Is Marriage for you?

[TruTexan]

Marriage? Is it for me? I would say YES. I want to be married to the love of my life. Right now, I'm single, I just haven't met the right woman YET.
Maybe one day I will find the Right woman for me.

[betruetoyoursoul]

I realize marriage is not for everyone....In the future I would love to be married to my forever love*S

[Jane Bond]

I was married to a woman and she cheated and ...never again unless the pre-nup is 100 pages long, my lawyer wrote it, and if anyone cheats they get dropped into the Pacific by helicopter. At night. With sardines in her pockets.
Please, no PC lectures--I am still a bit agitated at the ex wife

[cinnamongrrl]

I tried it. Didnt like it. Never.Again.

[VintageFemme]

Absolutely.

It's the stuff my dreams are made of.

[Glenn]

Yes. I have been faithfully married for 35 years. But it is very hard. Sh*it happens. I probably would have still been married if my wife hadn't become incurably ill with schizophrenia. You'll need a lot of patience, discipline, and control, along with genuine respect and love, to make it last a life-time.

[imperfect_cupcake]

Got married once. Loved the bond and loved being called wife. My error was with what happend between us and in not understanding certain aspects of character with my exwife.

So yes, I would do it again. I think I'd be even more cautious about it, and yes a prenup (even though I never had any problems that way between my ex and I), and I wouldn't want us to live together. I feel much, much more open to getting married again than to living with someone again.

Besides, where I live, if we live together for two years, we are domestic partners and all the same legal stuff kicks in anyway. Might as well have a big party, be able to be called a wife, and NOT live together!

I'm not raising kids or dogs, I have my own money, my own career and soon my own place. Id like to share the good stuff with someone, not become jointly locked in debt and domestic chores. Wow. Sexy.

[Shystonefem]

I don't know.

My license plate clearly reads "nvr*agn". Lol

There would have to be a prenup and we would have to agree on everything to do with finances, chores, etc before we got married.

I was cheated on and, although we split the houses, the cheat and cheater live in the house I used to live in.

I guess the answer is no unless someone blows my mind.

[Orema]

I'm not getting married again. I was married to a man for a very long time and lived with a woman for a number of years and I don't want those kinds of relationships again.

Living on opposite sides of the park, lake or city is what I want, or even different cities would work for me. Spend a few days at her place, a few at mine, then off on our own. I like exclusive and monogamous relationships, but I need my own space and want time on my own.

[RockOn]

Is marriage for me?
Never!!

[CherylNYC]

Marriage? Perhaps... well, maybe. Not really sure.

I've never been married although I was handfasted to my long-ago ex. We also got domestic partnership, which was the only government sponsored relationship validation available to us at the time. My ex regarded our relationship as a marriage, but I did not. She was narcissistic and very difficult. I would not have gotten married to her had that been available to us, but we had all the trappings of marriage except shared bank accounts, thank the Goddess.

I very likely could have eventually gotten married to my late partner, but it wasn't available and we were only together four years before her accident. Four years just isn't long enough for me to make that choice. I would have to know and trust a person for a very, very long time before I took such a drastic step.

Now I just don't feel as if there's a life partner for me somewhere out in our small world. If I were to meet her... oh, I don't know.

Maybe.

[imperfect_cupcake]

Of course I would only marry someone who blew my socks off and I knew for years, we travelled well together, we were sexually great together, had similar goals and values, and both of us fit the not living together dynamic I mentioned.

I didn't get married to six out of seven of my long term relationships. Of course they would have to be someone I wanted to be with through thick and thin.

I'm baffled that anyone would get married for anything less than someone who blew them out of the water and to someone who fit extremely well within your life. Isn't that why you wait at least five years before marrying someone? I know people who have waited 12 years.

Who is running off and getting married less than three years with someone? That's not the fault of marriage. That's the fault of letting romance get in the way of being well matched. Most of the reasons I see for people not wanting to get married (aside from political reasons) have to do with an asshole or bizarre expectations being involved, not that they found the practice of ritual public bonding to be at fault.

I understand political reasons.

But really, it's your marriage. You can make it into any form you want.

It can be open or group or monogamous or living together or living in different suites in the same house or across town or in a different country. You can have kids, no kids, fur babies or foster. Have separate vacations, travel together as a way to live and be nomads. Have a marriage be polyandrous (many husbands). Be circus performers together.

Marriage is really individual. I'm not going to be living with someone. And although I want to take some of my vacations with them, there will be long weekends I take on my own. My space is *mine* and their space is theirs and I would love to be an adored guest in their space and them an adored guest in mine. I lived in a group vegan house with 7 other queers and genderqueers who were mostly poly when my exwife and I were first married.
Just make it up as you go along. Fuck convention.

[Stone-Butch]

I have never been married but after 10 yrs with my ex we had a union. No laws involved, just wanted to commit to each other. After 22 yrs I was committed to work and earn good money and she was lonely and fed up. I left her the house (not sell it to her), she got the trailer, the kids (two dogs and a cat) and all the furniture. These things mean nothing when your life falls apart, not to me anyway. Marriage? She would have to be super special and only after being together at least 5 yrs to even think about it.

[MsTinkerbelly]

My kasey and I were together for 2 months before she asked me to marry her...we were engaged on Christmas Eve 2002.

We had a Domestic partnership, as that was all that was available to us at the time...and I have to say we had our ups and downs (and even a brief break-up), but we have worked hard to make a very happy life together. We were married in July 2008 during the "summer of love", when marriage was legal for a short time here in California.

My Grandparents knew each other around 6 weeks before they married, had 5 children, and were married for 60 years when he passed away. I have friends that are a same-sex couple, have been together 22 years, will NOT get married, and have a committed relationship that is a joy to watch.

Married, unmarried, know you 12 years, met you two days ago....the only common thing that successful couples have, is the stubborn determination to stick it out no matter what.

Some people need the paper, but a lot of people don't. Whatever makes everyone happy.

[JDeere]

Probably no, I have come to the conclusion that I don't want to be married.

I come from a long line of bad relationships and the family curse has hit me already.

[kittygrrl]

yes, (someday)

[job]

Nope. I don't like traditions or ceremonies.
They make me nervous. Even other people's weddings creep me out. 😧 😁

[imperfect_cupcake]

Not a huge fan of traditional weddings. Or religious ones.

But small civic weddings with people dressed in whatever the hell they want with a party after? Fab.
I was still terrified at mine because I hate public speaking. But the party was great three DJs from great clubs, people dressed up as goth faeries and other fun costumes with a home made buffet in a friends 17th century house. Nothing formal. Just fun.

Not a traditionalist. So we didn't have a traditional wedding. Amsterdam in the snow was fantastic.

[Rockinonahigh]

Burned twice, ten times shy. Once I though I would change my mind when I met someone who I really thought after all these years, ended up she was hooking up with someone I knew out of the blue.

[homoe]

I really don't see it in my future! I'm not opposed to it but the longer I'm alone the more I become set in my ways! I doubt at this stage I'd have the ability to compromise, and relationships take a lot of compromising as most of us know!