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I am FEMME and I have lots of friends who I talk to regularly. |
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23 | 15.23% |
I am FEMME and I have a few close friends. |
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32 | 21.19% |
I am FEMME and I have a lot of friends but prefer to connect online or through text. |
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7 | 4.64% |
I am FEMME and I have 1 or 2 close friends. We speak often. |
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17 | 11.26% |
I am FEMME and I don't have many "close" friends but connect with people online regularly. |
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8 | 5.30% |
I am FEMME and have been close friends with several people for over 10 years. |
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33 | 21.85% |
I am FEMME and I HATE to talk on the phone. |
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26 | 17.22% |
I am FEMME and I often talk on the phone. |
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13 | 8.61% |
I am BUTCH and I have lots of friends who I talk to regularly. |
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7 | 4.64% |
I am BUTCH and I have a few close friends. |
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21 | 13.91% |
I am BUTCH and I have a lot of friends but prefer to connect online or through text. |
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1 | 0.66% |
I am BUTCH and I have 1 or 2 close friends. We speak often. |
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9 | 5.96% |
I am BUTCH and I don't have many "close" friends but connect with people online regularly. |
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2 | 1.32% |
I am BUTCH and have been close friends with several people for over 10 years. |
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18 | 11.92% |
I am BUTCH and I HATE to talk on the phone. |
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15 | 9.93% |
I am BUTCH and I often talk on the phone. |
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6 | 3.97% |
I am a Transperson and I have lots of friends who I talk to regularly. |
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6 | 3.97% |
I am a Transperson and I have a few close friends. |
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13 | 8.61% |
I am a Transperson and I have a lot of friends but prefer to connect online or through text. |
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3 | 1.99% |
I am a Transperson and I have 1 or 2 close friends. We speak often. |
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3 | 1.99% |
I am a Transperson and I don't have many "close" friends but connect with people online regularly. |
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3 | 1.99% |
I am a Transperson and have been close friends with several people for over 10 years. |
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8 | 5.30% |
I am a Transperson and I HATE to talk on the phone. |
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8 | 5.30% |
I am a Transperson and I often talk on the phone. |
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6 | 3.97% |
I think friendships are overrated. |
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3 | 1.99% |
I think that all genders create friendships in basically the same ways. |
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33 | 21.85% |
I think that people who have no friends are "unhealthy" in some way. |
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18 | 11.92% |
I think people who have lots of friends are "unhealthy" in some way. |
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5 | 3.31% |
I think it is healthy to build friendships from online interactions. |
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35 | 23.18% |
I think it is unhealthy to build friendships from online interactions. |
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2 | 1.32% |
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masculinity is not a constant. it's expressed differently. but people seem to think where they are is the bog standard man. And yes, masculinity is based on male behaviour - it may not belong to them but they are the ones that set the bar that women and queers grade themselves against. Which is why many of my butch friends in the UK wanted their own word. Pronoun use is mostly she. Except for the ones who are transgender. And I didn't really see too many people in relative comparison who considered themselves that way. I knew a very small smattering of people who used "hy".... and the rest wince at it and call it an "americanism." People don't do american masculinity (repair, hunt/fish, steak, etc) because that's a pioneer type background. And they have a church of england or atheist back ground, not puritan/calvanism. These things make a big deal in how people see masculinity. I just left a b-f singles group on fb that is supposed to be global. yet when I asked privately, the members who aren't in the states, why they don't post, the answer was "there's no point." what they talk about will just be ignored or whoosh past people as irrelevant. Canada winds up being somewhere between the two. I find canuck reserve to actually be more, in some ways, than english, but less in other ways. But we also have a pioneer background so in vancouver, every dyke and their 6 dogs wants someone to snowshoe-kyak with while bench pressing a killerwhale. It's not really my thing. I'd rather do the walks you describe, Miss Tick, that sounds fabulous. I like history. Quote:
I do want some butch and femme friends, of course. there are some political things - if they are wired that way - I like to discuss with them. But the ones that are gender talk (in a non analytical/deconstructive kind of way) I can't do. It drives me a little bit mental. I'm really not interested in talking about my gender and butches. I like most of my conversations to pass the bechdel test, in terms of males and butches. Also, I can often talk about some of those politics with non-ID'd dykes. feminine lesbians who don't ID get the same stick I do about most things. Masculine dykes who don't ID still get policed in the bathroom. But they don't talk to me about gender qualifying. ID, since going to a place where I was accepted, is not the issue it once was. Coming home was hard because that acceptance was yanked back to a degree and it really hurt, but I've also learned a different view that is far more relaxed. And when I talk to people in seattle, that gets hyped up even further. I have tried to date south of the border but the constant butch, butch butch, butches do this and femmes are that, that I get puts me in a bloody bad mood. And I just don't have the patience. I find it less so here, but even lesser still in the UK and Holland. I was actually considered to be the extreme of my queer friends in the UK. I had the piss taken out of me for talking about it more than anyone else. So... !!! Goes to show, hey? If I'm extreme, then... Last edited by imperfect_cupcake; 10-31-2013 at 02:08 PM. |
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