Single FTM's & Femme's

[Princess4u]

Originally Posted by Gemme

I love dates and especially first dates. I haven't had very horrible first and/or blind date stories thus far, so I still enjoy them.

Green flags: I like the treatment I associate with OFOS butches/FTMs....opening the door, hand at the base of my back, pulling my chair out/pushing it in for me, walking on the curb side of the street with me...and so on....

Having a sense of humor, especially if it's a bit twisted or dry.

Being considerate, expressive and showing a little bit of goofiness wouldn't hurt either.

Red flags: "I forgot my wallet" I have no issue with going halvsies or even paying for the meal, if that is what we've agreed to, but don't pull that. If it's accidental, then that says something about how important this evening is to you. If it's "accidentally" on purpose, then that shows me that you lack in several areas.

"My ex did this, did that, went there, is this..." I'm not on a date with your ex. A passing comment--fine. A bio and indepth discussion? Not interested.

Giving me a list of all of your faults and/or issues and/or medications you are on and/or how much time you've spent behind bars...unless you are trying to run me off (a simple "this has been nice, but I must leave now" would work too)....revealing too much too soon is something that I struggle with so if there are two of us doing it, it's going to be a disaster from the word go.

Lacking the ability to dress oneself well and/or perform at least general hygiene routines and/or being rude to the waitstaff will get you a quick goodbye. I don't do grubby, stinky or rude.

The attire would depend on where we went and what we were doing. Bowling and a movie would garner a different dress code than a romantic dinner at Anthony's on the Waterfront, for example.

Well I love the idea of OSOF...I cherish that...just never had it...I have had horrible blind dates..so I am leary...But for the most part...I second Gemme...you hit the nail on the head so to speak.

I do wonder about the topic of disclosing too much too soon...how much is too much? I mean if you feel the chemistry when is too soon? Perhaps the second date? I ponder this so often...LOL not that I need to worry...I just checked and there is no line at my front door.

Speaking of which...I would love just love to have someone drive to MY house, ring MY doorbell and take me in HIS car...to our evening events. To me...that would be the first green flag. The second it if he opened the car door for me and closed it once I was inside. WOW...that would be amazing!!!!