Do you have a crush on anyone here at The Planet?

[Ciaran]

Originally Posted by ~ocean

theres alot to be said for getting to know and date ... not everything has to be to the extreem of living w.someone.. life begins w. a smile

Agree totally with the words of yours that I have bolded. To actually need to live with someone just cannot be on my agenda for the next 2 to 3 years .... I simply couldn't stand it due to my work schedule and considerable need for privacy.

[Sachita]

Originally Posted by WolfyOne

Flirting and crushes are a healthy way of releasing feelings and I think that's important.

BTW, for those looking for a strong, independent, take charge femme, y'all need to take a deeper look at Sachita. I happen to admire those qualities in her. For those qualities alone, I have crushed on her in a friendly way. Takes a lot to impress me and this femme is quite knowledgeable, so she does.

awwww arent you just the sweetest little thing! I think you crush on me but also afraid of me.

[WolfyOne]

Originally Posted by Sachita

awwww arent you just the sweetest little thing! I think you crush on me but also afraid of me.

I am afraid of no one, lol

I have however, learned from my past, two strong headed people cannot be good for each other unless knocking heads is enjoyable

So, I'll still go with the friendly crush and admire your qualities
If nothing else, I am good for one's ego

[Sachita]

Originally Posted by WolfyOne

I am afraid of no one, lol

I have however, learned from my past, two strong headed people cannot be good for each other unless knocking heads is enjoyable

So, I'll still go with the friendly crush and admire your qualities
If nothing else, I am good for one's ego

it was basically a joke

[Mr Nice Guy]

Hey Crushers, I've seen youve been busy. That's great for me because I love this stuff.

[rockstar lover]

Originally Posted by Mr Nice Guy

Hey Crushers, I've seen youve been busy. That's great for me because I love this stuff.

Me too...especially since I'm a crusher and a crushee

[Mr Nice Guy]

We will we will, crush you. Everyone sing!!

[LaneyDoll]

Originally Posted by SleepyButch

I think that today should be the day that you tell your crush about your crush on them. I've had one or two send me a message telling me this and even though I have no idea who they are or may not be interested, it is always a nice feeling. Plus, you never know, they may start noticing you that way.... it could happen. Why not take a chance???

I can agree with this. But I can also see how very daunting it would be to message anyone with such a revelation. I am not sure that I would have the guts to do something like that-well assuming I was single and had a crush; when I am with someone, I only have eyes for them so crushes simply do not exist.

[Ciaran]

Originally Posted by SleepyButch

I think that today should be the day that you tell your crush about your crush on them. I've had one or two send me a message telling me this and even though I have no idea who they are or may not be interested, it is always a nice feeling.

I've never had that happen. Wonder what I'm doing wrong.

[SleepyButch]

Originally Posted by Ciaran

I've never had that happen. Wonder what I'm doing wrong.

All I can say is that it's probably because I talk a lot. Girls like that. lol

[Bella~Vita]

Originally Posted by SleepyButch

All I can say is that it's probably because I talk a lot. Girls like that. lol

What? You are too darn funny.

[kannon]

Originally Posted by Ciaran

Great news and genuinely hope that it works out fantastically well.

That said, and not trying to rain on your parade, but seems all rather whirlwind ie to marry someone five months after first meeting and meeting twice to date.

I guess everyone is different and I'm sure you both know what you're doing but I'm always nervous when I see people committing after such little real time interaction.

Originally Posted by guihong

Agree. Sometimes it works out, and that's great if it does. I'm sure we wish you all the best.

Just be aware that you know little about how people really are after two meetings and a lot of online time. That "madly in love" feeling is fun but it's a lot of work to keep it going. Choose well.

Originally Posted by *Anya*

I have wrestled with whether or not I should say something about this. I try to not be confrontational or to ever hurt anyone's feelings but in this case, I feel compelled.

I have been on the Planet for over a year now. I have watched some folks on their second and third loves in this past year.

We are such a minority within a minority with our butch-femme dynamic. When we meet someone that we connect with emotionally and sexually, it is such a rush of joy-it feels like it will last forever!

Particularly in the beginning, that meshing of souls, values, interests and sexual attraction, is intense!

Even if all of those factors remain in the long-term, who and what makes you as a person comes out, as time goes on. None of us were raised in exactly the same way! None of us handle joy, happiness, frustration, anger or life stressors in exactly the same way. Only in time do all of these sides of a person manifest. Whether or not one can deal with all of those sides of us as people, can only be learned in time.

I thought that the butch I am in love with and I started corresponding in October 2011 but I went back through old pm's and emails and it was last August, 2011. We have seen each other for up to a couple of weeks at a time each month since December, 2011. I am still learning about what makes her tick and she is still learning about me!

I was ready for the U-Haul a couple of months after we met but sanity prevailed. I am still ready but do have a job, house and family here and must make wise decisions, as does my butch. I am in this for the long-haul and since I waited 10 years to fall in love again, I can wait until all the ducks are in a row for us.

There are whirlwind romances that last forever. We all know this and know people that have done and are doing it successfully.

Just be sure.

Thanks for the input and I can appreciate your concern. Christy and I are happy and confident in our relationship and the decisions we’ve made for ourselves. We have the blessings and approval of our family and friends. When you get down to it, that’s all that matters.

Carpe diem.

[Little Fish]

A daily dose is required.

[Mr Nice Guy]

Orange crush is great too. God I haven't had orange soda in years.

[pynkkameleon]

Originally Posted by pynkkameleon

*Sigh* I did, still do and always am. Over 3 years of crushing on one of my best friends...

I think Hy knows..? Just not sure if Hy realizes just how much I'm crushing?

One of these days I'll quit being such a scaredy cat. Life's too short not to take a chance.

I did it! Only time will tell =)

[Mr Nice Guy]

That's great!! Life is too short to not speak your hearts desire. I would rather take that chance then wonder what if. Kudos to you!!

[Ginger]

Originally Posted by Little Fish

A daily dose is required.

You said it.

[clay]

Originally Posted by pynkkameleon

I did it! Only time will tell =)

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{pynk}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} good for you my friend!!!

[Ciaran]

Originally Posted by SleepyButch

All I can say is that it's probably because I talk a lot. Girls like that. lol

Not my style. I've only got the patience for small talk if the lady is incredibly wealthy.

[shiagirl]

No one crushes on me,
say it isn't so.

It would be cute to have a crusher