Does a Soulmate really Exist?

[Venus007]

I don't believe in soulmates in the traditional romantic relationship Disney/pop American culture interpretation. Meaning "the one", someone who is destined for you and you for them who will always magically know what you need and who will never wax and wane over time, your other half, so in synch is must be supernatural.

I think that is an unfair, unhealthy fantasy that sets people up to only have short to medium term relationships that ultimately leave them disappointed because it sets an impossible standard not based in the reality of human animal nature.

What I do believe in is that there are people who because of their life experiences, outlook, understanding, personality and desires match pretty closely with yours or even better beautifully compliment you and that gives rise to a connection and delicious frisson that together you tend, groom, and shape over time.

To me ultimate love is more of an ongoing piece of performance art rather than a divine intervention.

[Nattih]

Its something I think about often, but as of right now, I dont think so. I think it is warm and fuzzy to think about someone on the planet already waiting for us to just "happen" about and skip merrily into the sunset together. Seems really need and packaged in a way life just isnt.

I'm a big believer in being able to choose our own destiny, therefore I sway on the "no" side of the existence of a soulmate. I am willing to have my mind changed about it though.

[gotoseagrl]

I've spent so much time studying this topic. I believe that for some people having a soulmate is simply being with someone in a relationship that works out and lasts, which is fine. And for others (like me), a soulmate is more of a rare type you aren't sure that you will ever have the chance of meeting (until you do), a twin flame. Someone who is so unique that they have so many of the most uncommon things in common with you, along with weird coincidences and other signs that make you feel you would most likely never meet another who fits you so well.

The one who changes or adds to you and your life in the most positive ways because you value the same things and were already headed on the same path before you even met. They can be as different from you as they are the same, yet those differences turn out to be things that compliment each other naturally instead of distress you. For example, a writer and an artist who both always thought about doing picture books, but the writer doesn't draw and the artist doesn't like to write. They discover they can do amazing things together.

The one who makes everything better simply with their presence. The one with whom you have healthy happiness in ways that remain consistent and stand the test of time. Things aren't perfect, but the two of you go together so perfectly that you're able to make it through anything life brings. In my experience, all these things make someone a soulmate, and I do believe the saying "you just know" when you meet them. But I think it goes beyond that ... to knowing that being without them would truly be too devastating to even imagine. True soulmate is the one you don't let go of and the one who never lets go of you. It's never one-sided.

[Bubala]

I might be a desperate optimist, a childish silly dreamer but I still believe that yes, soulmates do exists! Some find them and some don't but somewhere in there world there's a perfect match for everyone out there... Am I crazy?

[starryeyes]

I never believed in one until I found her. Never had such a deep amazing connection with someone before... it's pretty special <3

[kittygrrl]

do I believe? yes, probably..but that doesn't mean I believe it's smooth sailing...by my life experience, there is no such thing...but hopefully you can learn from your mistakes and at some point find that connection that will last well past a lifetime-

[JDeere]

Nope, no way no how, no way jose!