What Do You Miss? - Page 3

Duchess · 03-04-2014, 04:42 PM

Dad
My cat, Hera
Florida

Jar · 03-04-2014, 05:07 PM

I miss the belief that one day I'll have true love and a soul partner

I miss my sister who was my rock

I miss WARM summer afternoons!

firegal · 03-04-2014, 11:05 PM

I miss my lil sis everyday even though it's been a year.

I still am gratefull for her love......and know I have a great love awaiting me

She is my true guardian angel....

JustLovelyJenn · 03-05-2014, 12:10 AM

I miss having my own space.
I miss my girls night parties I used to host every few months

TagHeuer_07 · 03-05-2014, 04:47 AM

i miss

cuddly, holding in bed

kisses

talk and laughter

watching the movie together

WingsOnFire · 03-14-2014, 11:07 PM

I miss being held and protected from all the things that go bump in the night...

I miss feeling completely whole.

DanceFoolsDance · 03-05-2014, 04:51 AM

Being completely loved and accepted, in all ways. Having someone I can tell anything to at any time. To face the days with, good and bad. Being someone's rock and vice versa. Reciprocity is what I miss the most. Sharing dreams, values, goals...life. Never being sick of each other. Or having to explain every little thing, because we know each other so well.

imperfect_cupcake · 03-05-2014, 03:21 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by LaneyDoll

I was chatting with a friend today and asked her "what do you miss most about being with someone?"

I think that, for me anyway, I miss having someone to go home to, to go to bed with (and wake up beside)-to just share a life with.

I had an ex once who would rub lotion on my feet, knees and elbows while we watched a movie together. I miss that little gesture-I am bad to forget to "lotion." lol

It is the little things that I find myself missing.

So, I wanted to ask the same question here...

What things do you miss about being in a relationship?

Not a whole lot, to be honest. I've been single now for almost a year, but the previous relationship wasn't very committed we were just very close friends.

It's been over two years since my marriage broke. It was very hard to be alone and to do without sleeping with someone, having someone to do things with on that level of intimacy. It was incredibly hard.

I still had sex and casual interactions and hanging out. Which I suppose was like a slow weaning off of being so involved with someone. I did a stint on celibacy and no dates for 8 months to just focus on me completely and school.

Now? I don't really miss generic things about relationships. I still miss the level of friendship I had with my exwife and my sexual friendship with T. I don't specifically miss them, I am actually very ok with not being with them lol
But I do miss the level of depth of understanding and linking.

I get very similar with my platonic friends and the casual sex I very occasionally hook up with. But not to quite the same depth. The trade off is, I have a high level of freedom and independence I could never have if I was involved. I never have to explain myself or excuse myself to anyone. And I do start getting irritated/resentful if I have to explain my absence/silence to someone. I feel that's answering to someone and I don't like it.

But I do miss the weekend morning layabouts and sex and having a day adventure, holding hands.

I can have adventures with my mates, I can tell my friends anything at all, be utterly open with them. And they know me incredibly well and thus totally accept me. I can cuddle a bit with them and with my sex friends. I'm far from lonely and I'm pretty content with my life as is. And I don't think I'd be willing to give up my independence for that. But I do miss it a little, now and again.

ProfPacker · 03-05-2014, 08:29 PM

Interesting timing, I haven't missed much since the separation but since knowing that I have to have some surgery, I miss knowing that there is that someone who knows me so well and intimately to be there when I need to be transported to or fro. To be there when I first get home, to not have to arrange for these things prior etc. These were the times when she appeared to be a partner.

fatallyblonde · 03-05-2014, 09:45 PM

I DO miss the stereotypical things... because PTSD and FSD have taken so much of them from me... been feeling dead and numb for so long... would like to just feel again and feel easy... butterflies in the stomach... the thrill of anticipation... the little giddiness... melting when she puts her arm around you... the warmth of a hand wrapped around yours... the solid comfort of a shoulder to rest against... feeling intoxicated on another person... I'll never get back the idealism and hope of my youth... but gosh experiencing the sweetness of some of these feelings... last night i was feeling them again... they are lovely. They generally lead to pain, of course, but... at least they prove I'm still human, still alive.

anaisninja · 03-14-2014, 11:49 PM

I miss:
- a soft place to fall at the end of a hard day at work
- someone to hold our seats at the cinema
- someone to get rid of scary bugs in the house
- someone to help with household projects

ConCrtAnge1 · 03-23-2014, 02:38 PM

I just miss..

I miss it all.. The kisses, the cuddling, the secure feeling.. I just miss it all..

Teddybear · 03-23-2014, 02:49 PM

I miss......

the smell of her hair when I hold her close
the way she feels when I hold her
sitting beside her as we watch movies or eat a meal
seeing her eyes light up when she smiles or laughs

I get to see all of that on skype but its so much more in person that is what i miss

Duchess · 05-04-2014, 08:58 PM

Florida

Mel C. · 05-04-2014, 09:02 PM

Feeling connected to someone...planning our life together...experiencing things with someone

Sammy583 · 06-04-2015, 10:03 PM

I miss having someone cuddling with me before bed & sleeping beside me

JDeere · 06-12-2015, 11:25 PM

Her massages!!!!!!!

God knows I love being her practice massage body!

Sweet Bliss · 06-14-2015, 04:36 PM

I miss genuine conversation.

Humanesque · 06-14-2015, 04:54 PM

I miss when a handshake meant something.

If two people didn't get along with each other they left each other alone.

That must be just hopeful dreaming.

So I will make the best of today
watching the prompters as everyone strolls by for pride having jovial
laughter with my friends.

Tierney · 06-14-2015, 06:38 PM

When people told you something, that they truly meant it.

When someone conversed with you, they actually were conversing with you and not doing other things at the same time.

I also miss being young sitting in front of the tv watching Batman in my jammies and not having a care in the world except to wonder if I should have another glass of chocolate milk.

03-04-2014, 04:42 PM	#1
Duchess Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Absolute Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Toe curling :-) Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Atlanta Posts: 2,382 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,792 Thanked 5,592 Times in 1,521 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	Dad My cat, Hera Florida __________________ *無料のライブ*

03-04-2014, 05:07 PM	#2
Jar Member How Do You Identify?: TG Butch Preferred Pronoun?: He, him, da bomb... Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Up and to the right Posts: 610 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 869 Thanked 2,341 Times in 534 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	I miss the belief that one day I'll have true love and a soul partner I miss my sister who was my rock I miss WARM summer afternoons! __________________ *~ Jar ~* No matter what life brings you, always learn a lesson from your dog ... kick some grass over that shit and move on

03-04-2014, 11:05 PM	#3
firegal Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: Don't let the gal part of my screen name fool ya I,m ALL butch! Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: Tacoma,Washington Posts: 2,907 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 15,853 Thanked 11,706 Times in 2,469 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	.. I miss my lil sis everyday even though it's been a year. I still am gratefull for her love......and know I have a great love awaiting me She is my true guardian angel....

03-05-2014, 12:10 AM	#4
JustLovelyJenn Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She/her Relationship Status: That's Need to Know Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Aberdeen, WA Posts: 4,478 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 12,464 Thanked 13,992 Times in 3,684 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	I miss having my own space. I miss my girls night parties I used to host every few months __________________ --Jenn

03-14-2014, 11:07 PM	#6
WingsOnFire Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Queer..femme.. .babygirl...girl Preferred Pronoun?: Female Ones... Relationship Status: Enjoying life but ready to meet someone Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Portland Oregon Posts: 3,945 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 12,015 Thanked 12,476 Times in 3,357 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	I miss being held and protected from all the things that go bump in the night... I miss feeling completely whole. __________________ Previously known as MidnightBlueEyes ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ http://gailsforum.files.wordpress.co...-psd340941.png

03-05-2014, 04:47 AM	#5
TagHeuer_07 Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Just me Relationship Status: Not lookng for relationship Join Date: Feb 2013 Location: Aussie Posts: 13 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4 Thanked 23 Times in 12 Posts Rep Power: 644258	i miss cuddly, holding in bed kisses talk and laughter watching the movie together

03-05-2014, 04:51 AM	#7
DanceFoolsDance Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Human Relationship Status: Happy Join Date: Aug 2013 Location: USA Posts: 26 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 59 Thanked 84 Times in 21 Posts Rep Power: 135758	Being completely loved and accepted, in all ways. Having someone I can tell anything to at any time. To face the days with, good and bad. Being someone's rock and vice versa. Reciprocity is what I miss the most. Sharing dreams, values, goals...life. Never being sick of each other. Or having to explain every little thing, because we know each other so well.

03-05-2014, 08:29 PM	#9
ProfPacker Member How Do You Identify?: butch/MOC Preferred Pronoun?: Hy/hym/hys but in circumstances like work and some other places she Relationship Status: single Join Date: Sep 2013 Location: nj Posts: 1,365 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 7,023 Thanked 4,815 Times in 1,187 Posts Rep Power: 21474849	Interesting timing, I haven't missed much since the separation but since knowing that I have to have some surgery, I miss knowing that there is that someone who knows me so well and intimately to be there when I need to be transported to or fro. To be there when I first get home, to not have to arrange for these things prior etc. These were the times when she appeared to be a partner.

03-05-2014, 09:45 PM	#10
fatallyblonde Member How Do You Identify?: lesbian femme Preferred Pronoun?: She/Her Join Date: Jan 2014 Location: earth Posts: 446 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 389 Thanked 770 Times in 181 Posts Rep Power: 7054721	I DO miss the stereotypical things... because PTSD and FSD have taken so much of them from me... been feeling dead and numb for so long... would like to just feel again and feel easy... butterflies in the stomach... the thrill of anticipation... the little giddiness... melting when she puts her arm around you... the warmth of a hand wrapped around yours... the solid comfort of a shoulder to rest against... feeling intoxicated on another person... I'll never get back the idealism and hope of my youth... but gosh experiencing the sweetness of some of these feelings... last night i was feeling them again... they are lovely. They generally lead to pain, of course, but... at least they prove I'm still human, still alive.

03-14-2014, 11:49 PM	#11
anaisninja Member How Do You Identify?: . Preferred Pronoun?: . Relationship Status: . Join Date: Feb 2014 Location: . Posts: 117 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 167 Thanked 486 Times in 93 Posts Rep Power: 6064352	I miss: - a soft place to fall at the end of a hard day at work - someone to hold our seats at the cinema - someone to get rid of scary bugs in the house - someone to help with household projects

03-23-2014, 02:38 PM	#12
ConCrtAnge1 Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Relationship Status: Super single Join Date: Feb 2014 Location: Illinois Posts: 37 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 263 Thanked 131 Times in 30 Posts Rep Power: 1298757	I just miss.. I miss it all.. The kisses, the cuddling, the secure feeling.. I just miss it all..

03-23-2014, 02:49 PM	#13
Teddybear Senior Member How Do You Identify?: by my name Preferred Pronoun?: He, him Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Here there everywhere. Posts: 2,097 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,620 Thanked 6,233 Times in 1,687 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	I miss...... the smell of her hair when I hold her close the way she feels when I hold her sitting beside her as we watch movies or eat a meal seeing her eyes light up when she smiles or laughs I get to see all of that on skype but its so much more in person that is what i miss __________________ I am ME take me as I am or leave me be..

05-04-2014, 08:58 PM	#14
Duchess Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Absolute Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Toe curling :-) Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Atlanta Posts: 2,382 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,792 Thanked 5,592 Times in 1,521 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	*Florida* __________________ *無料のライブ*

05-04-2014, 09:02 PM	#15
Mel C. Long-time Member How Do You Identify?: WIB - woman identified butch Preferred Pronoun?: Your choice...not really a button for me Relationship Status: ♡ married 1/1/2019♡ Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: San Diego Posts: 2,149 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,772 Thanked 6,828 Times in 1,621 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	What do I miss about being in a relationship???? Feeling connected to someone...planning our life together...experiencing things with someone

06-04-2015, 10:03 PM	#16
Sammy583 Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Relationship Status: Working on it. Join Date: May 2015 Location: SunShine State Posts: 80 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 39 Thanked 178 Times in 42 Posts Rep Power: 1294001	I miss having someone cuddling with me before bed & sleeping beside me __________________ Some say holding on is what makes you strong. But sometimes it takes more strength to just let go & move on.

06-12-2015, 11:25 PM	#17
JDeere Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Transgender Preferred Pronoun?: He/him/his Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Jul 2014 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 17,752 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 31,018 Thanked 28,836 Times in 9,708 Posts Rep Power: 21474864	Her massages!!!!!!! God knows I love being her practice massage body! __________________ Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow. The important thing is not to stop questioning. Albert Einstein

06-14-2015, 04:36 PM	#18
Sweet Bliss Senior Member How Do You Identify?: I Am Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: solo Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: the Beach, Pacific side Posts: 4,160 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,354 Thanked 7,268 Times in 2,159 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	I miss genuine conversation.

06-14-2015, 04:54 PM	#19
Humanesque Member How Do You Identify?: Human and approachable. Preferred Pronoun?: Human Relationship Status: Siri answered the question! Eating Shark Soup and laughing to the bank! Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: Right where I am supposed to be on the Hill in the arms of friends,family my loved ones. California Posts: 198 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,781 Thanked 576 Times in 162 Posts Rep Power: 10572975	I miss when a handshake meant something. If two people didn't get along with each other they left each other alone. That must be just hopeful dreaming. So I will make the best of today watching the prompters as everyone strolls by for pride having jovial laughter with my friends.

06-14-2015, 06:38 PM	#20
Tierney Timed Out - Identity Issues How Do You Identify?: Mr. Wayne Preferred Pronoun?: Hey, Mister Wayne Join Date: Mar 2015 Location: In the Ether Posts: 1,328 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,057 Thanked 4,892 Times in 1,162 Posts Rep Power: 0	When people told you something, that they truly meant it. When someone conversed with you, they actually were conversing with you and not doing other things at the same time. I also miss being young sitting in front of the tv watching Batman in my jammies and not having a care in the world except to wonder if I should have another glass of chocolate milk.