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Two of my favorite things-
Sitting in front of a fire in my little fire pit Wandering in the country taking pictures of neat plants, animals and falling down structures
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I nuture myself by takeing time for me,I finaly realised it was ok for me to do that.
I got involved in shooting pool so now am on two teams with nice ppl. Im eating right and working out 3 times a week I also make shure I get enought rest. Also im takeing myself less seriously,laughing more. |
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I love your responses, and find your posts comforting to me on some tough days. Thank you.
For me right now, my biggest effort at self nurturing is learning to accept ALL of me without blame, guilt or judgment. By accepting, I don't mean that I allow myself to continue in unhealthy behaviors, rather I aim to acknowledge that they exist...that they are. Then I can look at them with open eyes and decide if it is something I choose to act on or if I feel better making a different choice. I do this with feelings and thought as well during meditation, allowing all feelings to be whether positive or negative, then allowing them to pass. It's working for me and helps me to find peace.
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Happy Hump Day!
One of the areas I am dealing with now is self nurturing while single. As a single person I need to remind myself to go and do things. As a transman it can be difficult to find much in the way of a social life when single. So I decided that I need to find some things I can do alone if necessary, that require me to leave the safety of my house...yup you guessed it, that leaves masturbation out...at least for me. Lol! I began by signing my dog up for some obedience classes, even though he did not need the classes as he has been trained well, we both needed the socialization. So we go every Saturday for an hour and it is a blast for us both. After this class he will begin his agility training. Next I started taking him to the park. This gives us both physical exercise, more bonding time, people watching (mostly squirrel watching for him) and inner peace. Today I signed up for weekly Tai Chi classes. Ah! Something I have to do all on my own without the Bear there for comfort. Now all I need is someone to remind me to go on Tuesdays! Peace
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Stress reduction techniques are nurturing for me. Can include music and dance, relaxation exercises and meditation, self hypnosis. Plain exercise that I can do.... making sure I take a good walk each day with my pooch and simply taking in the beauty around me. Honoring my spiritual needs has always been a key factor for self-nurturance for me in ways that fit me, not any organization or particular religion.
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I love to read. My favorite thing is to curl up on a Friday night and read a good book on the sofa. Maybe nod off and sleep all night right there. Treating myself to nice meals. Getting my hair and nails done, always makes me feel prettier.
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Moving to a yard with a house on it...
I have fruit trees and rose bushes and chinees pumpkins and russian sage and lot of things that I don't know what they are but will let me get my hands dirty and lots of space to walk and swing and dream... Oh.. the yard has a house that has a basement that has two perfect spaces for dedicated art spaces and one more random art space and a separate room for storage so I don't get clay or paint on anything...
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i try to remember that it's just life. it's for living.
i have more adventures ahead and stories to live to be told. i have so many loving people in my life. i forget to leave my little cave. they remind me. i know that trepidation is ok. it jacks me up and propels me forward. i realize (again) i can live an extraordinary life.
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1. Do you nurture yourself? If so, what are the ways you do so?
Not very well. It is one way I need to change in the new year. Right now, I'm cold and uncomfortable and I'm listening to old Al Green music, enjoying my dinner of a chicken breast and veggies. That to me is nurturing, but I don't do it very often. I still have that niggling feeling that I should be doing something. 2. Do you rely on your partner/family/friends to nurture you? No, in fact the opposite. I don't tell people when I'm feeling poorly or ask them for anything. I'm very uncomfortable with "personal attention" in that way-including intimate times. I'm a giver, never a taker. 3. Do you feel that you adequately learned how to nurture your self when you were growing up? Oh, no, lol. My parents were the "fix your own problems and don't bother others" type. I never saw either of them cry or seem needy. My mother did enjoy playing golf, so maybe that was her nurturing. 4. Do you feel any sort of discomfort about nurturing yourself? Definitely, as I explained in #2. I always feel I'm "wasting" time when I should be more productive-especially if the entire day has gone that way. 5. Do you think that this whole self nurturing thing is just new age stuff and not even something worth talking about? I find myself thinking that, and then realize that nurturing brings me peace and feelings of being loved, when I do it. So it's not hogwash at all. I need to convince myself that it's crucial for me, though.
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[COLOR="DarkRed"]today i nurtured myself by not pushing myself. i did what was necessary, and no more. i allowed myself to take a nap in a warm bed...by myself.
soon, i will be living in a place that is as stress-free as possible. where i can concentrate upon taking care of myself and no-one else. where i can get back on the road to my meditative path. where i can practice tai-chi (great move, Jesse!) and qi qong without interruption. where i can eat wholesome foods as unprocesses as possible. where i can learn to laugh and be warm again. where being me is a good and interesting process. thank Creen Tara for answering prayers! thank Chenrezig for being compassionate towards me! [thank the Medicine Buddha for the first steps towards being whole again! thank a good friend for caring[ /COLOR] pres |
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I had a really rough afternoon, so I gave the dog and I a spa treatment, trimmed nails, shaved our legs and I dyed my hair. I can't make the world spin kinder, but I have learned to be kinder to me.
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We are well into the first month of the new year and fast approaching February and I found myself sitting here thinking about all of the changes I have made recently for the better.
The big news in my world is that I am no longer a smoker! I never thought I would be able to utter those words, in fact I never even tried to quit, because I just knew I couldn't do it. Well, I was wrong. The day came on January 5th, 2011 that I said,"I'm done smoking now." I put them down and have not looked back. I can already sense my health improving in the physical sense, what I had not counted on was the emotional improvement that came from not smoking. I feel really good for the first time in a long time. This year, I am doing things for me that I have always wanted to do and this was the first big step. The second thing was I joined a gym and am working out again to get back into shape. I am living my life for me, not for anyone else and I am happy! What are you doing for you this year?
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Ironic this thread is up today.
How do I nurture myself?
Yoga. This practice requires one to slow down, get focused, stretch, release, meditate and brings balance to this life. It is a whole lot better than xanax, sleeping aids, alcohol...well, wine after yoga is really a super combination.
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