The Love list. - Page 2

Starrynightaw · 06-20-2011, 02:56 PM

Okay here goes a few im just grabbing out of the thoughts.

Honest
Loyal
Over 30
Wants kids
Family orientated
Wants a marriage/ commitment ceremony at some point
Stable financially and emotionally
Dominant
Aggressive
Protective
Loves animals
Monogamous

Thats pretty good so far.

Mr Nice Guy · 06-20-2011, 03:05 PM

Hey Starry, nice list Now remember people to think positive!!! I have faith enough for all of us and I mean ALL of us.

bigbutchmistie · 06-20-2011, 03:08 PM

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Originally Posted by ElusiveButch

Hey Starry, nice list Now remember people to think positive!!! I have faith enough for all of us and I mean ALL of us.

I'm glad you have hope Elusive cause I lost hope. That's my list and its non negotiable.

Mr Nice Guy · 06-20-2011, 03:18 PM

Big, it will happen even if I have to help. I think you know me on the other site. "Handsome" ring a bell? If you know me there then you know how I can be. So yes I do have faith that you will find love with or without my help.

cinderella · 06-20-2011, 09:51 PM

You are one very easy dude...or are you?

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Originally Posted by MrSunshine

1. Sweet

everything else is cake

Puplove · 06-20-2011, 11:06 PM

I have one:

Be the Oiler.

Funny how all those MUSTS become insignificant when you meet the one, because the one just fits. If everything was exactly according to the requirements I'd planned, it would be kind of creepy. How would I know the Oiler was a real person and not just a a co-dependent extension of myself? Someone with real wishes, self-determination, quirks and flaws that don't depend on my approval? A real person I can love and trust to be himself while loving me for who I am too.

A key ingredient is that I had to love and be confident in myself and my flaws, and quirks first, to be truly happy with myself and my own company. Then, the person right for you can find you because you're showing your true self in every situation.

dixie · 06-21-2011, 12:51 AM

Someone I can trust who trusts me in return.

Someone who can be my friend, not just my partner/lover.

Someone who appreciates me as I am, as a whole, inside and out.

Someone who not only appreciates me but enjoys me as well.

Someone who realizes that when I fall in love, I love deeply.

Someone who realizes that when I go into a relationship I go in looking for forever, not for "just now".

Mr Nice Guy · 06-21-2011, 03:40 AM

Dixie, now that's a great list. I know a beautiful woman like you will not have a problem.

girl_dee · 06-21-2011, 05:57 AM

I can see why it took me so long to find a life partner.

I don't know how to be on time and I am not patient, now I know what I was doing wrong! (I am working on the patience thing)

Are any of us as perfect as these lists??

If these are non negotiable, how do you go about finding the perfect human being? I mean I understand addictions and major obstacles like children but wow, some of these are pretty small things in the grand scheme of life..

Just wondering....

girl_dee · 06-21-2011, 06:01 AM

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Originally Posted by ElusiveButch

Dixie, now that's a great list. I know a beautiful woman like you will not have a problem.

But, but beautiful is just part of it.. (and I agree she is)..what if she ummm does not love dogs or something? Beautiful can only go so far... What if she has a tendency to be late or tap her toe... That's it?

disclaimer: Hypothetically using Dixie here, I am sure she loves dogs.

dixie · 06-21-2011, 06:06 AM

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Originally Posted by sassy_girl

I can see why it took me so long to find a life partner.

I don't know how to be on time and I am not patient, now I know what I was doing wrong! (I am working on the patience thing)

Are any of us as perfect as these lists??

If these are non negotiable, how do you go about finding the perfect human being? I mean I understand addictions and major obstacles like children but wow, some of these are pretty small things in the grand scheme of life..

Just wondering....

I'd say for some, it's just a wishlist. For others, perhaps these things are necessities. I agree that I've looked at a few of these lists and thought the same thing Sassy lol.

For me personally, mine is a wishlist of things I would like. Hopefully my list doesn't come across as too superficial, as it deals with core things important to me. I know I'm not perfect. I also wouldn't want a perfect partner. That would be kinda boring. For me, I just want someone genuine who genuinely wants me in return.

dixie · 06-21-2011, 06:15 AM

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Originally Posted by sassy_girl

But, but beautiful is just part of it.. (and I agree she is)..what if she ummm does not love dogs or something? Beautiful can only go so far... What if she has a tendency to be late or tap her toe... That's it?

disclaimer: Hypothetically using Dixie here, I am sure she loves dogs.

Oh, like I said...I am very far from perfect. Although I do love dogs and am never late (lol), I have many many more faults, just as most other folks do. (The occasional toe-tapping, talking too much sometimes, yada yada, the list probably goes on and on...lol) I don't see myself as beautiful, therefore beauty/looks doesn't go very far in my opinion. Hopefully it's the little things, the positive things, that will help outweigh my faults in the eyes of someone special to me. Just as any faults they have are outweighed by their positives. I guess for me it's all about balances.

Oh, and I will also say that I agree with Puplove, that when you meet that someone, all those little things disappear. Sometimes, even what you once considered a fault kinda melts away, and sometimes even becomes an endearing quality.

asphaltcowboi · 06-21-2011, 07:48 AM

wow alot of great lists.. seems most of us are looking for pretty much the same thing.. hmm ..for me i think looking for the small things in someone is what keeps me for "jumping" into a relationship.
looks are only somewhat important but not as important as someone that keeps themself clean/sharp and have self pride. but for my liking has to be femme.
someone who respects me but does not fear me.
will tell me when im wrong (not just let it slide)
someone that can agree to disagree without a underlieing reason
someone willing to be 50/50.. yard work,house work and excepts that im butch and i prefer to do the heavy stuff.
someone that will be themself right from the start not change soon as they know my heart is into them. other then the natural growing/changing.
someone who loves animals
someone who has self esteem with or without me by there side.
does not change just to impress others
someone who is comfertable in there own skin and is just as comfertable next to mine.
drives my energy level puts that extra bounce in my step
lets me know were all good in pubic.. like when others are checking her out she takes my hand or slips her hand in my back pocket or puts an arm around me.
doesnt care about my spelling or my lazy way of talking
sees more in me then just a butch biker motor head.
someone that believes that forever does and can happen
i could do pages of stuff but i think for me it gets down to someone who loves me for me and that i can love them for them.. not phoney..but is always true to there inner being and not afraid to be that person
im sure there is more but basics.. be yourself not who you think i would want you to be. give me the chance to know who you really are befor i break my own heart.

LaneyDoll · 06-21-2011, 09:10 AM

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Originally Posted by sassy_girl

Beautiful can only go so far...

I agree! And don't forget---"pretty is as pretty does." You can be the most stunningly beautiful woman in the room and have an ugly heart and who is attracted to that?

LaneyDoll · 06-21-2011, 09:15 AM

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Originally Posted by ElusiveButch

Dixie, now that's a great list. I know a beautiful woman like you will not have a problem.

Yes, Dixie is quite lovely. And I hope she does not mind that we are referencing the comment directed at her.

Sometimes I think that the prettier someone is, the harder time they have. People automatically write you off as unapproachable, stuck-up, obviously involved etc. I may be wrong though, these are just my random thoughts on Tuesday morning.

girl_dee · 06-21-2011, 10:13 AM

Damn, now I think I love Dixie.

Nope, I know it.

she loves dogs

Mr Nice Guy · 06-21-2011, 10:37 AM

Hey Ladies, can't read it all but I think on my list it doesn't say anything about being on time. Heck as long as you love me I'm happy. Oh and have a great day beautiful Ladies and cute butches. I love the Ladies!!!

Glenn · 06-21-2011, 11:50 AM

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Originally Posted by sassy_girl

Damn, now I think I love Dixie.

Nope, I know it.

she loves dogs

Dogs are more loyal lol!
I have been searching for a genuine psi-kick connection from way over here.. behind the screen...behind the veil of maya/ delusion. Someone who feels me..intuits me.. who knows what I'm thinking..going to say..without speaking.. a solid higher soul connection.. who I dream about when I see their pic...that's all. Bottom line is everyone needs to be truly loved.

Mr Nice Guy · 06-21-2011, 12:14 PM

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Originally Posted by popcorninthesofa

Dogs are more loyal lol!
I have been searching for a genuine psi-kick connection from way over here.. behind the screen...behind the veil of maya/ delusion. Someone who feels me..intuits me.. who knows what I'm thinking..going to say..without speaking.. a solid higher soul connection.. who I dream about when I see their pic...that's all. Bottom line is everyone needs to be truly loved.

Hey Pop, I like it someone who agrees with me on everybody needs love. Cool.

hey did you ever get that popcorn out of the sofa? Sorry couldn't help myself.

Mr Nice Guy · 06-21-2011, 12:39 PM

Ok, Elusive here and I'm adding two things to my list.
Must like to be f$&ked and gives a good bj.
Sorry if that was crude. But I forgot to put that on the list.

06-20-2011, 11:06 PM	#26
Puplove Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Austin TX Posts: 904 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 879 Thanked 3,216 Times in 705 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	I have one: Be the Oiler. Funny how all those MUSTS become insignificant when you meet the one, because the one just fits. If everything was exactly according to the requirements I'd planned, it would be kind of creepy. How would I know the Oiler was a real person and not just a a co-dependent extension of myself? Someone with real wishes, self-determination, quirks and flaws that don't depend on my approval? A real person I can love and trust to be himself while loving me for who I am too. A key ingredient is that I had to love and be confident in myself and my flaws, and quirks first, to be truly happy with myself and my own company. Then, the person right for you can find you because you're showing your true self in every situation. __________________ Alice laughed: "There's no use trying," she said; "one can't believe impossible things." "I daresay you haven't had much practice," said the Queen. "...Why, sometimes I've believed as many as six impossible things before breakfast." Last edited by Puplove; 06-20-2011 at 11:07 PM. Reason: oh grammar - a flaw!

06-21-2011, 05:57 AM	#29
girl_dee Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: dee Relationship Status: Hitched up Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Livin’ the Dream Posts: 24,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,560 Thanked 54,941 Times in 13,921 Posts Rep Power: 21474873	I can see why it took me so long to find a life partner. I don't know how to be on time and I am not patient, now I know what I was doing wrong! (I am working on the patience thing) Are any of us as perfect as these lists?? If these are non negotiable, how do you go about finding the perfect human being? I mean I understand addictions and major obstacles like children but wow, some of these are pretty small things in the grand scheme of life.. Just wondering.... Last edited by girl_dee; 06-21-2011 at 05:58 AM. Reason: added more finesse...

06-21-2011, 07:48 AM	#33
asphaltcowboi Senior Member How Do You Identify?: butch Relationship Status: HAPPY Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: ..... Posts: 1,509 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,367 Thanked 3,297 Times in 1,042 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	wow alot of great lists.. seems most of us are looking for pretty much the same thing.. hmm ..for me i think looking for the small things in someone is what keeps me for "jumping" into a relationship. looks are only somewhat important but not as important as someone that keeps themself clean/sharp and have self pride. but for my liking has to be femme. someone who respects me but does not fear me. will tell me when im wrong (not just let it slide) someone that can agree to disagree without a underlieing reason someone willing to be 50/50.. yard work,house work and excepts that im butch and i prefer to do the heavy stuff. someone that will be themself right from the start not change soon as they know my heart is into them. other then the natural growing/changing. someone who loves animals someone who has self esteem with or without me by there side. does not change just to impress others someone who is comfertable in there own skin and is just as comfertable next to mine. drives my energy level puts that extra bounce in my step lets me know were all good in pubic.. like when others are checking her out she takes my hand or slips her hand in my back pocket or puts an arm around me. doesnt care about my spelling or my lazy way of talking sees more in me then just a butch biker motor head. someone that believes that forever does and can happen i could do pages of stuff but i think for me it gets down to someone who loves me for me and that i can love them for them.. not phoney..but is always true to there inner being and not afraid to be that person im sure there is more but basics.. be yourself not who you think i would want you to be. give me the chance to know who you really are befor i break my own heart. __________________

06-20-2011, 02:56 PM	#21
Starrynightaw Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme. Queer. Submissive. Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, Girl, Honey :) Relationship Status: Single! Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Southern Alabama, But I can also be found in surrounding areas. (Travel Alot) Posts: 89 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11 Thanked 168 Times in 55 Posts Rep Power: 745054	Okay here goes a few im just grabbing out of the thoughts. Honest Loyal Over 30 Wants kids Family orientated Wants a marriage/ commitment ceremony at some point Stable financially and emotionally Dominant Aggressive Protective Loves animals Monogamous Thats pretty good so far.

06-20-2011, 03:05 PM	#22
Mr Nice Guy Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Kind, sweet, loving, romantic and a rare Butch. :) Relationship Status: I don't drive a Uhaul. :) Join Date: May 2011 Location: Another New Englander Posts: 1,768 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,035 Thanked 4,894 Times in 1,307 Posts Rep Power: 0	Hey Starry, nice list Now remember people to think positive!!! I have faith enough for all of us and I mean ALL of us.

06-20-2011, 03:18 PM	#24
Mr Nice Guy Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Kind, sweet, loving, romantic and a rare Butch. :) Relationship Status: I don't drive a Uhaul. :) Join Date: May 2011 Location: Another New Englander Posts: 1,768 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,035 Thanked 4,894 Times in 1,307 Posts Rep Power: 0	Big, it will happen even if I have to help. I think you know me on the other site. "Handsome" ring a bell? If you know me there then you know how I can be. So yes I do have faith that you will find love with or without my help.

06-21-2011, 12:51 AM	#27
dixie Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: I usually just poke it with a stick. Preferred Pronoun?: Bitch Relationship Status: Intertwined deeply Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: We're all a little mad here. Posts: 6,627 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 10,972 Thanked 21,385 Times in 4,808 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	Someone I can trust who trusts me in return. Someone who can be my friend, not just my partner/lover. Someone who appreciates me as I am, as a whole, inside and out. Someone who not only appreciates me but enjoys me as well. Someone who realizes that when I fall in love, I love deeply. Someone who realizes that when I go into a relationship I go in looking for forever, not for "just now".

06-21-2011, 03:40 AM	#28
Mr Nice Guy Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Kind, sweet, loving, romantic and a rare Butch. :) Relationship Status: I don't drive a Uhaul. :) Join Date: May 2011 Location: Another New Englander Posts: 1,768 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,035 Thanked 4,894 Times in 1,307 Posts Rep Power: 0	Dixie, now that's a great list. I know a beautiful woman like you will not have a problem.

06-21-2011, 10:13 AM	#36
girl_dee Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: dee Relationship Status: Hitched up Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Livin’ the Dream Posts: 24,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,560 Thanked 54,941 Times in 13,921 Posts Rep Power: 21474873	Damn, now I think I love Dixie. Nope, I know it. she loves dogs

06-21-2011, 10:37 AM	#37
Mr Nice Guy Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Kind, sweet, loving, romantic and a rare Butch. :) Relationship Status: I don't drive a Uhaul. :) Join Date: May 2011 Location: Another New Englander Posts: 1,768 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,035 Thanked 4,894 Times in 1,307 Posts Rep Power: 0	Hey Ladies, can't read it all but I think on my list it doesn't say anything about being on time. Heck as long as you love me I'm happy. Oh and have a great day beautiful Ladies and cute butches. I love the Ladies!!!

06-21-2011, 12:39 PM	#40
Mr Nice Guy Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Kind, sweet, loving, romantic and a rare Butch. :) Relationship Status: I don't drive a Uhaul. :) Join Date: May 2011 Location: Another New Englander Posts: 1,768 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,035 Thanked 4,894 Times in 1,307 Posts Rep Power: 0	Ok, Elusive here and I'm adding two things to my list. Must like to be f$&ked and gives a good bj. Sorry if that was crude. But I forgot to put that on the list.