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12-22-2012, 02:08 PM
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I met him in Junior High School. We shared some of the same girlfriends and boyfriends. (Don't laugh, it was the '70s.) After a period of nowhere to live, I moved in with him into his E. Village apartment. What misery! I got my own apartment sometime in the year before I graduated HS. Whew! She was a student in the women's Pagan study circle I taught. I couldn't get over her until I had an epiphany while watching the sun set over the Snake Mound in Ohio during the Harmonic Convergence. She was checking in the newcomers at a Pagan gathering. She was a Deacon in the Metropolitan Community Church. She demanded my attention at a post-Pride party attended by the Sirens, (women's motorcycle club), and our friends. We were the only women in the bar NOT high on ecstasy. After two years we were handfasted, (Pagan commitment ceremony), and lived together another six. She was drumming at a ceremony/party thrown by the above mentioned attention-getting ex. We lived together four years until she was struck by a truck while riding her motorcycle to work. She showed up at a Lesbian Sex Mafia meeting. She remembered me keenly from an early Sirens MC meeting, but I didn't remember her. She died of cancer nine months later. She's a member of our sister motorcycle club in Boston. Can I tell you how relieved I am that she didn't die?! Sadly, she and the first boyfriend are the only exes with whom I'm still friends.
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12-22-2012, 03:28 PM
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Met her in college. Friends told me she was crazy and also that she was obsessed with me. Her semi-stalking of me continued and then I kind of gave in with some degree of intrigue. Chaos ensued. Got back in contact years later and maintain a light friendship.
Met her at a Butch Femme Society Meeting. First self-identified butch. Lots of sparks. She wanted to be poly. I didn't at the time, wanted much more of a traditional fairytale. Met her through a BF personal ad. Answered her ad. Fell in love but wasn't truly happy, some issues that could not be resolved. Maintained friendship until she passed away. Met hym through the BF personals. One fateful day I introduced hym to a femme friend, "Hey, you have to meet X. She's a vegan massage therapist just like you except she's a femme!" They ran off with each other and are still together. I don't talk to either of them. I never even received a "thank you" card, let alone a large lump sum payment for my inadvertent, highly successful match-making. Met hym through the nyc BF community. Can't recall how. Hot sex with lots of arguing. Now we don't keep in contact but genuinely enjoy running into each other on the rare occasion. BB and I initially met on the dash site and were in contact but no hook up. Then we happened to meet at a friend's birthday party at a karoke dive bar in Chinatown, and the lust between us was immediate. We had a rocky first six months [insert drama that I take full responsibility for] and then I made a real commitment and neither of us have looked back since (been over seven years of being deeply in love and happy).
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12-22-2012, 03:43 PM
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I think this thread is marvelous.
She was on another softball team. I think we were 13. I pitched and whenever she was at bat I experienced sadistic and bittersweet glee if I happened to strike her out. She said she would kiss me if my team won. It was a glorious kiss. My connection to her was ephemeral but it was significant. I attended a girls' school. Dabbling was requisite. I met her at a reading when our eyes happened to meet even as we were both rolling our own. She was driving the tow truck that came to pick up my bike when I had a flat. We both grabbed the same taxi door handle in a downpour in NYC. I sent her a drink. She was nervous and splashed it a bit. A mutual friend introduced us. And was then petulant when we clicked. She was a beautiful stranger on the street and I asked her to marry me. It was a lovely six months. We met online. I sent her on a scavenger hunt for location clues to our first face to face meeting spot. |
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12-22-2012, 04:14 PM
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Interesting thread!
Met through being students together in college. Met as I was reading the bulletin board at the women's center in the city I was visiting. Met when I audited a women's study class at my alma mater (engineering students don't have the time for such things!) - she looked back at me, smiled one of the nicest smiles I've ever known, then offered me some candy. Met through mutual friends, and I was near-obsessed with her for months before she'd actually date me. Met through our involvement with a local lesbian organization and participation at one of their annual events. Met through butch-femme.com personals. And now.... who knows where my next love will appear. 
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12-22-2012, 05:06 PM
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How could I forget her. . .
The crazy Russian, met as prostitute 1 and 2 in a community theater production of Guys and Dolls. She goes between "dog boarding kennel" and "at a bar"
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12-22-2012, 05:29 PM
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Met him through bowling league, took him away from his wife and kids...my only real regret in life. I was 18 and we were together 4 years.
Met my ex-husband (daughters father) while at work....8 years Met my Wife on yahoo personals...10 years and going strong Dated a bit otherwise, but nothing major Last edited by MsTinkerbelly; 12-22-2012 at 05:32 PM. |
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12-22-2012, 06:12 PM
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fairly boring.....
Met in high school Met at the gay bar Met on dash site Met on fetlife Met on here Met on facebook |
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12-22-2012, 06:20 PM
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My first serious girlfriend I met while on a date with another woman. I left and she ran after me in her cowboy boots, right in front of my date and gave me her number. Needless to say I called.
The one I thought was the love of my life I met on planet out and she lived about an hour for me but we chatted online for several months before meeting. The rest were just ships passing in the night. I met online, at small events or through friends.
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12-22-2012, 10:17 PM
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Interesting list.... I'll play.
1993 - a bar..we had "run" into each other once years before as I was slipping out of her roommates room one morning.. 1995 - my first wife's funeral. ( That sounds bad. We met there but didn't date for a couple of years) 1997 - church 1997 - work 1997 - the bar 1997 - a party '97 was a phase of some kind  I was on the catch and release program but did have a few " special" friends" 1999 - work, recently split up ( as in some of her crap is still here). I was totally blindsided. 2010 - was re aquainted with an old flame. I was married so I behaved completely. Wife left, old flame is heating up albiet long distance and I'm interested to see what happens next. |
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12-28-2012, 01:30 PM
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let's go back 20...
i landed on her porch one day...
we met at an all night club... we met at work... we met at a football tryout... we met through football (different one)... we knew each other through mutual football friends (still yet a different one)... met at Apocs's... knew each other from football before (and was dating one of my football exes)... met at a bar... met at a bar (different bar/different girl)... met through mutual friends... (now we are engaged)
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what's a cowboy got to do to get a drink around here? 
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12-28-2012, 02:23 PM
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Interesting....
1995 -- first bf... Met at oldest brothers house 1996 -- met him at church 2001 -- met her at college 2002 -- a random pm sent to me from gay.com 2003 -- gay.com 2007 -- roommate of ex from 2002 and had been friends ever since 2007 -- above and I in LDR, him not wanting to rush it and scare me off... So I kept dating a girl from work. We remained friends after I ended it 2009 -- dash site 2012 -- it began with a pm and a revelation and a realization |
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12-28-2012, 05:43 PM
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To put it simply: If the internet didn't exist after I finished school, my love life would have been basically non-existent as well.
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09-02-2013, 02:23 PM
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We lived on the same street, my first gf [not serious, but was my best friend] had broken up with me out of the blue and I told her this.. turned out she was bi.. We were together for almost 4 years. I really thought we had everything planned out [who doesn't when you're 16?] and still to this day harbor resentment for her sleeping with her friend to see if she 'really loved me'. She has actually tried to come back around back I laid into her and now we don't ever talk
Met him in college, moved in with him. He is the straightest man I know with the gayiest tendencies. If you met him, you'd get it. First guy I ever slept with [my other BFF guy friend makes the second - was trying to figure out if I really was gay. It was a one time thing, and I came out after.] We are total BFF's though, and he is the one who told me I "need a Daddy" to keep me in line *snort* We used to talk a lot more than we do now, but occasionally we call each other about every month or so. Nothing is off limits, can talk about anything and everything. Stalker ex, met on MySpace. Met face-to-face at the local club, jumped in bed the next night, U-haul moved a few months later.. She had and has some serious control issues, left once, went back. We still talk, but she really likes to get under my skin and press every.single.button Met her at work - my first butch. Showed me it was o.k. to be me. Left my gf in no time for her. Got really hung up in her for a long time. I couldn't deal with the drug use though and was trying to get the guts to give her an ultimatum, because she was as hung up on me as I was her. She up and left one day. Five years and I still don't know what's happened or where she is. Lack of closure still eats at me. Though I more worry about her dead in a ditch somewhere, though her take flight is apparently a normal thing. Still waiting for the "Hey sugah" text to know that she is somewhere. Met him on the dash site. Dated for a year before I flew across the states to meet him. Found out some unfortunate information but wanted to try to make it work anyways. Had issues with job transfer, got a funny feeling..Called it off. Met her on the dash site, worked through a lot of baggage, moved in after a year and a half, engaged for a year and a half then we got married and simultaneously bought a house and here I am today! |
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09-03-2013, 02:08 AM
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ok I will give it a go...
met her in the army she floored me with her accent together broke up when she cheated on me the broke my nose back together a couple months later then 2 weeks after she was killed in a car wreck.. met her at a bar together 6 months till I came home and found her in bed with a friend of mine TWICE! met her at a bar together 2 years grew apart met her at the mall 4 years till she cheated met her at the gay bar in Philly I was a bouncer at 12 years and one child.. she wanted to change me soften me it became emotionally abuseve met her on the dash site LDR met in person twice till she found someone much richer and I found out she was a phony met HER ( my soulmate) on the dash site talked on and off finally I asked her out dated for 3 years then I wised up and married her the smartest thing I ever did she is my equal my partner and I can't even think not having her by my side OPPS I forgot My Ex Husband lol met him while walking to donate blood became freinds with my and the first GF married him one month to the day that the GF was killed in a accident soo did not work married 3 years most of that time seperated or he was stationed in Panama
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