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i was lately reminded of how tenuous our stay around these parts is... with that in mind i wanted to take the opportunity to tell you that things like this post are only a fraction of the reason i think that you and jack are flippn amazing folks!! |
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I also want to request that you take the time to *ask for and provide clarification* in conversations where someone may have inadvertently used an incorrect identifier for you or someone else or made an unglamorous or clumsy statement. Please stop and ask yourself if it is possible that the person might merely be new or if they might not yet have familiararity with your personal way of being.
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Hey Planeteers! I'm bumping this thread in anticipation of what might be a small influx of new signups. We have steadily seen anywhere from 5 - 15 new signups a day for a long time, with it being a strong average of 10 a day most of the time. I just renewed an ad on Facebook with some vey specific targeted marketing toward Butches, Femmes, Genderqueers, and Transfolks who might not yet be members of the site. This might mean that we get several new people who are either new to the dynamic or new to having a "home" on a community forum. I wanted to ask everyone to read the first post in this thread again as a reminder of how to greet newbies or help folks find their way who are new here. I trust that everyone here will be amazing! Thanks! me
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I forgot about this thread and started to reread many posts. I think we should all remember how awkward some of us felt in the beginning. Coming out and/or being new to an online community. Learning how to write it the way we think it should be written, so others don't jump on us and make us want to never post again. Keep in mind many newbies are timid or shy when it comes to posting, so it only takes one harsh post to them to make them stop posting. Perhaps PMing them instead of embarrassing them (even if we don't think it's embarrassing, they might). Some newbies have no problem fitting in from the start because friends sent them here. If they don't post a thread in the newbies forum, maybe go welcome them on their message board and they'll start feeling comfy with us. I'd like to know, in time that we'll all mix and mingle never thinking about the newbie that was once awkward in the beginning.
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I just wanted to bump this thread to remind folks to take some extra care with our newbies.
I just accepted about 200 friends requests on Facebook which might mean we get some new faces around here. Please be patient and take extra time to explain things if someone seems confused. The first post in this thread is a good read. I thank all of you for your continued support of this community!
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I still want to know how I can make glittery kittens shoot from my nether regions.
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well actually you better get the glitter ready first so fill a large pot, bowl, bag full of glitter (color to be determined by you cause it is your region) then you take a kitten (make sure it is color coordinated with your glitter for best effect) take hold of the kitten firmly (you might want gloves on for this part) spray said kitten with some type of spay on adhesive (I don't recommend glue as you would have to roll the kitten in it and might lose you grip and the kitten. You won't catch that particular kitten again and would have to get another kitten) quickly, but gently, (well as gently as you can be with a 10 oz ball of tacky, screeching kitten) dunk the tacky kitten in the glitter. And roll em about thoroughly. When the kitten has reached a glitter level that meets with your approval, take kitten out of glitter and place in a secure kitten carrier. (you will never find it again if you let it go) NOW, for the next part, you are gonna need the help of a very close friend.............
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no one said we cannot drink them.....
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Bump - Bump
Please refer back to post #1 in this thread. Thanks!
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Bumping for peace. These statements of Medusa are good to remember for how we treat ALL members of the Planet.
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I ran across this today and thought it was advice I could use. So I thought I'd share.
"Disagreeing agreeably requires two behaviors up-front and one more as a refinement. The two required behaviors up-front are: 1. Acknowledge the other person's idea is valid. 2. Assert that your position is different. Not better, just different. The refinement that helps you avoid a defensive reaction is to keep listening to their idea longer than you normally would. Ask questions. Be curious. Really hear them out. If you can accept that the disagreement of others doesn't diminish your ideas, then you can afford to be patient and generous." - Tom Henschel
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