What attracts you to Ftms ...... - Page 20

Toughy · 11-10-2012, 11:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Darbonaire

I'm sorry your life wasn't pleasent then...my family was dysfunctional no matter what decade they were in....lol....but let's just say I miss manners, courtesy, gentleness, education, family time at dinner, less crime, more overall trust & honesty.

At least that is what I experienced. I belive that common courtesy & manners should ALWAYS be exhibited in life no matter what year. I believe that gentlemanly actions & manners are lacking a lot now days....as in common politeness & courtesy.

No the '50's may not have been perfect, you're right.....but, they did have some things I miss now days. It's a shame that these things are referred to as "old time' values & traits.

Jonathan

I never said my life was unpleasant. I had a great childhood with a relatively functional family.

I saw as many bad manners and lack of a family time at dinner and lack of common courtesy etc among my friend's families as I saw among other friend's mannered families. June and Ward were not the norm in the 50's anymore than bad manners are the norm in the 21st century.

MarquisdeShey · 01-20-2013, 10:45 PM

Strength - the fact a woman/man can transition into the masculine/feminine realm makes nature and nurturer incredible. We are acculturated to belittle each others potential as men and as women. Change is powerful, we all know a lava becomes a butterfly by an incredible journey, all transitioning FtM/MtF are metamorphic - mind, spirit and then body.

Sensuality - I can't help but to think of Hermaphroditus born to the gods of female and male sexuality - you are in touch with all that is intense and powerful when it comes to the carnal aspect of being human. Thus I bow my head to you, for you so gracefully walked between two lines. More so, I respect the integrity that comes from being both. It's exotic.

Beauty - we are always changing. We are always evolving. FtMs are like mirrors. We often see ourselves with one face. FtMs have experienced and touched both of their faces.

Relationships come from trust, love, respect, and integrity. Its not who, but how you love that matters. As long as we battle with issues of equality we will battle. When we no longer need to explain ourselves and defend our humanity, well, we will all be having a whole lot hot sex...Smiles...

Thanks for being who you are.

Kent · 01-31-2013, 09:19 PM

Bumpity bump...

Nadeest · 02-06-2013, 07:57 AM

I find it very easy to talk to ftms, as we often have similar experiences.

Bèsame* · 02-06-2013, 09:50 AM

I'm very attracted to courage.

Kent · 03-31-2013, 01:14 PM

Just a little Bump....

firegal · 03-31-2013, 06:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Kent

Just a little Bump....

Kent you keep getting these bump thingy,s

allergic to sumpin?

Happy Easter bro!

Heavenleahangel · 03-31-2013, 06:11 PM

Its not so much an attraction, but I totally "get it" when it comes to ftm's and it drives me wild! Its the respect, the special bond, the pleasure that no other can provide! Oh, be still my heart!!! I wish there were more ftm's around here. Maybe I should look at the idea of relocating!!! Heck, I'm only looking for ONE!!!

Kent · 07-05-2013, 02:48 PM

C'mon ladies, tell us how you really feel and what you find attractive in the trans guys you date...

Kent · 07-05-2013, 02:51 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by firegal

Kent you keep getting these bump thingy,s

allergic to sumpin?

Happy Easter bro!

Firegal, hey.. Sorry I missed your Happy Easter greeting. Happy late 4th of July...

stepfordfemme · 07-05-2013, 04:27 PM

Fuzzy Treasure trails down his stomach.....

Scars. For the all the life long battles he's fought. They are reminders of his strength and courage.

Kisses First when the door opens. Then "Hi" Then more kissing.

That impish smirk across his face, especially when you know he's thinking something evil.

Stubble. Across your silky skin in contrast to his roughness. Yum.

The smell of him on your skin when you're home in your own bed. Bliss.

His voice. Rawr.

His bookshelf. A book on his nightstand next to his glasses. *swoon*

Nadeest · 07-05-2013, 06:11 PM

I haven't had any ask me out, lately.

VintageFemme · 07-05-2013, 08:39 PM

Strength. Strength of mind, heart, soul and conviction. It takes a lot of courage to be who you really are and in some instances, to even know who you really are. This is the trait I find most desirable in FTM's.

And then the list of how incredibly sexy they can be just continues on from there...

Mhmmmm

Koffeelvr · 08-11-2013, 01:09 PM

Up to this point I have only dated women but I am finding myself more and more attracted to energy, packaging is less and less important.

I agree with this ...

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Originally Posted by Diva

I guess I would have to say that I am first attracted to Someone's personality first....their spirit...their soul....and oh, look!....He's an FtM.....ok then.

Kurt · 09-14-2013, 11:07 AM

Enjoyed reading through some of these posts. Haven't finished yet, but plan to..lol Very interested in seeing more of what the ladies are attracted to about us.....

1ladyface · 10-08-2013, 04:31 PM

I have a notebook I am now convinced is magic. It's nothing special, just a plain college-ruled notebook from Target but several years ago I wrote down everything I was looking for in a dog, right down to the ridiculous little details, before I went to the animal shelter. (adult dog, blocky heady, floppy ears, short fur, 40-60 lbs, swimmer, snuggler, big smile, affectionate, house-trained, knows basic commands, will answer to "Annie Boots", etc) When I did go to the shelter my little girl was there! And her name was already Annie.

I used the same magic notebook to write down everything I was looking for in a partner, again, right down to the ridiculous little details. (taller/bigger than me, female born and masculine, chivalrous, tattooed, non-smoker, protective but not jealous, cowboy archetype, kinky, intelligent, dislikes children, loves dogs, pastry chef, etc.) Over time the list came to fill an entire page of the notebook. And it got left on a shelf and forgotten, until I met Oliver.

Six months after moving to Oakland I met a wonderful FTM guy. Our first date was drinks and then a walk around Lake Merritt. Our second date he made an amazing dinner. Afterwards he showed me how to make truffles...and outed himself as a pastry chef.

I was reminded of the notebook and checked it the next morning. He was ALL of the things, right down to the astrological sign.

Now Oliver and I have been together four months. I recently showed him the magic notebook and we used it to write down a detailed description of our dream home. (a dog-friendly old converted industrial loft in Oakland with enough space for him to throw epic dinner parties and for me to have a sewing workspace. Natural light, exposed brick, gas stove, etc)

So maybe the notebook isn’t *really* magic but it did show me just how powerful clarity, intention, ritual and instinct can be. And that might even be better than magic.

1ladyface · 10-08-2013, 04:56 PM

My guy is the cowboy archetype and I'm the absent-minded professor archetype.

He is a:
street smart
action oriented
stone and somewhat stoic
fiercely loyal
protective
physically skilled
risk taker

I am a:
book smart
quiet
quirky
head-in-the-clouds, lost-in-thought
creative
empath
who enjoys doing things slowly and deliberately

We balance each other really well. He spurs me to action when I might otherwise overthink and become immobilized. And I remind him to slow down and breath. He's calm in a crisis and I have ALL the feelings. But on the rare occasion that he has feelings that he needs to deal with he knows I'm a safe, non-judgemental person to come to. We both work with our hands and love to make things but as a chef his creative process is loud, fast-paced, improvisational and often collaborative. As a seamstress my creative process is a quiet, slow, deliberate, cerebral and solitary.

I wouldn’t be good at his life and he wouldn’t be good at mine but we have shared values that manifest in very different ways in accordance with our temperaments and I think that’s why we work so well. We understand each others values and motivations but since our shared values have very different outlets there’s an amount of space built-in to our relationship that allows for some breathing room and individuality. It also allows us to admire each other from a distance.

His gorilla hands and my bunny heart make an excellent team.

gotoseagrl · 12-27-2013, 10:18 PM

most admirable: the courage to be One's true self.

Kurt · 01-26-2014, 05:18 PM

Bumping this thread. Would love to hear from the ladies.

Leigh · 01-26-2014, 05:30 PM

I love their strength, courage, the way they love and just how they are really wonderful people. I have dated two FTM's in my past and would do so again if the right one came along

01-20-2013, 10:45 PM	#382
MarquisdeShey Member How Do You Identify?: bent Preferred Pronoun?: She/Her/They Relationship Status: Minding my own business. Join Date: Nov 2012 Location: I live here now Posts: 1,200 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 845 Thanked 4,726 Times in 921 Posts Rep Power: 21474849	what attracts Me to FtMs ... Strength - the fact a woman/man can transition into the masculine/feminine realm makes nature and nurturer incredible. We are acculturated to belittle each others potential as men and as women. Change is powerful, we all know a lava becomes a butterfly by an incredible journey, all transitioning FtM/MtF are metamorphic - mind, spirit and then body. Sensuality - I can't help but to think of Hermaphroditus born to the gods of female and male sexuality - you are in touch with all that is intense and powerful when it comes to the carnal aspect of being human. Thus I bow my head to you, for you so gracefully walked between two lines. More so, I respect the integrity that comes from being both. It's exotic. Beauty - we are always changing. We are always evolving. FtMs are like mirrors. We often see ourselves with one face. FtMs have experienced and touched both of their faces. Relationships come from trust, love, respect, and integrity. Its not who, but how you love that matters. As long as we battle with issues of equality we will battle. When we no longer need to explain ourselves and defend our humanity, well, we will all be having a whole lot hot sex...Smiles... Thanks for being who you are. __________________ My manner of thinking, so you say, cannot be approved. Do you suppose I care? A poor fool is s/he who adopts a manner of thinking for others! ~Marquis de Sade

01-31-2013, 09:19 PM	#383
Kent Member How Do You Identify?: Male Relationship Status: Single Tournaments Won: 2 Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: TX Posts: 1,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,564 Thanked 2,058 Times in 720 Posts Rep Power: 19241325	What attracts you to FtMs... Bumpity bump... __________________ Kent

02-06-2013, 09:50 AM	#385
Bèsame* Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femm Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: ☀️☀️☀️ Join Date: Sep 2012 Location: Closer to the waves Posts: 14,830 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 28,422 Thanked 39,679 Times in 10,257 Posts Rep Power: 21474862	I'm very attracted to courage. __________________ kisses A kiss is a whisper in your mouth. Can I borrow a kiss? I promise to give it back.

03-31-2013, 01:14 PM	#386
Kent Member How Do You Identify?: Male Relationship Status: Single Tournaments Won: 2 Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: TX Posts: 1,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,564 Thanked 2,058 Times in 720 Posts Rep Power: 19241325	What attracts you to FtMs... Just a little Bump.... __________________ Kent

03-31-2013, 06:11 PM	#388
Heavenleahangel Member How Do You Identify?: OFOS Femme; Earth bound Angel and Babygirl; Preferred Pronoun?: She, Angel, as long as it's respectful Relationship Status: Waiting for the One who can complete me Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Albany, NY~but originally from Georgia Posts: 562 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,257 Thanked 2,069 Times in 468 Posts Rep Power: 18675552	Its not so much an attraction, but I totally "get it" when it comes to ftm's and it drives me wild! Its the respect, the special bond, the pleasure that no other can provide! Oh, be still my heart!!! I wish there were more ftm's around here. Maybe I should look at the idea of relocating!!! Heck, I'm only looking for ONE!!! __________________ Sweet Georgia Peach

02-06-2013, 07:57 AM	#384
Nadeest Member How Do You Identify?: as myself Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Leesburg, FL Posts: 595 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,876 Thanked 2,118 Times in 501 Posts Rep Power: 17077996	I find it very easy to talk to ftms, as we often have similar experiences.

07-05-2013, 02:48 PM	#389
Kent Member How Do You Identify?: Male Relationship Status: Single Tournaments Won: 2 Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: TX Posts: 1,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,564 Thanked 2,058 Times in 720 Posts Rep Power: 19241325	What attracts you to FtMs... C'mon ladies, tell us how you really feel and what you find attractive in the trans guys you date... __________________ Kent

07-05-2013, 04:27 PM	#391
stepfordfemme Member How Do You Identify?: Stone Femme-inist. Preferred Pronoun?: Female ones :) Relationship Status: I really really like someone. Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: Canada Posts: 237 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 427 Thanked 865 Times in 193 Posts Rep Power: 10262848	Warning: Girl swooning Fuzzy Treasure trails down his stomach..... Scars. For the all the life long battles he's fought. They are reminders of his strength and courage. Kisses First when the door opens. Then "Hi" Then more kissing. That impish smirk across his face, especially when you know he's thinking something evil. Stubble. Across your silky skin in contrast to his roughness. Yum. The smell of him on your skin when you're home in your own bed. Bliss. His voice. Rawr. His bookshelf. A book on his nightstand next to his glasses. swoon __________________ Love Well. Breathe Deeply.Dream Often.Live Boldly.

07-05-2013, 06:11 PM	#392
Nadeest Member How Do You Identify?: as myself Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Leesburg, FL Posts: 595 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,876 Thanked 2,118 Times in 501 Posts Rep Power: 17077996	I haven't had any ask me out, lately.

07-05-2013, 08:39 PM	#393
VintageFemme Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Outside Posts: 2,299 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,828 Thanked 7,640 Times in 1,657 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	Strength. Strength of mind, heart, soul and conviction. It takes a lot of courage to be who you really are and in some instances, to even know who you really are. This is the trait I find most desirable in FTM's. And then the list of how incredibly sexy they can be just continues on from there... Mhmmmm __________________ Unfinished Business & Open to Serendipity

09-14-2013, 11:07 AM	#395
Kurt Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Trans Preferred Pronoun?: Male ones Relationship Status: I'm ready..and anxious Join Date: Sep 2013 Location: USA Posts: 25 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 75 Thanked 57 Times in 18 Posts Rep Power: 1073753	Enjoyed reading through some of these posts. Haven't finished yet, but plan to..lol Very interested in seeing more of what the ladies are attracted to about us..... __________________ Life is too short to live it without passion.

10-08-2013, 04:31 PM	#396
1ladyface Junior Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: loved and loving Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: SF Posts: 86 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 65 Thanked 279 Times in 66 Posts Rep Power: 3368879	My guy I have a notebook I am now convinced is magic. It's nothing special, just a plain college-ruled notebook from Target but several years ago I wrote down everything I was looking for in a dog, right down to the ridiculous little details, before I went to the animal shelter. (adult dog, blocky heady, floppy ears, short fur, 40-60 lbs, swimmer, snuggler, big smile, affectionate, house-trained, knows basic commands, will answer to "Annie Boots", etc) When I did go to the shelter my little girl was there! And her name was already Annie. I used the same magic notebook to write down everything I was looking for in a partner, again, right down to the ridiculous little details. (taller/bigger than me, female born and masculine, chivalrous, tattooed, non-smoker, protective but not jealous, cowboy archetype, kinky, intelligent, dislikes children, loves dogs, pastry chef, etc.) Over time the list came to fill an entire page of the notebook. And it got left on a shelf and forgotten, until I met Oliver. Six months after moving to Oakland I met a wonderful FTM guy. Our first date was drinks and then a walk around Lake Merritt. Our second date he made an amazing dinner. Afterwards he showed me how to make truffles...and outed himself as a pastry chef. I was reminded of the notebook and checked it the next morning. He was ALL of the things, right down to the astrological sign. Now Oliver and I have been together four months. I recently showed him the magic notebook and we used it to write down a detailed description of our dream home. (a dog-friendly old converted industrial loft in Oakland with enough space for him to throw epic dinner parties and for me to have a sewing workspace. Natural light, exposed brick, gas stove, etc) So maybe the notebook isn’t really magic but it did show me just how powerful clarity, intention, ritual and instinct can be. And that might even be better than magic. __________________ xoxo -ladyface http://www.1ladyface.blogspot.com

10-08-2013, 04:56 PM	#397
1ladyface Junior Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: loved and loving Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: SF Posts: 86 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 65 Thanked 279 Times in 66 Posts Rep Power: 3368879	What I love about him and us My guy is the cowboy archetype and I'm the absent-minded professor archetype. He is a: street smart action oriented stone and somewhat stoic fiercely loyal protective physically skilled risk taker I am a: book smart quiet quirky head-in-the-clouds, lost-in-thought creative empath who enjoys doing things slowly and deliberately We balance each other really well. He spurs me to action when I might otherwise overthink and become immobilized. And I remind him to slow down and breath. He's calm in a crisis and I have ALL the feelings. But on the rare occasion that he has feelings that he needs to deal with he knows I'm a safe, non-judgemental person to come to. We both work with our hands and love to make things but as a chef his creative process is loud, fast-paced, improvisational and often collaborative. As a seamstress my creative process is a quiet, slow, deliberate, cerebral and solitary. I wouldn’t be good at his life and he wouldn’t be good at mine but we have shared values that manifest in very different ways in accordance with our temperaments and I think that’s why we work so well. We understand each others values and motivations but since our shared values have very different outlets there’s an amount of space built-in to our relationship that allows for some breathing room and individuality. It also allows us to admire each other from a distance. His gorilla hands and my bunny heart make an excellent team. __________________ xoxo -ladyface http://www.1ladyface.blogspot.com

12-27-2013, 10:18 PM	#398
gotoseagrl Senior Member How Do You Identify?: old-fashioned queer stone submissive girl Preferred Pronoun?: mermaid, very lucky babygirl Relationship Status: Saltwater mermaid ♡ Join Date: May 2010 Location: CA Posts: 2,209 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,192 Thanked 6,115 Times in 1,726 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	most admirable: the courage to be One's true self. __________________ Be still when you have nothing to say; when genuine passion moves you, say what you've got to say, and say it hot. D. H. Lawrence

01-26-2014, 05:18 PM	#399
Kurt Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Trans Preferred Pronoun?: Male ones Relationship Status: I'm ready..and anxious Join Date: Sep 2013 Location: USA Posts: 25 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 75 Thanked 57 Times in 18 Posts Rep Power: 1073753	Where are you , ladies. Bumping this thread. Would love to hear from the ladies. __________________ Life is too short to live it without passion.

01-26-2014, 05:30 PM	#400
Leigh Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, etc Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Canada Posts: 7,767 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,029 Thanked 13,026 Times in 4,786 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	I love their strength, courage, the way they love and just how they are really wonderful people. I have dated two FTM's in my past and would do so again if the right one came along __________________ "When you fall off the wagon ... clutch the sides of it until you get a better grip!"