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I've done some thinking on this matter since I last posted and I think a soul mate is someone that just 'gets' me, be it friend or lover or little old man waiting for the bus on the corner.
I still feel the term holds a certain amount of weight but the weight doesn't have to be in the form of a shackle, I've learned. Organic gets me. My flaws are still there, but through his eyes, they are minimized and his through mine (except the damn snoring...because it's my ears that tell me about that not so little flaw). But the weight and responsibility can be equally shared and, thus, becomes not a burden but something that builds strength. |
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12-10-2010, 06:16 AM | #63 |
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maybe I am a stick in the mud but I don't believe that my soul need or has a mate. My soul is my higher self, it's mine and not to be shared.
I do believe that many people use the term soulmate when actually it's a lustmate they are wooing over. I also believe in lifemates, fuckmates, housemates, friendmates or whatever but soulmate?, not so much. How will you know you have been with your *soulmate* until the end? |
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I want someone who compliments my life and makes me want to grow and better myself. I don't believe in the One, the SoulMate, because it is too tempting to pass up perfectly good people because they don't fit some fairy tale picture of what that soulmate should look like. I don't believe in "love happily ever after", because life and love takes work. I also don't believe in meeting the "other half" that completes me. I complete myself. I don't want "half a person", I want a fully complete person with or without me.
Someone else mentioned that now that we live longer, there are different partners for each period of our lives. "Till death do us part" might work when we only lived until 40, but we're living a lot longer than that now. Who can say that the person we flipped for at 20 would stir us up at 50? Maybe rarely, but not much. I think there are many possible partners we could be compatible with, and so it pays to be even more dilligent about "screening" who we go with.
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i literally dont believe, but i dare to be proved wrong ha
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No, I have not, but I have had some delicious fun looking for them, a bit like wine tasting night at Whole Foods. I can admit to favoring a smooth, fragrant Spanish Tempranillo.
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I don't believe in a soul. But I get the spirit (<-- see what I did there?) of the question.
I don't believe there is one person who is our perfect partner. I do believe there are people who see us for who we truly are and not who they want us to be, or even who WE want them to see. I believe there are people who are wonderful fits for our personalities, our lifestyles, our strengths and weaknesses. There are partners in crime and zigs to our zags. I've met several of these folks who fit me well, and for one reason or another (choices, life experiences, issues, scars and whatnot) we've parted ways. I hope someday to find someone with their eyes wide open who likes what they see and can stay for the duration. |
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He gave me the last frownie after a really shitty day.
I think I found mine. |
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I guess I won't know until the end of the journey.
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Not to my knowledge.....wouldn't that be terrible if I have and didn't know it?
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I found mine....The strange part about it was I knew it the moment it happened....It was so different from my previous past relationships....
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I have yet to find my soul mate, but i have yet to find my lost remote either, But in time i just might...behind the sofa maybe?
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The first time my darlin' kissed me was the best kiss I had in my life till then, but still it got better. The first time we made love, it was the best ever till then, but still it got better. Our life together was easy. We would watch Oprah and hear how hard you had to work to make a relationship work and we would look at each other and say - "What is she talking about? Do you feel like our relationship is hard work?" We had problems and changes, for sure. (He transitioned ftm, and I can't think of a bigger change than that, LOL - except for adopting four kids, which we also did), but events always brought us closer rather than further apart. That was our committment to each other at our wedding - to grow closer together throughout our lives. We only got to have twenty-five years together before his death, so I can't swear that we would have stayed together, but I BELIEVE we would have.
Was he my soulmate? I don't know. But he was definetly the RIGHT person for me. If he was my soulmate, I hope there is another out there finding his/her way to me. If not then I hope there is another RIGHT person, and that we find each other soon before I am too old to recognise it when it happens! Smooches , Keri |
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