Helpful Tips on Raising a Happy Child

*Anya* · 12-01-2014, 09:02 AM

Firm and loving limits and boundaries are very critical. Kids really do crave limits. I am not talking about being an inflexible (based on situation) rigid, disciplinarian; but clearly letting kids know what is acceptable and what is not.

Family dinners, to the best of your ability, are also very important.

kittygrrl · 12-01-2014, 09:38 AM

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Originally Posted by *Anya*

Firm and loving limits and boundaries are very critical. Kids really do crave limits. I am not talking about being an inflexible (based on situation) rigid, disciplinarian; but clearly letting kids know what is acceptable and what is not.

Family dinners, to the best of your ability, are also very important.

Family dinners, Family night, should be positive supportive safe places for children to express themselves, learn manners, sharing a greater sense of belonging and fitting in. Home should be a welcome haven from the outside world.

MsTinkerbelly · 12-01-2014, 09:40 AM

Setting clear limits, letting them know what is expected of them as part of the family, and loving them in spite of themselves.

~ocean · 12-01-2014, 09:51 AM

~~~ ^ 5 my sisters and butch bros. ~~~ I am enjoying seeing how much love and understanding there is right here in the Planet ~~ threw the years I didn't have any femme friends w/ children ~ I always got that invitation for adults only for a Sunday afternoon pool party ~ I never would attend because Sundays was family day and still is ~~ ~ ty for respecting our familys

A. Spectre · 12-01-2014, 09:59 AM

this thread is going to be chock full of sage advice, i just know it.

as parents, let us never forget to share humor with our child. show them that it is okay and awesome to be silly, goofy and laugh. laugh. and laugh some more.

yes, of course we parents are the adults but please break into foolishness from to time. don't be so stiff. i see so many folks my age, so humor-less, so devoid of what life can be.

kittygrrl · 12-01-2014, 03:22 PM

"Eat your veggies, they are good for you" was always greeted with various icky faces with not much success, so I found different ways to introduce veggies without making it a battle. Here are a few:

I made a "No, thank you" bite rule. They had to try it at least once before they could say, no thanks.

I pureed raw or cooked veggies into meatloaf, fruit smoothies etc. (this worked excellently!)

I introduced new veggies by renaming them something appealing to a child
carrots became pinnochio pencils, spinach became silly grass, broccoli became jillybean trees

I mixed dried fruit into raw veggies (i still do this for myself)

Try it raw, instead of cooking them! Cut and slice and make little faces, or animals and serve them on their own individual plates

Plant a garden together-I had mine help me with pea patch and i never had any problems with peas! There is nothing more yummy then picking a pod and eating raw peas out of it.

Lastly-cook with your kids, have them help you by casually making them in charge of the veggies. This almost always worked because they wanted to taste what they had made.

Candelion · 12-01-2014, 04:43 PM

Children know how to play...don't micromanage their playtime. Let them teach you.

Gráinne · 12-01-2014, 04:51 PM

Don't raise them overly worried about "happiness"

. Raise them to be curious , resilient, and disciplined. Happy will take care of itself.

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