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I had already posted in this thread about my longest term relationship and my current GF, so will go back into the memory vault for the boys before the girls...
1st BF age 12. Made out in my backyard until my dad busted us. Last I saw of him in the capacity as my BF, was running down the street with his two broken arms, in casts, running like a cartoon character. (Fell backwards, pre-me, lifting his older bro's, too-heavy weights, falling backwards and fracturing his forearms). Aged 13 & 14: Donnie. Last name escapes me. Made out constantly. Skipped school a couple of times. Think he felt my right breast once. Aged 15-17: Mike M. Remember his last name but withold it to protect the innocent guilty. I had described in a prior post, that I had gotten poison ivy all over my back and ass after we had sex in the woods (the soft greenery, clearly, was not just leaves). Aged 17-22. Tom, BF became my ticket out of my parents house. Had my two babies with him so will always be grateful to him for my girls. Aged 22-25, after we split: Joe C. Still remember his last name too. We were engaged but two weeks before the big wedding, invitations had been sent out and all, he broke up with me. Decided he did not want the responsibility of raising my ex-husband's kids or so he said. Aged 25-26 dated girls and guys. Decided girls rang my chimes way more and have strictly been a lesbian since that time.
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This is one of my favorite threads to read. I am always fascinated and love hearing how people have met. I’ve only had one what I would call a serious relationship. We met at work, and we ending up being together for 14 years.
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To put it simply: If the internet didn't exist after I finished school, my love life would have been basically non-existent as well.
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Nah...we would just all still be in the bars...
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Have met a couple folks from online but those were situations where I was lucky to walk away with my sanity and life.
Had made up my mind to just swear off anything remotely romantic. Was better that way..... Then, I met her. Wasn't even attempting to get to know her or anything, she just has a really funny tag line on her profile (she was a member, like myself, of the dash site) that gave me a much needed laugh that day I saw her name so I sent her a message to thank her for the laugh. She messaged back and well, the rest is history. That was seven or so years ago. Haven't looked back since and sincerely grateful every day for sending that pm and for her answering it. I Suck With Remembering Exact Dates, Brute. |
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Just a reminder... "when" isn't really the point; it's more about "where" or "how" you've met the people you've been involved with.
Do you tend to meet people online? Through work? Through a hobby or an interest, like bike riding or school or ... ? It's really interesting to read how people meet their partners. |
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there have been way too many for me to put in a list. that would become rather embarrassing.
when I was a teen it was through school or at the Dance Hall or at a Gig. when I was 18-27 it was through mutual friends, gigs, house parties, events, cafes and clubs/bars from 27 - 33 it was all on line b/f stuff with the rare pick up in a bar 34 - 38 it was online London social site events (meet n greets, event nights) and the genderqueer-dyke bar/club and mutual friends and exes (house parties), as I made them. when my wife left it has all since been from dating sites, save the rare set up from an ex. That's about to change as I get back into things and my very few local dyke mates (most of my friends at home are straight) plug me back into the local social life. I'd like to take the focus off on-line as I don't really trust the dating sites... social sites perhaps a bit easier. dating sites are difficult. lots of people out there on cupid and pof, but I find it very difficult to get a feel for someone before meeting. Someone's sense of grace is really the main point of attraction for me. that doesn't come through till I meet them, though occasionally it can be seen in a photograph. |
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I met her thru a blind date that my brother set up for me, just after I got out of the military for the first time.
We met thru mutual friends, and were together for about three years. Met her at a bus stop in downtown Detroit. I was going to work, she was just coming home from church. |
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The majority of women I have been involved with, were introduced through friends. Work, school and online were also places I met women. My favorite was a coffee shop.
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I don't know about that, but I was certainly surprised by the relationship. lol
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the dating thing I'm just finding kind of hard. chatting because of mutual friends, and have some point of mutual link makes it much easier. I think I'm just a bit tired. I think oh ugh, starting from point zero. why can't I just go hang out with some friends I find sexy and take it from there. I guess I'm hanging with all my old mates, I've had sex with most of my friends before, there's no "trouble" they feel a bit like family and the thought of coming home and starting up with people with no feeling of familiarity... just makes my chest sink. I think that's why I prefer meeting people through people. It's just not awkward or stiff. But then, maybe I haven't met someone with the right click. Or maybe, it's just easier to relax and allow that click when it's at a house party/dinner party/mutual friends. I think I just discovered I hate dating... I used to love it... |
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I just realized the last three- I met each of them at a queer community dinner/brunch/lunch. Prior to that, it was often through friends, though, like many others, I met some online and eventually progressed to real time.
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I met her on a well-known, legitimate dating site.
I was only dating people that were local and ones I could first meet for coffee. With her, I skipped my coffee first "rule" and met for dinner. (First dates, I would always meet them rather than have them pick me up in their car). It just was serendipitous that we clicked on our first date.
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1. We met at a well known guitar shop in Rochester, NY. He was a bass player in a rock band.
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I personally am a virgin.
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I met a dyke bartender at a gay bar and spent seven years trying to make that work.
I was dating a girl, and she introduced me to her friend, who it turned out would be a girl I would spend the next seven years with. I met a girl through an online writers group at yahoo. She was so adorable and scatterbrained that I asked her to come to Nebraska and live with me. My first LDR and seven years of a very strong love. I don't have any regrets. I met a girl through an online text-based RPG game and after two years of killing each other and being allies, we met in RL, and I knew right then she was someone I could live forever with. Seven and a half years and still going. I've met women over the internet, in bars, through friends and by chance. I can't say one way has worked out better than another.
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