Butches/transguys as kids

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Originally Posted by Dance-with-me

and even her TG butch male-identified grandmother (my ex) all push her to wear girl things, which she'll do for a bit to please them until she can't take it any more and rips it off as if it's causing her physical pain. My ex scornfully declares that it's just a phase and that I'm pushing her/encouraging her too much, as if his own childhood pain from being forced into highly gendered clothes and roles didn't happen.

Seriously?! This is unreal.

Why is your ex so invested in this kid's gender conformity when they themselves are TG? How effed up is THAT?