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I feel in order to be loved one has to love oneself. The more I love myself, the more I can love someone else. Expectations? Well, I think the more I love being in the company of someone who can be themselves, by sharing laughter, conversation, heartaches, etc., the more I feel I have found my "best friend" and this is a feeling no one can express in mere words. In essence, they show their love, and in return, I show them love back.
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O June, June, June. I'll be first in line to buy your book of rules! I love a good laugh.
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Effort; when I communicate my needs, make an effort by listening and then making the appropriate changes. If there is anything I need to do differently, let me know and I'll make the changes. Effort means a lot to me.... I don't expect perfection but some effort and mutual give and take is lets me know that i'm loved, which I am feeling presently... I am feeling the 'love'
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Why'd you have to take it there June? Now I need a cold shower.
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kind gestures..kisses..emotional intimacy
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love this thread!!
Strong trust bond...
I would rather someone talk to me about a fear or insecurity before making up stuff in their head about it. I know I am gonna try like hell to do the same. Checking in with each other regularly... I am gonna approach the person I am with and ask if everything is ok with the relationship. I am gonna ask if there is something I can do to make things easier/smoother. I am gonna ask if I am igniting the fire on the regular or if I need to step it up. My expectation is my partner do the same. I have had some great all night long conversations from this approach. Support the girl and the growth... I am a proud sponsor of the "you go on and grow girl" club . No membership fee required to join. Life is short and we all gotta get our piece of the pie in every compartment of our lives. I need this to be reciprocated. Common interests and support of things that are not so commonly interesting to one party or the other. Enthusiasm Passion and input please and I am not talking about sex. I am referring to opinions about the life we are living and having them. Sex is important to me in a relationship in order to feel loved. I am a lover of fucking and having painful raw dirty random renedevouz's so I am gonna be cruising my mate constantly inside the home and outside the home. I like to feel this reciprocated. this makes me feel loved and secure this also makes me feel loved and secure willingness to negotiate is a good quality i may or may not be back to post more... |
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ok anyyyyyyyway lol.. I have no one way to feel love..I think each person loves differently..and each person recieves love differently..I remember the first time my first (ex) told me she loved me..she kept staring at me over dinner..and of course I asked what? and she said I need to show you..so she took my hand and traced the words I love you on it..it was a moment I know I will never forget..because without words she showed me..it was what our relationship was all about..showing!..it was in the "doing' of something not the "saying" of it.. Now fast forward 20+ years and its in all ways..I love to be romanced..I love to have notes left in places like my lunch box or car door..just saying..hello beautiful..it takes my breath for that moment..that is very powerful for me..I love to hear it as well..but..to me loving a partner must encompass what the word Partner truely means to you..it means everything to me..we share everything..im your rock you are mine..I do not feel the need to be reassured 24/7 of your love for me..but when we are together It will be known, felt..in a touch a certain look..the tone of voice in the conversation we are having. Im a queen and treat hym like a king..and I reap the rewards from that..it is unspoken yet it is the loudest I have ever heard it!.. Lillie
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I like the "wood" too!" lol sorry had to
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I was thinking about this tonight, as I drove into the driveway after dinner out with some old work friends. After five years together, I still feel so loved and so loving. The two go hand in hand. I'm so appreciative of the "little things" she does and gives me every day which all amount to support, validation, and kindness. Contrasted with my past marriage, which seemed to be all about changing me, "helping me" overcome my weaknesses, and expecting me to meet his needs as a prerequisite to meeting my own. I felt like shit all the time. I've never been younger, sexier, prettier, smarter, more important, and more worthy of respect and adoration. Imagine that. So, to feel loved I need to be truly...loved. For me, that means support, validation, and kindness. It's so easy for me to return in kind when I feel so good.
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I had a terribly cynical post composed in my head, but I think I will go with this instead....
Acceptance. There are just certain things I need accepted from the get-go and I feel loved and things go smoothly. They are, in no order of importance... - Accept the fact that I am a nice guy. I am not going to treat you poorly. It's just not in me. If you are the kind of girl who is attracted to jerks, do us both a favor and move along. - Accept that between early April and late October my attention is deeply divided between baseball and everything else in the universe. - Accept that I am not that much a "do it yourself" guy anymore. I'm more a "hire someone and give me the bill" kind of guy. This comes with age. - Accept that I have old-fashioned manners and they are automatic. - Accept that I have worked hard to communicate with women in an open, honest and direct fashion. If you can't take the heat, don't step foot in my furnace room, doll. - Accept that I work a lot. I mean, a lot. And if it's an election year, a nice vacation awaits for you the day after the first Tuesday in November. My treat. - Accept that I like to give gifts, buy flowers and don't like any fuss whatsoever on my birthday. - Accept that I sometimes like to wear my green sweatshirt with more holes than a sponge when I am lounging on the couch reading a sports magazine. - Accept that I like time alone and I'm perfectly fine when you go out with the girls. - Accept the fact that stress makes me horny and I have a very stressful job lately. - Accept the fact, too, that if I come home from work and find you in one of my dress shirts and nothing else, it is game on. I'm sure there's more...but I'm finding it to easy to drift to cynical lately. We all deserve love. And if everyone clearly stated their needs from the start, I think there'd be a whole hell of a lot less heartbreak. Jake |
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