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I think the much bigger question is "What would it take for you to move?" The moving itself seems inconsequential if you have a great job lined up, you've spent every other weekend together for a year, and a continuous week twice in the last six months, and you're compatible, in love and the planets are aligned. However, that rarely seems to be the case, and I'm continuously astonished at how quickly people move out of state for someone they've only spent a few days with real time. Yes, there are phone calls every day and tons of time online, but it boils down to a few days in real time, and that just isn't long enough to get to know someone, in my opinion. I think there are definitely success stories, but I also believe there was a lot of luck involved there, because again, how can you really make a truly informed and intelligent decision on whether to live with someone if you've only spent 10 or 20 or even 30 days of face-to-face time with them? I'm definitely not old fashioned - I'm just cautious. I'm also not someone who needs to be with someone; I'm perfectly happy being single, or just dating, so there is no driving force for me to want to live with someone, and the older I get, the more I appreciate my own space and don't want to live with anyone. Less fuss that way __________________ Stephanie "There is only one success - to be able to spend your life in your own way." Christopher Morley

12-30-2011, 11:55 AM	#12
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12-29-2011, 02:53 AM	#1
veryfemme Junior Member How Do You Identify?: High Femme Preferred Pronoun?: femme/lady Relationship Status: Spoken For Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Florida Posts: 83 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 15 Thanked 227 Times in 41 Posts Rep Power: 3539930	I know we are all single and looking for love but I am curious as to how many would actually relocate for a possible relationship? I moved for my recently failed relationship and I am looking to move back to my home area within a year to two years. Just a question I thought I'd throw out there.

12-30-2011, 11:39 AM	#10
veryfemme Junior Member How Do You Identify?: High Femme Preferred Pronoun?: femme/lady Relationship Status: Spoken For Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Florida Posts: 83 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 15 Thanked 227 Times in 41 Posts Rep Power: 3539930	I think the job aspect is extremely important. I was lucky when I moved for someone I got an awesome job and that is what has kept me where I am, if not for the job I know for sure I would have moved back to be closer to my family. I guess the move question is the hardest of them all.

01-01-2012, 07:42 PM	#14
sarahwho Member How Do You Identify?: lonely femme.... Preferred Pronoun?: her/she Relationship Status: single - I quit Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Ohio Posts: 232 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 80 Thanked 152 Times in 69 Posts Rep Power: 2722346	Happy New Year to all! __________________ You will find a girl prettier than me, smarter than me, and funnier than me, but you will never find a girl just like me.

01-02-2012, 10:59 AM	#15
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01-05-2012, 10:01 AM	#16
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01-09-2012, 12:40 PM	#17
Leigh Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, etc Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Canada Posts: 7,767 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,029 Thanked 13,024 Times in 4,784 Posts Rep Power: 21474860	Hey everyone, just came in to wish all of My friends and fellow singles a fantastic 2012 :-) waves hello to veryfemme __________________ "When you fall off the wagon ... clutch the sides of it until you get a better grip!"

05-02-2012, 12:57 PM	#18
TenderKnight Member How Do You Identify?: Kinky Poly Transman Preferred Pronoun?: He Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Monroe, NC Posts: 551 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 773 Thanked 822 Times in 256 Posts Rep Power: 2402408	Hello, all I have been away from this site for well over a year now, but thought I would swing on by and see what was happening.. Some may remember me and some may not, lol I will refrain from posting a full out personal ad, but I am looking to date some folks.. Not really looking to move in with someone or move across country, lol.. But if you and I happen to be in the same area at the same time, coffee and conversation never hurt anyone, has it? I see this thread has been a lil slow lately, but i will keep my eyes open -Tony __________________ The beatings shall continue.. until moral improves..

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