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Please take the time to read Femmeadian’s post as she pretty much lines out how this thread has evolved. This thread is for ALL Butches of all identities so if you want to express your appreciation for male id’d Butches then do so but don’t bust up in here and finger-waggle other people as if they owe you something. Also? If I see you making swipes in other threads concerning this issue again you will receive a time-out. Thanks, Medusa
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For future reference, when you are modded it is not appropriate to reply to it in the same space in which you were modded. You’ve taken some time and effort from several folks over this issue and it is time for you to move along. If you can’t understand why it’s annoying and disruptive to make passive-aggressive remarks then I can’t help you. I suggest you remove yourself from this thread. It’s late and I’m annoyed, just so you know, so please don’t make me log in to the Admin panel to time you out because it’s likely to be lengthy. Back to the thread now, folks. Thanks, Angie
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05-21-2018, 11:16 PM | #45 |
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05-22-2018, 12:56 AM | #46 |
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“I’m sorry it’s had to be this hard. But if I hadn’t walked this path, who would I be? At the moment I felt at the center of my life, the dream still braided like sweetgrass in my memory. I remembered Duffy’s challenge. Imagine a world worth living in, a world worth fighting for. I closed my eyes and allowed my hopes to soar. I heard the beatings of wings nearby. I opened my eyes. A young man on a nearby rooftop released his pigeons, like dreams, into the dawn.”
― Leslie Feinberg, Stone Butch Blues I just re-read Stone Butch Blues last week. What a poignant, heart-wrenching novel. I believe it has every feeling a butch has ever had in that book, and a lot of ones that femmes have too. Between that, and Medusa's new site banner (which pulls at my heart every time I come to the site), and this wonderful thread started by Femmadian (thank you!), I am not only basking in the glow of butch appreciation, but also feeling so grateful for the butches who came before me (and also the amazing femmes and trans people). Thank you so much for walking the path.
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The Butch Femme Photo Project ( Wendy Kali, 2014)
Back in 2015, The Advocate featured Wendy Kali's book on Butch / Femme culture. Here's an link to the magazine's article , thoughtfully written by Mitch Kellaway: https://www.advocate.com/arts-entert...alive-and-well |
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05-22-2018, 09:44 AM | #48 |
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Here's Ivan E Coyote, Rae Spoon, and I forget who the other person is, but this photo is from their website and was taken while they were on tour, up in Seattle. Over the years, in the butch femme community, I recall remarkable butch's who've played an important role by expounding upon their own ideas as butches or transmen or as non-binary butches, and Ivan E Coyote, is but one of many I remember. Here's to Ivan E Coyote and Rae Spoon and others (...). |
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"This is what courage is. It's not just living through the nightmare, it's doing something with it afterward. It's being brave enough to talk about it to other people. It's trying to organize to change things," -- Stone Butch Blues (by Leslie Feinberg).
---☆ ---☆ --- ☆ ---☆ --- ☆ --- I think there's an awful lot of butches in our own butch femme community that do an impressive job of sharing about what it's like to be an butch. Thanks to all the butches in our online community who have stood by other butches and mentored them over the years. |
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My sweet friend, this is so beautiful! Thank you for such poignant posts, that make my soul dance!
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Over coffee today, I asked my (femme) wife to tell me why she is attracted to me as a butch woman and here’s what she said.
Me- What’s the general attraction to a butch woman? Her- there’s a way in which certain Butches carry themselves that I relate to. A strength, a confidence , an attitude. By & large a butch rejects the rigidity of the role of the “ideal woma” and how she should be in the world. Me- Can you say more? Her- Their external appearance I like their gestures and mannerisms. Not fem, not Girly , it’s in the butch attitude.You just know it when you see it. They walk in the world unafraid in the same ways that men do. There’s a “manliness” (for lack of a better word) about them in the sense that they say what they think, they own the ability to outwardly flex what they feel inside. Me- anything else you’d like to add? Her- I have a powerful attraction to that type of woman. She doesn’t wear make up, she’s not prim and proper, she just is. I like how they dress, the way they style their hair and even how they walk. I don’t want the penis yet I’m attracted to the “mannish” qualities along with an ability to listen and to be sensitive. Me- She then preceded to explain herself further by reminding me of a real life example in our own lives to expand on why she loves me as a butch woman. She said ” As a femme, I might be walking downtown somewhere and want to go down a street but change my mind if it looks shady and ultimately decide to take an alternative route. When I’m with you, we head straight down that street and in fact, you walk on the outside and scan for possible threats the entire way.You look strong, you’re walking with purpose and I feel secure and protected”. “It’s the perfect blend of qualities that I like in men and qualities that I like in women brought together in this androgynous being, sans penis. “ I swallowed, sat my cup of tea down and thought for a second …… Hmmmnnnn. I do love me some her. |
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