About Butches Q & A

[DapperButch]

Originally Posted by Femminator

I forwarded this site to my Butch as she is currently on a journey to decide if she is more feminine or masculine of center. She needs to have support of other Butches to help her I think. So, my question follows:

Is it common for Butch to be a life long journey along the spectrum? By this I mean, is it common for you to question yourself if you are Butch enough, how you present, how you act, how Femmes see you? I have been with mine for over a decade now and it has been only lately that she is questioning herself excessively. I don't care HOW she presents personally, I love her. Is it harder for older Butches? We are in our 40's.

I think it is pretty common for butches to question these things, but I have really only seen that when a person first realizes they are butch, not a decade(s) later. Or maybe I misunderstood and she only more recently realized that butch was her gender?

[Femminator]

Originally Posted by DapperButch

I think it is pretty common for butches to question these things, but I have really only seen that when a person first realizes they are butch, not a decade(s) later. Or maybe I misunderstood and she only more recently realized that butch was her gender?

She had always thought till pretty recent that being Butch was a way of dressing and such, not seeing it as an actual gender in and of itself. She has many friends in gender studies at the college she works for and I think this also has opened up a new way of thinking for her as she talks to them and sees herself as the gender of Butch and not just a lesbian with butch tendencies(if this makes sense.)

[Cin]

Originally Posted by Femminator

and sees herself as the gender of Butch and not just a lesbian with butch tendencies(if this makes sense.)

Well I suppose technically that could be considered TG seeing oneself as a third gender I mean...