Summertime Truth or Dare

[ferret]

Waiting for a truth from someone....

[*Anya*]

Originally Posted by ferret

Waiting for a truth from someone....

ferret,

1. What person during your life had the greatest impact on you, in a positive manner and why? (The period of time can be either short or long-it is the impact that matters, not the length of time).

2. The person that had the most negative impact and why?

Neither person needs to be named or identified specifically, unless you choose to do so.

Thank you.

[aishah]

i'll take another truth! still too chicken for a dare.

arkansaspiscesgrrl, i loved your "truth"! hehehehe

[ferret]

Originally Posted by *Anya*

ferret,

1. What person during your life had the greatest impact on you, in a positive manner and why? (The period of time can be either short or long-it is the impact that matters, not the length of time).

2. The person that had the most negative impact and why?

Neither person needs to be named or identified specifically, unless you choose to do so.

Thank you.

Even though my ex basically ruined our friendship recently, I'd have to say that she's the one person in my life that had a positive impact in me. She's a really peaceful, easy-going, laid-back person, and I think the years I've spent around her have taught me different ways of thinking and doing things, rather than responding to life in the same, old manner. She's certainly had a calming influence, and I think I've mellowed out in the past six years. I realize that I still have a long way to go, as my patience and my temper are things I continually struggle with.

On the flip side, I would say the person that has made a negative impact on me has been my father. I haven't spoken to him in 18 years by my choice. He's an alcoholic, has a hell of a temper when he's drinking (as far as I know, he still does), so I figure I'm better off without having that toxic influence in my life. Maybe part of the reason I'd rather keep people at a safe distance from me is because of him, and there's definitely some unresolved issues from my past. He never really had a good handle on his temper, either; I suppose there were certain things I picked up from him, as well as my brother. However, I never use my past as an excuse for how I am now.

That's way more honest than I planned on being in this post, but I suppose no one can never accuse me of not being honest.

Sue

[ferret]

aishah, here's a truth for you:

When have you loved someone who has not loved you back?

Sue

[aishah]

Originally Posted by ferret

aishah, here's a truth for you:

When have you loved someone who has not loved you back?

Sue

thanks, sue!

i have a bit of a talent for loving people who don't love me back. or being the one to fall really hard and not have it reciprocated. i've gotten better over the years about not expecting reciprocation and being careful about how much time/energy i invest in one-sided relationships, but i still love people and fall for people very easily.

my dad was probably the first person...it's possible that he did love me back and was just terrible at showing it, but he did some pretty horrible things to me and abandoned me and i kept putting myself out there. by the time he passed away, though, i'd started to learn a bit about boundaries, which has helped a lot in my other relationships.

when i first started college, i fell really hard for someone who was a few years ahead of me in the same field...we got to be great friends and there was a LOT of sexual tension. he was a huge player, though. and very dreamy (on a physical and intellectual level). we had really great chemistry. but he was not really interested in a relationship...and didn't have any feelings for me much beyond friendship/sexual chemistry. we did have mindblowing sex a couple of times...and i still have a soft spot in my heart for him. but we've both moved on.

[Nomad]

ok ok truth please.

[aishah]

Originally Posted by Nomad

ok ok truth please.

what's the most fun thing you've ever done?

(that doesn't look like proper grammar, but i'll go with it...you get the idea. haven't had my coffee yet, hehe!)