Neurodiversity

[Bit]

Hey yanno what Jen, I don't use the automatic check-out. I figure I might save a cashier's job by insisting on having a person check my groceries out. Voila, less stress for me and I get to feel virtuous, too.

[Apocalipstic]

Originally Posted by Bit

Hey yanno what Jen, I don't use the automatic check-out. I figure I might save a cashier's job by insisting on having a person check my groceries out. Voila, less stress for me and I get to feel virtuous, too.

True! I like that I am saving someonme's job! Grin!

Does anyone else feel guilty for having to say no to social activities for weeks at a time?

[Andrew, Jr.]

Sometimes I have to have "space" from others. And this does mean I need to be away from others. It means no to night clubs, no to comedy clubs, no to dinners out, and so on and on. Sometimes I just enjoy being on my deck, grilling, and looking at the natural habitat behind my house, bird watching, doing word searches, smoking a cigar or two, or smoking my pipe. It is "me" time. Some get it, and some call me a bump on a log. But then again, they don't have my disorders. Until you walk in my shoes, don't tell me how to live my life or tell me what I should or should not be doing.

Jen,

Yes, my father is a huge control freak. That is his weapon. He used guilt and fear too.


Bit & Jen,

I cannot figure out the self-scan checkout things at all. I just keep getting a recording and the belt rolls back after I scan the item on the belt. It is beyond frustrating. And I do cause a line whenever I use this. Now, I have learned to have someone check me out. It is just much easier for me, and faster. Plus I am not 3 shades of red.

[Apocalipstic]

I have to have down time too. I love being home with Cynthia and our dogs and cats, it's the best.

Now that I don't drink like a fish the bar is more than I can stand, unless we go on an afternoon and I leave when the crowd starts to arrive.

Maybe if my job were not as social as it it, being around people the rest of the time would be easier?

Even at parties at our house, I get overwhelmed and try to escape to outside to chill, but people follow me. I need a better plan.

I do find that living in a city is better because it is anonymous and I am not expected to hang out with neighbors and no one cares what I do.

[violaine]

regarding the u-scan-

i'll have a lot of items and go through. people give me the stink eye.

took me a while to get the hang of it- coordination / speed. being rushed is not always so good for me.

i figure i owe it to myself now as it's my victory with the u-scan lane have a good laugh & a buggy full- try it.

oh. and hide inside of the circular garment racks too once in a while.

ox

[Liam]

I now check the circular garment racks to see if Violaine is in there....

I definitely need my solitude, I always have. If I don't take it, I know it will be a very frustrating day.

[christie]

Originally Posted by apocalipstic

I have to have down time too. I love being home with Cynthia and our dogs and cats, it's the best.

Now that I don't drink like a fish the bar is more than I can stand, unless we go on an afternoon and I leave when the crowd starts to arrive.

Maybe if my job were not as social as it it, being around people the rest of the time would be easier?

Even at parties at our house, I get overwhelmed and try to escape to outside to chill, but people follow me. I need a better plan.

I do find that living in a city is better because it is anonymous and I am not expected to hang out with neighbors and no one cares what I do.

If it makes any difference, I am becoming more people phobic than ever...

By the time Thursday afternoon rolls around, there is NOTHING I'd rather do than hop in the car, drive the four hours home and collapse with Jess and the critters.

There are weeks when I don't go out of the house from Thursday night till I leave on Monday asscrackofdawn.

I don't care what the expectation might be from the neighbors in our small town. They get too cozy and I WILL run that rainbow flag up next to the devil worshipping star! (its a joke)

I think that everyone should have that "recharge" time - neurodiverse or not

That being said, there must be a cup of coffee when we are in Nashvegas at the end of the month!

[Andrew, Jr.]

I think most people assume that others want to "talk" or to "socialize". There is something definitely off when it comes to that. I know I had a neighbor who used to sit and wait for me or Rosie to come home to socialize with us. It drove us nuts. We ended up moving. It was a welcome relief. She was a major pain in the butt. And I mean MAJOR. There is a time for everything, and she seemed to jump out just when it was not the right time.

[violaine]

http://www.suite101.com/article.cfm/autism_world/96900

jen, christie, and andrew-

i completely get you all with regard to lots of socialisation! lots of sneaking off stories, not answering the bell, avoiding events, et c.!!

liam, watch out

thought i'd post the face blindness article because i have experienced it a time or two.

best,
belle

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