Why lipstick lesbians have to keep coming out of the closet

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It took over a year for the lesbians to believe I was gay. Even while I was with my first girlfriend I still had doubters.

At the time it sucked but now, now I understand it. Lesbians are just like anyone, we all hate rejection. It's ok to say 'She left me because she wasn't into women and it's ok', but it's not ok. None of us are ever ok about being dumped. Yet so many non-lesbians walk into the lesbian community as women are so warm and welcoming and so understanding, only to walk out a few years later when they realise they love the company of women, not the sexuality.

I ''stole'' one of my exes from a girl, who we later found out had realised she was heterosexual while she was still with my friend. My friend couldn't face it but the rest of us knew. Did I feel bad about stealing her? Not really, especially when it came out later that she'd been having an affair with a boy behind my friends back. Did it make my friend feel better knowing that she'd moved on with someone else? Not really. She'd turned to me as she was feeling hurt, paranoid and rejected. To have all of that confirmed as a reality really stung. It's that kind of behaviour which makes gay women excessively cautious.

I'm not in the habit of stealing other peoples girlfriends btw, that was the one and only time.