what NOT to do in a relationship....... - Page 14

The_Lady_Snow · 07-31-2010, 09:44 PM

DO NOT tell me yo' mama jokes

Jesse · 07-31-2010, 10:22 PM

The Truck...ahem!

Do not your leave trash in it
If you have to adjust the seat, please... do put it back
If I allow you to drive it, do not bring it back on empty!

The_Lady_Snow · 07-31-2010, 10:23 PM

DO NOT badger me after a 14 hour day of working about how the dog got into the trash can and you had to clean it up and how I did not answer the phone while I was at work to listen to you complain about it.

amiyesiam · 07-31-2010, 11:17 PM

Please, do not, while I am at work, give me away

dixie · 08-01-2010, 12:47 AM

Please don't tell me about all the people you have slept with or wish you had slept with. It makes for awkward moments when I wake up to an empty bed at 3am and find you in the living room on webcam with one of them while they are very scantily clad (to say the least)...

Gemme · 08-01-2010, 02:28 AM

Don't call little people midgets. I hear they don't like that.

And don't ever let me run out of sugar. This is for your safety and sanity as well as mine.

Julie · 08-01-2010, 09:11 AM

Do Not speak to me as if I am beneath you..
I will Chew you up and Spit you Out.

weatherboi · 08-01-2010, 09:20 AM

please please please do not throw away my *extra* copies of "Pillars of the Earth"

they all mean something to me!!!

Jesse · 08-01-2010, 11:44 AM

: points to pc and laptop: MINE! nuff said.

Arwen · 08-01-2010, 11:48 AM

Do not promise to do something then back out at the last minute.
Do not be subtle. If you love me, tell me. Words count. Actions do too.
Do not expect that because I am psychic I will be.
Do tell me where you would like to go with me even if we can never get there. Dreams are good.
Do not promise anything you can't deliver.

Again, I'll do the same for you.

UofMfan · 08-01-2010, 11:51 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by amiyesiam

Please, do not, while I am at work, give me away

I am still laughing out loud over this one!

theoddz · 08-01-2010, 12:13 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Tranzman

The Truck...ahem!

Do not your leave trash in it
If you have to adjust the seat, please... do put it back
If I allow you to drive it, do not bring it back on empty!

I second this with overwhelming emotion.

~Theo~

tuffboi29 · 08-01-2010, 01:16 PM

DO NOT...

Touch my stogies!!!! They are *mine*. If you want one...ask first please.

Also...

Apparently....

(generally speaking) femmes do not seem to appreciate carburetors left on the kitchen table for rebuilding.

Sorry...

TenderKnight · 08-01-2010, 01:30 PM

If you meet someone online and send them a picture, please have it be a recent one, meaning no longer then a year ago.. If you've changed a LOT from the picture you've sent and what you look like in real life, the truth WILL come out and yes, sometimes it does matter..

violaine · 08-01-2010, 01:52 PM

push me if i'm in need of space -

disrespect what is mine, your story is respected as it is an honour to listen to the journey of another human being as their story unfolds-

AtLast · 08-01-2010, 02:16 PM

This may sound trite, but, screaming at me just does not go over well. especially obscenities. Verbal abuse is verbal abuse. Not talking about raising one's voice to make a point or to get my attention. But, I will hear this and give my undivided attention so partner's have never had to go to the screech level.

ARGH... there is a lesbian couple living across the street from me and one of them is a mega ragea-holic. out of control and very loud!! I am so tired of hearing her scrteam at her partner. Why the partner stays is beyond me.

Besides, it's noise pollution and I don't want to know the details of their relationship issues. I wish they would get some help.. or just break up and move!!

Lynn · 08-01-2010, 02:26 PM

Don't tell me how to spend money.

Don't try to dictate my priorities.

It isn't necessary for us to enjoy all the same things, but don't belittle my interests. Same for my friends and my aspirations.

JustJo · 08-01-2010, 02:30 PM

Please do not:

tell me how I "should" be...I am who and how I am...and my way of being is as a valid as yours
rage at me...I cannot hear you if you shout, accuse or cuss. My brain and emotions shut down and I stop being able to hear
put others before me all the time. Yes, others count and will be first sometimes, but I should not always be last on the list
pretend that my reality isn't what it is...if you hate kids, cats, or stubborn women...then I'm not the woman for you
expect me to read your mind...tell me what you want, what you think and how you feel. I will always listen....but I need you to tell me
close down on me verbally, sexually or emotionally. If you need space, tell me and I'll honor that...but if you just "leave" don't be surprised when I react by feeling abandoned

Diva · 08-01-2010, 02:34 PM

....wash my red t~shirt with His white ones.....

Oooooooo ....that was a bad day.....

TenderKnight · 08-01-2010, 02:39 PM

A few people have stated something along these lines, but I will add to the do not list..

Do not scream and rage at me in public and expect a reaction.. I shut down and if you think that means that I don't care or am not a Top, frankly, fuck you, I'm gone.

Do not scream at me and expect the same in return, again, I shut down and I'm confused and hurting at this point.

Do not think that just because I'm a switch that I can be pushed around.

Do not expect me to be a role.. I'm a human being and I have feelings and sometimes I just CAN'T be your Dad.

Do not belittle me in public. Not in front of friends and CERTAINLY not in front of or IN my work place.. Show some fucking class.

Do not expect me to be perfect and to be your Knight in shining armor.. Underneath that armor is a human being who can be a Knight but can also be a scared little boy.

That being said.. I still have a lot of hurt and anger going on.. Can you tell? lol

07-31-2010, 09:44 PM	#261
The_Lady_Snow MILLION $$$ PUSSY How Do You Identify?: Kinky, Raw, Perverted, Uber Queer Alpha Femme Preferred Pronoun?: Iconic Ms. Relationship Status: Keeper of 3, only one has the map to my freckles Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: La Reina del Sur Posts: 22,488 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 32,231 Thanked 80,080 Times in 15,669 Posts Rep Power: 21474874	DO NOT tell me yo' mama jokes __________________ "If you’re going to play these dirty games of ours, then you might as well indulge completely. It’s all about turning back into an animal and that’s the beauty of it. Place your guilt on the sidewalk and take a blow torch to it (guilt is usually worthless anyway). Be perverted, be filthy, do things that mannered people shouldn’t do. If you’re going to be gross then go for it and don’t wimp out."---Master Aiden

07-31-2010, 10:22 PM	#262
Jesse Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Transguy Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Central West Coast of Florida Posts: 5,204 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 34,866 Thanked 17,784 Times in 3,940 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	The Truck...ahem! Do not your leave trash in it If you have to adjust the seat, please... do put it back If I allow you to drive it, do not bring it back on empty! __________________ “You’re so hard on yourself. Take a moment. Sit back. Marvel at your life: at the grief that softened you, at the heartache that widened you, at the suffering that strengthened you. Despite everything, you still grow. Be proud of this.”

07-31-2010, 10:23 PM	#263
The_Lady_Snow MILLION $$$ PUSSY How Do You Identify?: Kinky, Raw, Perverted, Uber Queer Alpha Femme Preferred Pronoun?: Iconic Ms. Relationship Status: Keeper of 3, only one has the map to my freckles Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: La Reina del Sur Posts: 22,488 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 32,231 Thanked 80,080 Times in 15,669 Posts Rep Power: 21474874	DO NOT badger me after a 14 hour day of working about how the dog got into the trash can and you had to clean it up and how I did not answer the phone while I was at work to listen to you complain about it. __________________ "If you’re going to play these dirty games of ours, then you might as well indulge completely. It’s all about turning back into an animal and that’s the beauty of it. Place your guilt on the sidewalk and take a blow torch to it (guilt is usually worthless anyway). Be perverted, be filthy, do things that mannered people shouldn’t do. If you’re going to be gross then go for it and don’t wimp out."---Master Aiden

07-31-2010, 11:17 PM	#264
amiyesiam Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she/they Relationship Status: single Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: pa Posts: 2,703 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 17,488 Thanked 10,135 Times in 2,161 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	Please, do not, while I am at work, give me away __________________ A year from now you will wish that you started today~Karen Lamb

08-01-2010, 02:28 AM	#266
Gemme Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Queer Stone Femme Girl of the Unicorn Variety Preferred Pronoun?: She, as in 'She's a GEM' Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: The roads are narrow here Posts: 36,631 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 182,498 Thanked 107,973 Times in 25,668 Posts Rep Power: 21474888	Don't call little people midgets. I hear they don't like that. And don't ever let me run out of sugar. This is for your safety and sanity as well as mine. __________________ Gemme's Journal I'm misunderestimated.

08-01-2010, 12:47 AM	#265
dixie Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: I usually just poke it with a stick. Preferred Pronoun?: Bitch Relationship Status: Intertwined deeply Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: We're all a little mad here. Posts: 6,627 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 10,972 Thanked 21,383 Times in 4,808 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	Please don't tell me about all the people you have slept with or wish you had slept with. It makes for awkward moments when I wake up to an empty bed at 3am and find you in the living room on webcam with one of them while they are very scantily clad (to say the least)...

08-01-2010, 09:11 AM	#267
Julie Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Angel * Femme * Lesbian * Girl * Woman * Slut * Bitch * Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: No longer a Virgin Bride to Dreamer ~ May 17th, 2014 Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: New York Posts: 4,674 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 17,676 Thanked 18,160 Times in 3,633 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Do Not speak to me as if I am beneath you.. I will Chew you up and Spit you Out. __________________ “Sometimes only one person is missing and the whole world seems depopulated.” ~ Alphonse de Lamartine - 1790-1869 http://i374.photobucket.com/albums/o...ps4d9fb6c0.jpg I Love You ~ I Love Us May 17, 2014

08-01-2010, 09:20 AM	#268
weatherboi Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Owned boy Preferred Pronoun?: Hey boy!!! Relationship Status: counting freckles slowly under Her direction!!! Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: i have 2 sets of geographic coordinates!!! Posts: 6,097 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 26,797 Thanked 12,549 Times in 2,993 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	please please please do not throw away my extra copies of "Pillars of the Earth" they all mean something to me!!!

08-01-2010, 11:44 AM	#269
Jesse Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Transguy Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Central West Coast of Florida Posts: 5,204 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 34,866 Thanked 17,784 Times in 3,940 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	: points to pc and laptop: MINE! nuff said. __________________ “You’re so hard on yourself. Take a moment. Sit back. Marvel at your life: at the grief that softened you, at the heartache that widened you, at the suffering that strengthened you. Despite everything, you still grow. Be proud of this.”

08-01-2010, 11:48 AM	#270
Arwen Joy Seeker How Do You Identify?: Smartly-Flavored Preferred Pronoun?: Goddess Relationship Status: Mrs. Syzygy 1/9/14 Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Joyville, NM (aka Land of Enchantment) Posts: 10,140 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,636 Thanked 28,119 Times in 6,414 Posts Rep Power: 21474862	Do not promise to do something then back out at the last minute. Do not be subtle. If you love me, tell me. Words count. Actions do too. Do not expect that because I am psychic I will be. Do tell me where you would like to go with me even if we can never get there. Dreams are good. Do not promise anything you can't deliver. Again, I'll do the same for you. __________________ I wrote a book, y'all! *FREE* Tarotscopes Seek Joy, y'all. Eschew hate. 9Words: A Poetry Challenge \| Do you like me?

08-01-2010, 01:16 PM	#273
tuffboi29 Member How Do You Identify?: Queer..in the queer deffinition of the queer meaning of the queer word... Preferred Pronoun?: Mr. SuperTuff Relationship Status: Things happen... Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: somewhere over the rainbow Posts: 483 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 894 Thanked 684 Times in 293 Posts Rep Power: 93006	DO NOT... Touch my stogies!!!! They are mine. If you want one...ask first please. Also... Apparently.... (generally speaking) femmes do not seem to appreciate carburetors left on the kitchen table for rebuilding. Sorry... __________________ "Today we would pass through the scenes of our youth like travelers. We are burnt up by hard facts; like tradesmen we understand distinctions, and like butchers, necessities. We are no longer untroubled - we are indifferent. We might exist there; but, should we really live there?" ~Erich Maria Remarque "All Quiet on the Western Front" http://a6.sphotos.ak.fbcdn.net/hphot..._4605968_n.jpg

08-01-2010, 01:30 PM	#274
TenderKnight Member How Do You Identify?: Kinky Poly Transman Preferred Pronoun?: He Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Monroe, NC Posts: 551 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 773 Thanked 822 Times in 256 Posts Rep Power: 2402408	If you meet someone online and send them a picture, please have it be a recent one, meaning no longer then a year ago.. If you've changed a LOT from the picture you've sent and what you look like in real life, the truth WILL come out and yes, sometimes it does matter.. __________________ The beatings shall continue.. until moral improves..

08-01-2010, 01:52 PM	#275
violaine Timed Out How Do You Identify?: atypical Preferred Pronoun?: plague words and phrases Relationship Status: love wise guys of the avian world Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: wekiva springs basin Posts: 3,236 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,934 Thanked 3,293 Times in 1,301 Posts Rep Power: 0	push me if i'm in need of space - disrespect what is mine, your story is respected as it is an honour to listen to the journey of another human being as their story unfolds-

08-01-2010, 02:16 PM	#276
AtLast Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Woman Preferred Pronoun?: HER - SHE Relationship Status: Relating Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: CA & AZ I'm a Snowbird Posts: 5,408 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,826 Thanked 10,828 Times in 3,199 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	This may sound trite, but, screaming at me just does not go over well. especially obscenities. Verbal abuse is verbal abuse. Not talking about raising one's voice to make a point or to get my attention. But, I will hear this and give my undivided attention so partner's have never had to go to the screech level. ARGH... there is a lesbian couple living across the street from me and one of them is a mega ragea-holic. out of control and very loud!! I am so tired of hearing her scrteam at her partner. Why the partner stays is beyond me. Besides, it's noise pollution and I don't want to know the details of their relationship issues. I wish they would get some help.. or just break up and move!!

08-01-2010, 02:26 PM	#277
Lynn Member How Do You Identify?: Unabashed Feminine Lesbian Preferred Pronoun?: Her, She Relationship Status: Married! Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Upstate NY Posts: 689 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,499 Thanked 2,413 Times in 504 Posts Rep Power: 9668975	Don't tell me how to spend money. Don't try to dictate my priorities. It isn't necessary for us to enjoy all the same things, but don't belittle my interests. Same for my friends and my aspirations. __________________ In the flush of love's light we dare be brave And suddenly we see that love costs all we are and will ever be. Yet it is only love which sets us free. Maya Angelou Wedding Photos: https://www.facebook.com/media/set/?...1&l=22b092b98c

08-01-2010, 02:30 PM	#278
JustJo Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: pushy broad Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Follow your heart; it knows things your mind cannot explain. Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Southeast corner Posts: 5,633 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 24,417 Thanked 25,406 Times in 4,660 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	Please do not: tell me how I "should" be...I am who and how I am...and my way of being is as a valid as yours rage at me...I cannot hear you if you shout, accuse or cuss. My brain and emotions shut down and I stop being able to hear put others before me all the time. Yes, others count and will be first sometimes, but I should not always be last on the list pretend that my reality isn't what it is...if you hate kids, cats, or stubborn women...then I'm not the woman for you expect me to read your mind...tell me what you want, what you think and how you feel. I will always listen....but I need you to tell me close down on me verbally, sexually or emotionally. If you need space, tell me and I'll honor that...but if you just "leave" don't be surprised when I react by feeling abandoned __________________ I'm not tall enough to ride emotional roller coasters

08-01-2010, 02:34 PM	#279
Diva Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Diva Preferred Pronoun?: Diva Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Chez Diva Posts: 11,879 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,263 Thanked 17,174 Times in 5,239 Posts Rep Power: 0	....wash my red t~shirt with His white ones..... Oooooooo ....that was a bad day.....

08-01-2010, 02:39 PM	#280
TenderKnight Member How Do You Identify?: Kinky Poly Transman Preferred Pronoun?: He Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Monroe, NC Posts: 551 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 773 Thanked 822 Times in 256 Posts Rep Power: 2402408	A few people have stated something along these lines, but I will add to the do not list.. Do not scream and rage at me in public and expect a reaction.. I shut down and if you think that means that I don't care or am not a Top, frankly, fuck you, I'm gone. Do not scream at me and expect the same in return, again, I shut down and I'm confused and hurting at this point. Do not think that just because I'm a switch that I can be pushed around. Do not expect me to be a role.. I'm a human being and I have feelings and sometimes I just CAN'T be your Dad. Do not belittle me in public. Not in front of friends and CERTAINLY not in front of or IN my work place.. Show some fucking class. Do not expect me to be perfect and to be your Knight in shining armor.. Underneath that armor is a human being who can be a Knight but can also be a scared little boy. That being said.. I still have a lot of hurt and anger going on.. Can you tell? lol __________________ The beatings shall continue.. until moral improves..