What TO DO in a relationship..... - Page 22

girl_dee · 11-04-2012, 08:11 PM

eat meals together, like at the table, without electronics. One on one company is lots of fun!

Greco · 11-05-2012, 10:28 AM

Have fun with your "Buds", give her space, then return and let her enjoy seducing you.

Greco

Sachita · 11-05-2012, 10:43 AM

Build a garden together

cinnamongrrl · 11-05-2012, 10:54 AM

Have date nights whenever possible...even years down the road....

And ALWAYS make time to snuggle.....

StrongButch · 11-05-2012, 11:03 AM

Dont only tell her you love her. Show her!

Teddybear · 11-05-2012, 11:22 AM

Remember they are JUST as important as u are if not more so. Know that every day could be ur last so make sure they KNOW u love them and cherish them and yall as a cpl
I have the honor to be in a different type of relationship then I have ever been in and I'm so happy that she values our time together also

Julien · 11-05-2012, 04:32 PM

It is so important to listen to what the other person has to say not just hearing their words, but to listen to and be tuned in to what they are telling you. With that being said, it is important to be honest and build trust with the other individual.

Soon · 11-05-2012, 04:36 PM

give each other space
laugh
let some things go--not everything needs to be *discussed*

girl_dee · 11-05-2012, 05:02 PM

don't let them make a fool out of themselves!!

Scottish MacDaddy · 11-05-2012, 05:26 PM

Be mad at all times.....

Give mad love, mad respect and mad honesty... the rest will follow

girl_dee · 11-06-2012, 08:02 PM

support each other's passions!

Fatale · 11-06-2012, 08:30 PM

Challenge each other intellectually.

*Anya* · 11-06-2012, 08:33 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Fatale

Challenge each other intellectually.

Triple amen to this. So very important.

girl_dee · 11-06-2012, 08:41 PM

don't agree with everything each other does and says.

Have your own set of ideas, goals, religious beliefs, truths, wants, desires.

Otherwise you're just selling yourself out, and that's kinda sad.

Blade · 11-20-2012, 03:39 PM

be gentle, be soft, be compassionate, be kind, be aware...mentally, physically, sexually

Greyson · 11-20-2012, 04:11 PM

Must be willing to compromise at times.
Be willing to sit, "be" with uncomfortable feelings/situations without trying to resolve them in a matter of moments.
Try not to filter every decision, and actions taken by others through the lense of your own life experience.
Know the value of silence, and listening.

* I have not mastered the above

StrongButch · 11-20-2012, 04:14 PM

Treat her like a lady!

girl_dee · 11-20-2012, 05:24 PM

i won't be treating my partner like a "lady", whatever that means but i do respect her as a butch woman!

girl_dee · 11-20-2012, 05:29 PM

Shy away from validating your partner for them, to me it seems unauthentic when one person tries to sell someone, or the relationship to the rest of the world. That can often come back to bite. Rejoice and be happy about it, but there is a such thing as going overboard.

Don't be so willing to make them "fit". Differences are ok, unless they push your boundaries too far.

Don't be the one to do all the work. If you are carrying the load, you should think about that.

princessbelle · 11-20-2012, 05:34 PM

Be excited when your partner tells you she is making a scarf for you in your fav basketball team's colors. (Even when it is her first "knitting" experience and you both know that it probably won't be that good.)

11-05-2012, 10:28 AM	#422
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11-05-2012, 11:03 AM	#425
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11-05-2012, 04:32 PM	#427
Julien Member How Do You Identify?: TG/GenderQueer Preferred Pronoun?: I'm flexible, but only up to a point. Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Alabama, Gulf Coast area Posts: 1,007 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,247 Thanked 2,702 Times in 737 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	It is so important to listen to what the other person has to say not just hearing their words, but to listen to and be tuned in to what they are telling you. With that being said, it is important to be honest and build trust with the other individual. __________________ Julien “Self-plagiarism is style.” Alfred Hitchcock Formerly known as Graphiteta2s

11-05-2012, 05:26 PM	#430
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11-20-2012, 03:39 PM	#435
Blade Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: TG Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: once in a while someone amazing comes along...and here I am! Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Down on the farm Posts: 5,501 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,855 Thanked 14,414 Times in 4,058 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	be gentle, be soft, be compassionate, be kind, be aware...mentally, physically, sexually __________________ Yeah so what if I'm triple dipped in awesome sauce? The best way to predict the future, is to create it.

11-04-2012, 08:11 PM	#421
girl_dee Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: dee Relationship Status: Hitched up Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Livin’ the Dream Posts: 24,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,560 Thanked 54,833 Times in 13,908 Posts Rep Power: 21474873	eat meals together, like at the table, without electronics. One on one company is lots of fun!

11-05-2012, 10:43 AM	#423
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11-05-2012, 10:54 AM	#424
cinnamongrrl Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: cleverly disguised as a responsible adult* Preferred Pronoun?: wild woman Relationship Status: No, thank you. Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Home in NC..gonna dig in like a tick this time… Posts: 7,661 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 15,231 Thanked 27,599 Times in 6,956 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	Have date nights whenever possible...even years down the road.... And ALWAYS make time to snuggle.....

11-05-2012, 11:22 AM	#426
Teddybear Senior Member How Do You Identify?: by my name Preferred Pronoun?: He, him Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Here there everywhere. Posts: 2,097 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,620 Thanked 6,233 Times in 1,687 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	Remember they are JUST as important as u are if not more so. Know that every day could be ur last so make sure they KNOW u love them and cherish them and yall as a cpl I have the honor to be in a different type of relationship then I have ever been in and I'm so happy that she values our time together also

11-05-2012, 04:36 PM	#428
Soon Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Relationship Status: attached Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: . Posts: 6,896 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 29,046 Thanked 13,094 Times in 3,386 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	give each other space laugh let some things go--not everything needs to be discussed

11-05-2012, 05:02 PM	#429
girl_dee Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: dee Relationship Status: Hitched up Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Livin’ the Dream Posts: 24,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,560 Thanked 54,833 Times in 13,908 Posts Rep Power: 21474873	don't let them make a fool out of themselves!!

11-06-2012, 08:02 PM	#431
girl_dee Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: dee Relationship Status: Hitched up Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Livin’ the Dream Posts: 24,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,560 Thanked 54,833 Times in 13,908 Posts Rep Power: 21474873	support each other's passions!

11-06-2012, 08:30 PM	#432
Fatale Member How Do You Identify?: Not your average babe in the woods. Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Singular Join Date: Aug 2012 Location: The edge Posts: 210 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 22 Thanked 896 Times in 166 Posts Rep Power: 12150547	Challenge each other intellectually.

11-06-2012, 08:41 PM	#434
girl_dee Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: dee Relationship Status: Hitched up Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Livin’ the Dream Posts: 24,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,560 Thanked 54,833 Times in 13,908 Posts Rep Power: 21474873	don't agree with everything each other does and says. Have your own set of ideas, goals, religious beliefs, truths, wants, desires. Otherwise you're just selling yourself out, and that's kinda sad.

11-20-2012, 04:11 PM	#436
Greyson Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Transmasculine/Non-Binary Preferred Pronoun?: Hy (Pronounced He) Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: SF Bay Area Posts: 6,589 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 21,132 Thanked 8,153 Times in 2,006 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	Must be willing to compromise at times. Be willing to sit, "be" with uncomfortable feelings/situations without trying to resolve them in a matter of moments. Try not to filter every decision, and actions taken by others through the lense of your own life experience. Know the value of silence, and listening. * I have not mastered the above __________________ Sometimes you don't realize your own strength until you come face to face with your greatest weakness. - Susan Gale

11-20-2012, 04:14 PM	#437
StrongButch Member How Do You Identify?: I see the world thru a lens Preferred Pronoun?: Yes Boss Relationship Status: Chillin out with awesome women Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: San Francisco Posts: 1,376 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,018 Thanked 4,183 Times in 1,180 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Relationship Treat her like a lady! __________________ Life is like music,so it can be played in many different styles.

11-20-2012, 05:24 PM	#438
girl_dee Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: dee Relationship Status: Hitched up Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Livin’ the Dream Posts: 24,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,560 Thanked 54,833 Times in 13,908 Posts Rep Power: 21474873	i won't be treating my partner like a "lady", whatever that means but i do respect her as a butch woman!

11-20-2012, 05:29 PM	#439
girl_dee Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: dee Relationship Status: Hitched up Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Livin’ the Dream Posts: 24,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,560 Thanked 54,833 Times in 13,908 Posts Rep Power: 21474873	Shy away from validating your partner for them, to me it seems unauthentic when one person tries to sell someone, or the relationship to the rest of the world. That can often come back to bite. Rejoice and be happy about it, but there is a such thing as going overboard. Don't be so willing to make them "fit". Differences are ok, unless they push your boundaries too far. Don't be the one to do all the work. If you are carrying the load, you should think about that.

11-20-2012, 05:34 PM	#440
princessbelle Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: femme ones Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Tennessee Posts: 6,100 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 29,380 Thanked 30,496 Times in 5,198 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	Be excited when your partner tells you she is making a scarf for you in your fav basketball team's colors. (Even when it is her first "knitting" experience and you both know that it probably won't be that good.) __________________ ~ I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. ~ Maya Angelou