The Fat Positive Lounge

[nycfem]

Sending body lovin' vibes to all my friends!

[nycfem]

gotta love this

[Spirit Dancer]

I paint a woman's big rounded buttocks so that I want to reach out and stroke the dimpled flesh.

Every child has the spirit of creation. The rubbish of life often exterminates the spirit through plague and a souls own wretchedness.

Painting a young maiden is similar to cavorting with great abandon. It is the finest refreshment.
Peter Paul Rubens

[nycfem]

Here's a kinda interesting article about a lesbian who had weight loss surgery and wrote a memoir about the mental process of it all:

http://shine.yahoo.com/healthy-livin...163900419.html

[nycfem]

This week a colleague at work was complaining about another colleague and said, "She's just fat and miserable." It was said like, "She's just fat and lazy," or, She's just a fat slob." People have no trouble combining "fat" with all these negative words, and it's so accepted that it's even said to a fat person (me) without a second thought. And this was by a colleague who likes me!

[clay]

Just stopping by to say hi to all the most beautiful women here!! Clay loves each and every one of you...you are the most gorgeous women ever! from one very admiring BBB (beautiful BIG Butch)...<winks>

[peachy]

I'm really slim with curves and always have been and I always looked enviously at more shapely robust looking women. Especially in my teens when I was kind of Kylie slim. I felt girlish and I wanted to be womanly and sexy.

I think what is usually described as fat is sumptuously sexy to look at. I love looking at women with big thighs and hips whether they are butch, femme or anything else I think it's sexy. Mmm. Someone I fancied a while back came home from travelling and had lost weight - I was really dismayed...I find it annoying when women complain about being too fat. Not annoyed with the women, I feel sad for them. I feel annoyed with society, misogyny, or wherever it is that this horrible attitude originated.

I think Kathy Bates is hot!!

The bigger the better the tighter the sweater...

[Licious]

Still working on body image and self acceptance. This thread is a great help. I live in an upscale community, many have a great deal of money, fashionable but understated clothes, immaculate grooming, perfect salon hair, thin, tiny bodies... even older women are fashionably skinny. My lack of fancy clothing and portly figure stick out even more because of it. And I am still working on loving my plus size. I appreciate all of you, thanks.

[Gemme]

Love THIS woman!

[peachy]

I liked that previous Rubens picture so much that I am back with another one. I love these!! They actually make me feel horny. I'm looking at this image and can feel the nerves in my skin start to open up, and want more. I'm looking at that subtle undulation around the hip and feel like I want to touch it. I want her to turn around so I can look at all of her. It's actually making me want to take my clothes off and get in the picture too. That's the sign of a good artist! (Also I've not had any for a while lol)

Slim women however attractive, sexy, interesting just don't have this effect on me because the physical attraction is not there. There isn't quite the right emotional connect for me to really have the hots for a feminine woman anyway but physically I can still find their bodies sexually arousing.

http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedi...Rubens_111.jpg

[Bad_boi]

Dear Dad, you are awesome and I am very lucky to be your son.
Love, Danny

[SaltyButch]

I recently connected with a woman and during the course of our conversations, she said to me, when I saw your picture I didn't think you would even say hello to me. Now this perplexed me as I couldn't for the life of me understand what was in that picture that would make her think that.

As it turns out, she has been humiliated and rejected by some rude and thoughtless people who think they are God's gift to humanity because she is a plus size woman. Now, I'm flattered that she thinks I'm attractive, because I don't think I'm all that, however, I did let her know that I too have battled weight my whole life. I also told her that I have been with plus size women and find them to be some of the most sensual and sexiest women around.

This woman is attractive in so many ways, her mind, her eyes, her beautiful face and all that would be forgotten by some because she happens to be voluptuous.

Those who choose to walk on by and comment rather than take the time to know these women, shame on you, for they are more attractive than you ever will be and I will embrace them at any opportunity.

[LeftWriteFemme]

Pictures of people who mock me




http://www.salon.com/2013/04/23/pict...o_mock_me/?upw

[SugarFemme]

My sister (Who is not typically the most sensitive person) has at times (Including today) made disparaging comments about "fat women" to me. It has always been followed up by, "I don't mean you" or "You are different". I usually ignore the comments and consider the source. But, todays comment was particularly personal to me because she was referring to a woman's "Big tits with no bra on". I could have easily been that woman. I have big tits and lots of times if I am wearing a baggy shirt and my shoulder is bothering me, I will wear no bra. She followed up her diatribe with the usual, "But, I don't mean you". Today I wanted because every time she has made fat comments that were not about me, in my heart they were. But, I am so blessed.....I can lose weight, or not. But hatred and ugliness are forever. Thank Goddess I am only fat!!!! LOL

[SugarFemme]

I LOVE LOVE LOVE her work. Wish I had thought about it.

Originally Posted by LeftWriteFemme

Pictures of people who mock me




http://www.salon.com/2013/04/23/pict...o_mock_me/?upw

[Soft*Silver]

I havent been very busy on BFP, let alone this thread. I had shoulder surgery. My world kinda slowed down quite a bit.

While I was out having surgery and recuperating, some of my best clients who have also become some of my best friends, took over my store and kept it running. Every day it was opened, customers came in or called, to get updates on me. I felt so blessed to have been blessed with the community of women who come into my store. All joined together simply by size initially, and then by love for themselves and each other afterwards. Our store has become a haven for women to find worth for themselves, by offering it to each other.

[Soft*Silver]

how exciting! A SECOND plus size shop has opened, in the nearest large city by me. Its still an hour away but at least people have a choice of TWO shops to go to! I am so thrilled to have another sister store!

When i contacted her, she told me she was happy I didnt see her as a competitor. Please. We bigger women need more stores. And competition only makes us do our best! I cant see any reason to make them feel like they have to worry about me! We are all in this together.

its prom season and while I no longer take prom dresses, I am on the board of a special non profit called Diva Donations. They lease out prom dresses at ridiculously low cost, to gals who cant afford to buy a new dress. For $25 the girl gets a barely used or a brand new gown (stores have been donating them to this cause!) for her prom. When she returns it, she gets all but $10 back. The $10 dry cleans the dress, which is all the dry cleaner involved charges this non profit. The girls also can get jewelry and shoes and purses under the same lease!

It has been wonderful helping the DD closet out. So many plus sized girls come to me for gowns and I just dont carry them. Divas do not have alot of plus sized gowns but they do as best as they can. The smiles on their faces when they step out of the fitting room is priceless.

I have donated racks, mirrors, shoes, purses, new make up, hosiery, etc to get them started. They have almost 2000 dresses and opened up a second branch in the next county. out of the 2000 dresses, only 30 are plus sized....but at least there are 30 for girls to pick from!

Sometimes, the best way to live life is to take the thing that makes people the saddest and make it the happiest for them..

[LeftWriteFemme]

[SugarFemme]

This. Yep. I LOVE it. Wish I could live it.

Originally Posted by LeftWriteFemme

[LeftWriteFemme]