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For me it is offensive because the father is not respecting his child. Just because he wants to live his kink, it doesn't give him the right to force his child to live it with him. That is child abuse.
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I am not trying to argue. I find this situation icky too. I just don't believe it is that harmful to the child. Andrea
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Perhaps because none of us are a 12 year old straight boy it is hard to understand. Quite frankly, I get it. I as a parent would not expose my kid to my kink, it's mine, I own it.
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Ok and on the funny side, I'm surprised wearing a tail in Oklahoma, a hunter hasn't wanted to declare open season on her. I'm all for different strokes for different folks as long as children aren't involved.
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I have to ask as everyone goes ewww and ickie, has anyone considered that we may have furries in this very community..
How do we know this 12 year old is straight? Why isn't the mother being told? Why is it wrong for an adult to wear a tail? Has the father taken time to talk to his kid? What does public mean? Is the furrie going to a school function in furrie wear? Is the issue cause the person is transgendred? A slave? Or a furrie? I'm curious as a slave Owner with kids.
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If the father was taking the sons feelings and thoughts into consideration,and having an open,honest conversation about it instead of saying"the kid just has to deal with it" then i would be less apt to have the knee jerk reaction that i had. Personally i think it sets a bad example to expose a child to any out of the norm behavior without at least some conversations/explanations concerning it.
To me it reads as the childs feelings,thoughts etc do not count--at the very least that is telling the child he does not count. As a mother i would want to know what my child is being subjected too...hell my son is 16 and i STILL worry about what he is exposed to,as well as worry about how things affect him--emotionally,personally etc etc I think communication is key in EVERY relationship...mother or father/child husband/wife, girlfriend/girlfriend etc. sidenote: when i say "out of the norm behavior" i do not mean it in a derogatory manner,but honestly there are things that are deemed norm/not norm in EVERY group of ppl and society. |
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[QUOTE=The_Lady_Snow;371902]I have to ask as everyone goes ewww and ickie, has anyone considered that we may have furries in this very community..
Not icky or eeewwwing personally. How do we know this 12 year old is straight? We don't, it is however assumed Why isn't the mother being told? Good question Why is it wrong for an adult to wear a tail? It isn't Has the father taken time to talk to his kid? Unknown What does public mean? Is the furrie going to a school function in furrie wear? Unknown, don't know where the public exposure is. Is the issue cause the person is transgendred? A slave? Or a furrie? I think the issue is the boy being exposed to the person against his will, from what I got from the OP I'm curious as a slave Owner with kids.
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The mother should be called if she doesn't know what is going on with her child, and why isn't the kid talking to his mom?
PS- Oklahoma's kink community is HUGE they have one of the BEST Leather/BDSM events in the Midwest,
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Very good questions, Ms. Snow. Andrea
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I don't particularly like vanilla Andrea or creamed corn yet I'm not gonna go ewwwww ickie and not consider folks that do.
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I think it is so wrong to expose a 12 year old to your kink if that 12 year old is distressed by it. Kink is an adult domain. If the kid is uncomfortable, why expose him to it? The duty of a parent is to protect the child. Exposing the kid to your same-sex or trans partner is one thing, cause that is not a kink. And, the mother should know what is going on, for sure. I would tell her, Okie, if I were you, and have a talk with his dad about it.
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I personally think we are missing the point. Adults can do as they wish, a kid has no business in an adults kink. That's my POV. What adults do with other consenting adults is hunkie dory. From the OP I get that the kid is not consenting, nor an adult.
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Look - I am not going to defend the parents here or the child... Because all we have is a brief synopsis from the OP Okie.
Once upon a time my eldest was unhappy that I was a lesbian and had a very butch partner. I forced my child to live with this. I am/was the custodial parent. Was I being an abusive parent? Should they have been taken away from me, because I lived as an open out there militant dyke. There are people in this world that feel my children were being abused by being subjected to my homosexuality. How does this really differ? Who are we to say what is right and what is wrong? Kids will have issues. We sometimes as parents add to their issues, but it is our responsibility as parents to be sensitive and have communication. That would be the question for me. Are the parents being open with this child and are they hearing him and explaining things in a form which might make the child understand more? In some communities in society - being gay or lesbian is considered deviant and kinky.
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I'm confused as why the OP didn't go or hasn't gone to the unknowing mom, yet now all of us and the internets know. How unfair that the Mother has no clue yet we do.
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As the mom of a (presumably) straight 13 year old boy, I think Mom should definitely be told...and someone needs to be talking to Dad also.
As parents, it's our responsibility to make sure that our kids are okay...and anything that makes them embarassed or uncomfortable should be talked about - whether it has to do with sex or anything else. For me, this shows that dad is being incredibly insensitive to his child's needs and feelings. If the child is actually being targeted by his peers, then it's even worse than insensitivity on Dad's part.
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Is the child being educated that current partner is transgendered? I feel THAT in itself is a topic they should be discussing, the slave tail part would be the least of my worries.
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Gay men are still placed along side with pedophilia. I am not disagreeing - I think the parents need to speak with the child, if they have not already done so. We really do not have all the details and all we are doing is judging. Do you not see the judgment here? And all this based on a few lines of text.
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