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Ive heard of it being frowned upon for many years. It's a shame actually because it shouldnt matter who you love, people can shove their judgements up their arse as far as im concerned.
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Life is very, very short. If a person cares about what other people think of their decision for a lover, or any decision for that matter, than that person will be on a roller-coaster ride of emotions for the whole of their precious life. I've learned that it's about energy. I "dance" with femme submissives. My energy and they simply fit, snugly...smiling. Would I take a butch submissive? I would if she had what I "dance" to; that butch has not appeared in my life. Do I care what anyone else thinks? No. So, JDeere, love and be loved, fuck the rest. Greco |
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Also the community makes you feel unwelcome, if your b/b as well.
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If you're talking about this community, I don't think that's true. The site promotes butch, femme and everything else. There are times people (may) seem intolerant but it's usually because they don't understand or are fearful. Everyone is capable of growing and changing in time.. Sometimes we just have to be patient and love them anyway.
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J, it's funny you should say that because when i was younger i never knew b/f existed..every couple i saw was b/b and as a femme i was made to feel i was unwelcome and even told i didn't belong...so you see, meaness, indifference and ignorance..exists everywhere in different spaces and times depending..take heart it will change where you are someday..probably sooner then later..in the meantime when you get a stare, give them back a smile or a wave..you will feel better and just maybe you will make them pause and rethink
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I date all over the spectrum. Butch, femme, ftm, mtf. I go out often and really people watch, like detailed watching. I see mannerisms, etc and know who possibly to avoid, im not worried about myself mainly the younger crowd as well as the newly out younger ones, to hopefully they wont feel unwelcome.
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Anyways, at a young age like 8 or so, I learned from my gram to read people in different ways and being a stickler for details as well as obsessive about things, helps me decided about issues.
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Yes, it is horrible and ridiculous.
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I can appreciate that ... dating across the spectrum. Why not?!
As I sit and recollect ... my only dating femmes may have been due to the fact that that's how it was way back when. The menu in those days was UBER small and social norms, even in the LGB* community, did influence one's behavior. Quote:
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I believe the moment each of us came out of whichever proverbial closet that we were in… Was the first moment we started living our lives like it was the only one we had. 'Those people' with their 'opinions' don't sleep in your bed, or live in your head and heart - soooo they don't get vote in how you live YOUR life. Look for your own happy JDeere..
As the lovely Ms Roberts once said.. I would rather have 30 minutes of "wonderful" than a lifetime of nothing special.
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Honestly i wasnt making it about me, just using myself as an example of what I've seen and heard.... Plus i see newbies on here that have posted in this thread, i can't think how to word it, shocked maybe that b on b is frowned upon by some.
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Life is WAY to short to worry about how someone identifies.....it's about finding someone who complements your life. Love is love, it should never matter how someone identifies, what color they are, how much money they make or what sex they are.
I guess call me a romantic.*shrugs*
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