My 13 year old told me she is a lesbian

chris1life · 05-17-2013, 11:36 AM

Thanks everyone! I realize she is still young enough that she may change her identity several times before she is grown. My wife and I have decided to just go with whatever she is trying out. Whether it be, gay, straight, or whatever gender she identifies as. Ha I do see my wife smiling With a lot of pride while my daughter is digging through makeup And her shoes. She finds it quite amusing that I may be raising a little femme. Especially while I stand there confused over eye liners and which lip sticks are the best. My daughter seems to be the mom sometimes telling me "mom don't worry I'm just me and my friends don't care." We are trying to b very open about life with her even though I squirm a little at her curiosity. Ha but that is just me being mom. And damn it she is still my baby *sigh* well I'd like for her to b anyway.
I will definitely keep ya posted looking forward and cringing over what is still to come!

Apocalipstic · 05-17-2013, 11:53 AM

I live in Tennessee and kids are so much better about things than they used to be. Even in the rural county in which I live there are several lesbians in high school who have been out since Jr. High.

candy_coated_bitch · 05-17-2013, 01:57 PM

It sounds like she has a good head on her shoulders, and a great mom to support her! And a femme role model, even LOL. I think the best you can do is what you said--let her be who she is and be there as much as you can. I know the negativity that's there around coming out can be intense, but she may have a different experience and be lucky, you know? Also, the kids always have to go out into the big wide world at some point. She can only grow from this.

peachy · 05-28-2013, 10:00 AM

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Originally Posted by chris1life

Thanks everyone! I realize she is still young enough that she may change her identity several times before she is grown. My wife and I have decided to just go with whatever she is trying out. Whether it be, gay, straight, or whatever gender she identifies as. Ha I do see my wife smiling With a lot of pride while my daughter is digging through makeup And her shoes. She finds it quite amusing that I may be raising a little femme. Especially while I stand there confused over eye liners and which lip sticks are the best. My daughter seems to be the mom sometimes telling me "mom don't worry I'm just me and my friends don't care." We are trying to b very open about life with her even though I squirm a little at her curiosity. Ha but that is just me being mom. And damn it she is still my baby *sigh* well I'd like for her to b anyway.
I will definitely keep ya posted looking forward and cringing over what is still to come!

...they'll always be our babies. I think if you love them and are always on their side - like you are doing - they will grow up able to take on the World...

GretaGable · 05-30-2013, 04:46 AM

Hey, you sound like a wonderful and very caring parent; much like my own mom, who wasn't remotely angry about my sexuality but also worried about what a tough life it would be for me. Remember this, though; a hetero life can be just as tough if not tougher. I had a few straight relationships when I was younger, some just to please my family and friends and others because I do seem to have a bit of attraction for beautiful, androgynous men. For every good memory I have of this time there's a lot of pain and heartbreak; relationships, whether you're dating a man, woman, boxed turtle, any living being (lol!), aren't easy, and neither is life in general--just make sure your daughter always had Momma's loving arms to run to, it makes all the difference.

Greta

chris1life · 05-30-2013, 03:56 PM

Hey everyone. Thanks for all of the support and kind words. She is doing rather well. She has a crush on a girl so we will see how this goes.

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Apocalipstic Pink Confection How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, Ma'am Relationship Status: Dating Myself Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Nashville Posts: 4,266 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 17,195 Thanked 11,360 Times in 2,838 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	I live in Tennessee and kids are so much better about things than they used to be. Even in the rural county in which I live there are several lesbians in high school who have been out since Jr. High. __________________

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GretaGable Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Xena femme Relationship Status: Single Join Date: May 2013 Location: Florida Posts: 16 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4 Thanked 56 Times in 14 Posts Rep Power: 1319531	Challenges Hey, you sound like a wonderful and very caring parent; much like my own mom, who wasn't remotely angry about my sexuality but also worried about what a tough life it would be for me. Remember this, though; a hetero life can be just as tough if not tougher. I had a few straight relationships when I was younger, some just to please my family and friends and others because I do seem to have a bit of attraction for beautiful, androgynous men. For every good memory I have of this time there's a lot of pain and heartbreak; relationships, whether you're dating a man, woman, boxed turtle, any living being (lol!), aren't easy, and neither is life in general--just make sure your daughter always had Momma's loving arms to run to, it makes all the difference. Greta

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05-17-2013, 11:36 AM	#1
chris1life Junior Member How Do You Identify?: butch Preferred Pronoun?: she, her, syr, he Join Date: May 2013 Location: US Posts: 84 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 90 Thanked 276 Times in 66 Posts Rep Power: 2169073	Thanks everyone! I realize she is still young enough that she may change her identity several times before she is grown. My wife and I have decided to just go with whatever she is trying out. Whether it be, gay, straight, or whatever gender she identifies as. Ha I do see my wife smiling With a lot of pride while my daughter is digging through makeup And her shoes. She finds it quite amusing that I may be raising a little femme. Especially while I stand there confused over eye liners and which lip sticks are the best. My daughter seems to be the mom sometimes telling me "mom don't worry I'm just me and my friends don't care." We are trying to b very open about life with her even though I squirm a little at her curiosity. Ha but that is just me being mom. And damn it she is still my baby sigh well I'd like for her to b anyway. I will definitely keep ya posted looking forward and cringing over what is still to come!

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candy_coated_bitch Pixie Stick How Do You Identify?: The arteest formerly known as musicfemme. Preferred Pronoun?: She. Relationship Status: Happily taken. Join Date: Aug 2012 Location: Northampton, MA Posts: 11,293 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 31,723 Thanked 31,819 Times in 6,109 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	It sounds like she has a good head on her shoulders, and a great mom to support her! And a femme role model, even LOL. I think the best you can do is what you said--let her be who she is and be there as much as you can. I know the negativity that's there around coming out can be intense, but she may have a different experience and be lucky, you know? Also, the kids always have to go out into the big wide world at some point. She can only grow from this.

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chris1life Junior Member How Do You Identify?: butch Preferred Pronoun?: she, her, syr, he Join Date: May 2013 Location: US Posts: 84 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 90 Thanked 276 Times in 66 Posts Rep Power: 2169073	Hey everyone. Thanks for all of the support and kind words. She is doing rather well. She has a crush on a girl so we will see how this goes.