Pet owners: HELP!

Okiebug61 · 01-08-2014, 06:12 PM

I would not leave an old pet behind. So I would wait to visit when they had gone on to the Rainbow Bridge.

Jesse · 01-08-2014, 06:27 PM

I would not put my friend nor my dog through that kind of turmoil. I would either postpone the visit or have someone care for my dog.

candy_coated_bitch · 01-08-2014, 06:56 PM

I think you should feel perfectly fine about saying no and drawing a boundary. I know it can be hard to say no to friends, but if you are uncomfortable and worried about the new carpet in your home--it could really end up with everyone being unhappy if an accident happens.

If you are comfortable taking some of the precautions suggested, then great. Ask more questions to get a better sense of the situation. But if you are in any way not wanting to deal with this or take a chance just say NO. It's fine to ask, but hopefully a friend would understand why you wouldn't want to deal with this situation. I personally think no matter what you do there's a CHANCE of an accident happening.

I wouldn't do it.

Electrocell · 01-08-2014, 08:02 PM

Do you have a garage?

Blade · 01-08-2014, 08:03 PM

You have every right to say no. If your friend is sensible she should understand. I wouldn't leave my old dog behind. I'd stay home. How about a crate and she can crate the dog and pick it up and take it out when it needs to go to the bathroom.

ahk · 01-08-2014, 08:48 PM

I had an older dog -- well more like a dog who was afraid to be left alone. He was kenneled and he would flip out. I had to cancel a lot of plans because of him. I just couldn't have him suffer and be in pain. I either had friends over, or just stayed home. Sometimes we just need to do those kinds of things with our elder pets.

Nothing is wrong with saying NO to your friend and sharing your thoughts on why. I think as much as she loves her elder pet, she should understand. I mean if she's mentioned piddle pads, then she does understand about the carpet.

Maybe instead of visiting at your place, she could stay in a hotel where dogs were welcomed. Or you both could just see each other for lunch at a pet friendly pet-io.

Things will work out the way they need--

dark_crystal · 01-08-2014, 09:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Okiebug61

I would not leave an old pet behind. So I would wait to visit when they had gone on to the Rainbow Bridge.

I had a very hard time leaving Ivan the Terrier after he began failing. I can understand not wanting to travel without a geriatric dog. What if I wasn't there when his time came?

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Originally Posted by ahk

I had an older dog -- well more like a dog who was afraid to be left alone. He was kenneled and he would flip out. I had to cancel a lot of plans because of him. I just couldn't have him suffer and be in pain. I either had friends over, or just stayed home. Sometimes we just need to do those kinds of things with our elder pets.

Nothing is wrong with saying NO to your friend and sharing your thoughts on why. I think as much as she loves her elder pet, she should understand. I mean if she's mentioned piddle pads, then she does understand about the carpet.

Maybe instead of visiting at your place, she could stay in a hotel where dogs were welcomed. Or you both could just see each other for lunch at a pet friendly pet-io.

Things will work out the way they need--

Yes. La Quinta is the answer here

Wintermoon · 01-08-2014, 10:35 PM

As a pet owner, whose babies go everywhere with their pet parents I would suggest that it is rather strange this woman never mentioned the dog when she first made plans to visit. My babies come along or I do not make plans to go . Simple. Our family pet-sits dogs on a regular basis and we have had dogs visit who only use pee pads. The cloth re-washable ones are perfect for away visits. We had no issues with carpet messes at all, ever. If you believe your friend would bring a dog who misses, has accidents and will cause damage then you aren't trusting her pet parenting. However since you obviously are not a pet person it sounds like you need to just tell her that you do not want her dog in your home. However... I think being more tactful than saying I don't want your dog to piss on my new carpet.. is definitely important.

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ahk Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: . Preferred Pronoun?: Male Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Sep 2012 Location: NM Posts: 5,317 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,688 Thanked 8,538 Times in 2,630 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	I had an older dog -- well more like a dog who was afraid to be left alone. He was kenneled and he would flip out. I had to cancel a lot of plans because of him. I just couldn't have him suffer and be in pain. I either had friends over, or just stayed home. Sometimes we just need to do those kinds of things with our elder pets. Nothing is wrong with saying NO to your friend and sharing your thoughts on why. I think as much as she loves her elder pet, she should understand. I mean if she's mentioned piddle pads, then she does understand about the carpet. Maybe instead of visiting at your place, she could stay in a hotel where dogs were welcomed. Or you both could just see each other for lunch at a pet friendly pet-io. Things will work out the way they need--

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Wintermoon Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Neutral Relationship Status: Solid Join Date: Nov 2013 Location: Coldville Posts: 7 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 0 Thanked 19 Times in 7 Posts Rep Power: 0	As a pet owner, whose babies go everywhere with their pet parents I would suggest that it is rather strange this woman never mentioned the dog when she first made plans to visit. My babies come along or I do not make plans to go . Simple. Our family pet-sits dogs on a regular basis and we have had dogs visit who only use pee pads. The cloth re-washable ones are perfect for away visits. We had no issues with carpet messes at all, ever. If you believe your friend would bring a dog who misses, has accidents and will cause damage then you aren't trusting her pet parenting. However since you obviously are not a pet person it sounds like you need to just tell her that you do not want her dog in your home. However... I think being more tactful than saying I don't want your dog to piss on my new carpet.. is definitely important.

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