what NOT to do in a relationship....... - Page 2

chefhmboyrd · 07-29-2010, 07:12 PM

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Originally Posted by The_Lady_Snow

I got my sex goggles taken away from me due to my training so *I* don't get this sort of thinking, now mind you, if I want to fuck I say it honestly.

Let's fuck.

It's me possibly objectifying someone and we would fuck and I am not in anyway attached nor am I thinking

Oh a relationship.

I am assuming that is what you mean sex goggles.

yes definitely.......

sweetcali · 07-29-2010, 07:14 PM

Goodness.... This is precisely why I firmly believe in having the sex talk within the first 5 minutes of meeting s prospective partner. It certainly would put the heart break hotel out of business and the honeymoon never has to end.

sweetcali

Duchess · 07-29-2010, 07:20 PM

Don't expect to be your partner's only friend

chefhmboyrd · 07-29-2010, 07:22 PM

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Originally Posted by The_Lady_Snow

Gotcha...

Which answers my question about the sex goggles which leads me to the I was trained (I can expand if needed) so therefore my thinking when it comes to sexual desires is based on a lot more than carnal OR I just want it and it's someone to have sex with because frankly sex is good.

SO I have to ask what is it about this super duper sex that makes you forget judgement?

What is so different?

Truly curious

it's the person
the chemistry
great sex makes me act stupid.....
and prolonged exposure can warp a man's mind into thinking that the big giant huge sucking black hole of need that you are fucking is a sweet demure flower until it starts following you around the house screaming "feed me seymour, feed me"

Ebon · 07-29-2010, 07:24 PM

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Originally Posted by chefhmboyrd

it's the person
the chemistry
great sex makes me act stupid.....
and prolonged exposure can warp a man's mind into thinking that the big giant huge sucking black hole of need that you are fucking is a sweet demure flower until it starts following you around the house screaming "feed me seymour, feed me"

OMG tell me about it! It's hard not to become a complete idiot and lose all common sense.

The_Lady_Snow · 07-29-2010, 07:30 PM

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Originally Posted by chefhmboyrd

it's the person
the chemistry
great sex makes me act stupid.....
and prolonged exposure can warp a man's mind into thinking that the big giant huge sucking black hole of need that you are fucking is a sweet demure flower until it starts following you around the house screaming "feed me seymour, feed me"

See if Seymour had done a LITTLE more research on them sweet cute lil plants with teeth before he got all lollipops and rainbows.

Seymour could of seen and realized (though I think Seymour chose not to see it) that he was housing a man eating *plant*

One can't really blame the plant, the plant is what it is, Seymour on the other hand, being florist should of had his info but no Seymour fell for the glitz glamour and totally did not see the pretty deadly jaws of AudreyII.

I feel a song coming on

chefhmboyrd · 07-29-2010, 07:39 PM

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Originally Posted by The_Lady_Snow

See if Seymour had done a LITTLE more research on them sweet cute lil plants with teeth before he got all lollipops and rainbows.

Seymour could of seen and realized (though I think Seymour chose not to see it) that he was housing a man eating *plant*

One can't really blame the plant, the plant is what it is, Seymour on the other hand, being florist should of had his info but no Seymour fell for the glitz glamour and totally did not see the pretty deadly jaws of AudreyII.

I feel a song coming on

(((((( hanging head in shame))))))))))

once again it's seymour's fault........

dark_crystal · 07-29-2010, 07:39 PM

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Originally Posted by EntycingFemme

*I* personally absolutely agree with everything you said- as for the why's? I honestly can't answer, because I really don't know why some couples veer off the honeymoon path, I have no earthly idea where the intensity goes, or where the emotional attachment goes... or even where the raw need for sex goes!
I think it's a shame tho.. to lose something so intense.
I can only speculate that things happen.... maybe a physical condition or deep depression affecting one partner for instance?

i think for me...in the past...what has caused the honeymoon to end, is me being dysfunctional...i tend towards avoidance and i hate confrontation so i won't ever say anything that might be un-pleasing...and this has tended to lead to a lot of built up petty resentments

Duchess · 07-29-2010, 07:46 PM

Don't explain away bullshit, lies, etc...Absorb and process the real deal.

Duchess

betenoire · 07-29-2010, 07:53 PM

If your lady fair does not answer the phone, do not call her work, her mother, her best friend, her favourite cafe, and her dentist in an effort to track her down. Leave a message and wait for her to call you back. Lordy!

Rockinonahigh · 07-29-2010, 08:03 PM

What I wont do in a relationship or have done to me is ever expect my other half to not have a voice in the reltionship..I value what she has to say no mater where we may be in the relationship.
As for any power exchanges there is an eb and flow that we should share so not to cause the other to feel less than.
Any friendshipe we have had should contenue as long as they dont cause probs with us..if so we should talk it out cause what seems one way may not be what it looks like,but if it causeing probs maybe a bit of a time out from wich ever friend for a bit to see how it works out.
Things should be discused when ever it needs to be to keep healthy chanels open.
As for sex,we need to be on the same page about what we want but not ever lose the ablity to go with the flow and just injoy the experence how ever it plays out.If either of us have boundries,be minfull of them.

The_Lady_Snow · 07-29-2010, 08:14 PM

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Originally Posted by chefhmboyrd

(((((( hanging head in shame))))))))))

once again it's seymour's fault........

Well yeah.

The plant was very obviously a man eating plant.

Why would a florist bring a man eating plant into his enviroment?

If the sex goggles are the problem, mayhap trying to be with someone without the sex may be something one could consider.

Control release takes trust. lots of it. on both ends

WolfyOne · 07-29-2010, 08:16 PM

Don't walk in front of me, I will not follow
Don't walk behind me, we may both get lost
Walk beside me and be my equal

SuperFemme · 07-29-2010, 08:18 PM

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Originally Posted by WolfyOne

Don't walk in front of me, I will not follow
Don't walk behind me, we may both get lost
Walk beside me and be my equal

so a piggy back ride is out?

SuperFemme · 07-29-2010, 08:19 PM

never EVER poop with the door open and talking to me like we're having coffee at the breakfast bar.

it's too distracting.

dixie · 07-29-2010, 08:23 PM

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Originally Posted by SuperFemme

never EVER poop with the door open and talking to me like we're having coffee at the breakfast bar.

it's too distracting.

OMG! Agreed!!! LOL

Don't call me at work telling me how you love and adore me, then deny that you know anything about the unfamiliar cigarettes and freakin' underwear beside my bed when I get home...I don't smoke menthols, I don't wear underwear, and I wasn't born yesterday....grrrrrrrrrrrrr

tuffboi29 · 07-29-2010, 08:26 PM

The best thing I have learned about relationships...and something I feel to be the most important....comprimise.
It goes a looooooooong way to keep both parties (or in some cases all parties) happy.

The_Lady_Snow · 07-29-2010, 08:27 PM

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Originally Posted by dixielady

OMG! Agreed!!! LOL

Don't call me at work telling me how you love and adore me, then deny that you know anything about the unfamiliar cigarettes and freakin' underwear beside my bed when I get home...I don't smoke menthols, I don't wear underwear, and I wasn't born yesterday....grrrrrrrrrrrrr

.............

WolfyOne · 07-29-2010, 08:28 PM

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Originally Posted by SuperFemme

so a piggy back ride is out?

Not for you.....you know that saying save a horse, ride a cowboi

I just happen to adore you

Ebon · 07-29-2010, 08:33 PM

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Originally Posted by dixielady

OMG! Agreed!!! LOL

Don't call me at work telling me how you love and adore me, then deny that you know anything about the unfamiliar cigarettes and freakin' underwear beside my bed when I get home...I don't smoke menthols, I don't wear underwear, and I wasn't born yesterday....grrrrrrrrrrrrr

Wow is all I can say to this. Just wow.

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