Important things I learned from past relationships

Kobi · 12-14-2012, 12:51 AM

~if it doesnt feel right, there's a reason

~if there is not a plausible explanation for things, there is a reason

~if things change and not in a good way, there is a reason

~you have gut feelings, for a reason

~not trusting your gut is self defeating

Those I have noticed.

What I have learned is, my natural curiosity aside, the reasons behind any of those seldom matter. Ignoring any of them guarantees they will come back to bite you in the hiney.

KCBUTCH · 02-02-2013, 11:46 AM

I am still freshly single- what I've learned so far is
-I Loved with all my heart-but my heart cannot get through closed doors
-I learned just because it didn't work out doesn't mean I did anything wrong
-I am learning some days are better than other and she still sneaks into me by surprise and that may take along time to heal
-I learned that I am capable a loving immensely
-I learned what sacrifices can be endured out of Love
-I am learning no matter what I think - I cant think my pain away
- I am learning how not to go run amuck to try to fix and shut out the pain, I can feel it and it will go away.
-I am learning-I HURT just as deeply as I loved and it's very draining
-I learned I dont have to stop loving others EVER.

oksoftbutch · 02-02-2013, 11:55 AM

Communication is paramount.
If that first kiss doesn't spark something for both of you, chances are there will be nothing.
I am sure there is much more....just what I learned from the last short lived one.

12-14-2012, 12:51 AM	#1
Kobi Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Biological female. Lesbian. Relationship Status: Happy Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Hanging out in the Atlantic. Posts: 9,234 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,840 Thanked 34,636 Times in 7,642 Posts Rep Power: 21474861	~if it doesnt feel right, there's a reason ~if there is not a plausible explanation for things, there is a reason ~if things change and not in a good way, there is a reason ~you have gut feelings, for a reason ~not trusting your gut is self defeating Those I have noticed. What I have learned is, my natural curiosity aside, the reasons behind any of those seldom matter. Ignoring any of them guarantees they will come back to bite you in the hiney. __________________

02-02-2013, 11:46 AM	#2
KCBUTCH Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Undaunted QUEER Dom, Daddy Preferred Pronoun?: MYSELF, Syr, Hy, or friend prefered Relationship Status: Cautious, indifferent... Join Date: Jan 2013 Location: Below the foothills above the beach Posts: 1,848 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,240 Thanked 3,305 Times in 884 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	I am still freshly single- what I've learned so far is -I Loved with all my heart-but my heart cannot get through closed doors -I learned just because it didn't work out doesn't mean I did anything wrong -I am learning some days are better than other and she still sneaks into me by surprise and that may take along time to heal -I learned that I am capable a loving immensely -I learned what sacrifices can be endured out of Love -I am learning no matter what I think - I cant think my pain away - I am learning how not to go run amuck to try to fix and shut out the pain, I can feel it and it will go away. -I am learning-I HURT just as deeply as I loved and it's very draining -I learned I dont have to stop loving others EVER. __________________ "If you want to know the secrets of the Universe, think in terms of energy, frequency and vibration"-Nikola Tesla Last edited by KCBUTCH; 02-02-2013 at 12:00 PM.

02-02-2013, 11:55 AM	#3
oksoftbutch Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Soft butch Preferred Pronoun?: whatever floats your boat as long as you don't mistake me for a femme. Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: oklahoma Posts: 54 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 214 Thanked 119 Times in 39 Posts Rep Power: 1040008	Communication is paramount. If that first kiss doesn't spark something for both of you, chances are there will be nothing. I am sure there is much more....just what I learned from the last short lived one.