Singles - Page 36

Sunny · 11-06-2010, 07:56 AM

Looks like I got the ball rolling for some conversation. Sorry I missed all the excitement. Kobi you asked some great questions. Too bad we all could not get on a web cam together and have a getting to know you gathering.
I am from Jersey. If anyone is close I am open for coffee and conversation. Just let me know.
I agree there is a problem with community in Jersey. People tend to be to themselves. Do not know why. It is hard to meet someone locally.
I have read all the posts since yesterday and you all sound like really great Femmes. You also sound like great cooks. Butches always like a home cooked meal. I know I really appreciate it when a femme cooks for me.

Like to tell you all a story of what happened to me last night.
Last night I had to work late. I met a friend in a rest stop near my home to pick up a shirt she bought. Before she got there I was sitting in my truck and this guy pulls up next to me. He looked like a serial killer right out of the movies. He gets out of his car and stands there and stares at me. Gave me the creeps. So I asked him "What's up Buddy" He asked me if I was Kevin. I said no and he said are you sure. I said yeah. He got back in his car and just sat there. Then my friend finally pulls up on the other side of me and I told her about this guy on the other side that was creepy. I wanted to make it quick. What does she do. She proceeds to take her time and look through all her bags for the shirt then searches in her handbag for the receipt. It did not faze her. I was thinking what is her problem?
Well that concludes my night out in Jersey. Have to get ready for work. Talk to you all later I hope.

cuddlyfemme · 11-06-2010, 08:00 AM

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Originally Posted by Sunny

Looks like I got the ball rolling for some conversation. Sorry I missed all the excitement. Kobi you asked some great questions. Too bad we all could not get on a web cam together and have a getting to know you gathering.
I am from Jersey. If anyone is close I am open for coffee and conversation. Just let me know.
I agree there is a problem with community in Jersey. People tend to be to themselves. Do not know why. It is hard to meet someone locally.
I have read all the posts since yesterday and you all sound like really great Femmes. You also sound like great cooks. Butches always like a home cooked meal. I know I really appreciate it when a femme cooks for me.

Like to tell you all a story of what happened to me last night.
Last night I had to work late. I met a friend in a rest stop near my home to pick up a shirt she bought. Before she got there I was sitting in my truck and this guy pulls up next to me. He looked like a serial killer right out of the movies. He gets out of his car and stands there and stares at me. Gave me the creeps. So I asked him "What's up Buddy" He asked me if I was Kevin. I said no and he said are you sure. I said yeah. He got back in his car and just sat there. Then my friend finally pulls up on the other side of me and I told her about this guy on the other side that was creepy. I wanted to make it quick. What does she do. She proceeds to take her time and look through all her bags for the shirt then searches in her handbag for the receipt. It did not faze her. I was thinking what is her problem?
Well that concludes my night out in Jersey. Have to get ready for work. Talk to you all later I hope.

Hi Sunny! Your night out in Jersey sounds "interesting" to say the least. I can understand why that guy gave you the creeps...I would have been totally creeped out! Have a good day at work and hope you come back later

Zimmeh · 11-06-2010, 08:26 AM

Good Morning Kobi,

I am 36 years old and I will be turning 37 in December. I don't have any children, just four nephews and two nieces, who I spoil like they are my kids. I like to date people around my age or just a little older. I can honestly say, I have never dated a transman, I have friends who are, and I have dated both male id'd and female id'd butches. I am currently in college working on my second bachelors degree in nursing. My first bachelor's degree is in computer programming and web design. I live in North Florida and I love meeting new people. One of my best friends is butch and hy lives in Ireland.

Hope you are having a good start to your Saturday,

Zimmy

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Originally Posted by Kobi

You all sound so lovely. I'm sure there are more than a few butches here who would be proud to have you beside them.

Shall we continue? I will presume you said yes.....

So how old are you? What age range do you prefer to date in? Do you have children? Do you date both female butches and trans persons?

Kobi · 11-06-2010, 10:47 AM

It was fun rereading the last few pages here. Your answers helped us to get a better picture of who you are and what you are about. Always a nice thing, with pleasant surprises as well.

I noticed folks saying that it is difficult to find femmes or butches in their particular area, even if it is a well known or close to a well known "queer" mecca. I live about 30 miles from Ptown so I know what you mean.

One of the problems I have as a butch who likes femmes, is my gaydar is differently abled. If I think someone is queer, they arent. If I think they arent, they are. If I think someone is flirting with me, they arent. If they are flirting with me, I am oblivious to it.

So, my suggestion for a topic today is how can impaired butches like myself distinguish a queer femme from a straight femme in everyday living?

Hope everyone is having a good day. Look forward to reading more here later.

lipstixgal · 11-06-2010, 11:22 AM

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Originally Posted by Sunny

Looks like I got the ball rolling for some conversation. Sorry I missed all the excitement. Kobi you asked some great questions. Too bad we all could not get on a web cam together and have a getting to know you gathering.
I am from Jersey. If anyone is close I am open for coffee and conversation. Just let me know.
I agree there is a problem with community in Jersey. People tend to be to themselves. Do not know why. It is hard to meet someone locally.
I have read all the posts since yesterday and you all sound like really great Femmes. You also sound like great cooks. Butches always like a home cooked meal. I know I really appreciate it when a femme cooks for me.

Like to tell you all a story of what happened to me last night.
Last night I had to work late. I met a friend in a rest stop near my home to pick up a shirt she bought. Before she got there I was sitting in my truck and this guy pulls up next to me. He looked like a serial killer right out of the movies. He gets out of his car and stands there and stares at me. Gave me the creeps. So I asked him "What's up Buddy" He asked me if I was Kevin. I said no and he said are you sure. I said yeah. He got back in his car and just sat there. Then my friend finally pulls up on the other side of me and I told her about this guy on the other side that was creepy. I wanted to make it quick. What does she do. She proceeds to take her time and look through all her bags for the shirt then searches in her handbag for the receipt. It did not faze her. I was thinking what is her problem?
Well that concludes my night out in Jersey. Have to get ready for work. Talk to you all later I hope.

Gosh what part of Jersey is that??

little_ms_sunshyne · 11-06-2010, 11:41 AM

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Originally Posted by Kobi

It was fun rereading the last few pages here. Your answers helped us to get a better picture of who you are and what you are about. Always a nice thing, with pleasant surprises as well.

I noticed folks saying that it is difficult to find femmes or butches in their particular area, even if it is a well known or close to a well known "queer" mecca. I live about 30 miles from Ptown so I know what you mean.

One of the problems I have as a butch who likes femmes, is my gaydar is differently abled. If I think someone is queer, they arent. If I think they arent, they are. If I think someone is flirting with me, they arent. If they are flirting with me, I am oblivious to it.

So, my suggestion for a topic today is how can impaired butches like myself distinguish a queer femme from a straight femme in everyday living?

Hope everyone is having a good day. Look forward to reading more here later.

I have a similar problem. I am a femme and MOST people just assume I am straight! Blah!!! So I have no idea. Useless here, but totally one of my biggest frustrations. Now I know that it would be easy for me to spot a Butch and chat it up, BUT so not easy for me. I am far too clumsy and shy to have any "game" lol

cuddlyfemme · 11-06-2010, 12:07 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Kobi

It was fun rereading the last few pages here. Your answers helped us to get a better picture of who you are and what you are about. Always a nice thing, with pleasant surprises as well.

I noticed folks saying that it is difficult to find femmes or butches in their particular area, even if it is a well known or close to a well known "queer" mecca. I live about 30 miles from Ptown so I know what you mean.

One of the problems I have as a butch who likes femmes, is my gaydar is differently abled. If I think someone is queer, they arent. If I think they arent, they are. If I think someone is flirting with me, they arent. If they are flirting with me, I am oblivious to it.

So, my suggestion for a topic today is how can impaired butches like myself distinguish a queer femme from a straight femme in everyday living?

Hope everyone is having a good day. Look forward to reading more here later.

I wish I could give you idea's on how to tell a Femme but most people think I'm straight. The only time people realize that I'm queer is when I'm on the arm of a Butch. I think this is a common thing for most Femme's.

katsarecool · 11-06-2010, 12:27 PM

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Originally Posted by cuddlyfemme

I wish I could give you idea's on how to tell a Femme but most people think I'm straight. The only time people realize that I'm queer is when I'm on the arm of a Butch. I think this is a common thing for most Femme's.

Yup same here!!! I guess it is up to us ladies. We need to give out the first signal. What shall it be?

cuddlyfemme · 11-06-2010, 12:30 PM

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Originally Posted by katsarecool

Yup same here!!! I guess it is up to us ladies. We need to give out the first signal. What shall it be?

It's like as Femme's we're invisable. You're right, I guess it is up to us to make first contact but what if the Femme is shy? A signal is a good idea

little_ms_sunshyne · 11-06-2010, 12:56 PM

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Originally Posted by cuddlyfemme

It's like as Femme's we're invisable. You're right, I guess it is up to us to make first contact but what if the Femme is shy? A signal is a good idea

Yes I agree!!!

bigbutchmistie · 11-06-2010, 01:23 PM

But then there are the 2x4 butches like me

LipstickLola · 11-06-2010, 02:23 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Kobi

It was fun rereading the last few pages here. Your answers helped us to get a better picture of who you are and what you are about. Always a nice thing, with pleasant surprises as well.

I noticed folks saying that it is difficult to find femmes or butches in their particular area, even if it is a well known or close to a well known "queer" mecca. I live about 30 miles from Ptown so I know what you mean.

One of the problems I have as a butch who likes femmes, is my gaydar is differently abled. If I think someone is queer, they arent. If I think they arent, they are. If I think someone is flirting with me, they arent. If they are flirting with me, I am oblivious to it.

So, my suggestion for a topic today is how can impaired butches like myself distinguish a queer femme from a straight femme in everyday living?

Hope everyone is having a good day. Look forward to reading more here later.

When meeting someone for the first time, I make extra sure to give super good eye contact, a firm hand shake, big smile with a little wink. It has worked

greeneyedlady · 11-06-2010, 03:24 PM

[QUOTE=little_ms_sunshyne;222151]I have a similar problem. I am a femme and MOST people just assume I am straight! Blah!!!

Hi ya singles.....

I have this problem as well. Also I am in a small community where it is very conservative. There are no "Gay" clubs to go to to meet people, and not many butches, most here just identify as lesbian.

I don't think I'm quite ready for dating yet after the recent hellish experience I went through lol but it is often in my mind, when I'm ready where will I meet that someone?...

Hope you are all having a great day

cuddlyfemme · 11-06-2010, 06:26 PM

Just a reminder that tonight we change our clocks... I think we set them one hour back

cuddlyfemme · 11-07-2010, 07:26 AM

Good Morning Singles!!!! Its a beautiful day here today...chilly but beautiful. I hope everyone has a wonderful day!!!

lipstixgal · 11-07-2010, 07:37 AM

Its cold here too in NJ hope your day is going great.

Good morning Singles hope you are having a nice Sunday after we changed the clocks I always feel weird then next day like some big change took place but it was just one hour of extra sleep would never know it because dogs were up at like 5:30 AM this morning geesh animals!!

butcharoni · 11-07-2010, 09:57 AM

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Originally Posted by cuddlyfemme

welcome to the Singles thread!!!

Thanx for the welcoming Cuddly..

hope to come in more often..

Zimmeh · 11-07-2010, 10:05 AM

Good Late Morning Everyone,

It is chilly outside but beautiful! To bad I have homework to do, or my happy ass would be outside power walking,....

Hope you all have a wonderful day!

Zimmy

Kobi · 11-07-2010, 11:05 AM

Mornin all.

Hope you all remembered to set your clocks BACK rather than ahead like I did. Going to be a dufus day.

It a cold, windy, looks like snow day here. Perfect for a day of watching football.

Enjoy your day

asphaltcowboi · 11-07-2010, 11:05 AM

good morning singles.. today is set your clocks back day... for those of you that have to... we dont here in az.

11-06-2010, 07:56 AM	#701
Sunny Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: New Jersey Posts: 423 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 396 Thanked 745 Times in 283 Posts Rep Power: 6521617	Hey Looks like I got the ball rolling for some conversation. Sorry I missed all the excitement. Kobi you asked some great questions. Too bad we all could not get on a web cam together and have a getting to know you gathering. I am from Jersey. If anyone is close I am open for coffee and conversation. Just let me know. I agree there is a problem with community in Jersey. People tend to be to themselves. Do not know why. It is hard to meet someone locally. I have read all the posts since yesterday and you all sound like really great Femmes. You also sound like great cooks. Butches always like a home cooked meal. I know I really appreciate it when a femme cooks for me. Like to tell you all a story of what happened to me last night. Last night I had to work late. I met a friend in a rest stop near my home to pick up a shirt she bought. Before she got there I was sitting in my truck and this guy pulls up next to me. He looked like a serial killer right out of the movies. He gets out of his car and stands there and stares at me. Gave me the creeps. So I asked him "What's up Buddy" He asked me if I was Kevin. I said no and he said are you sure. I said yeah. He got back in his car and just sat there. Then my friend finally pulls up on the other side of me and I told her about this guy on the other side that was creepy. I wanted to make it quick. What does she do. She proceeds to take her time and look through all her bags for the shirt then searches in her handbag for the receipt. It did not faze her. I was thinking what is her problem? Well that concludes my night out in Jersey. Have to get ready for work. Talk to you all later I hope. __________________ Sunny

11-06-2010, 10:47 AM	#704
Kobi Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Biological female. Lesbian. Relationship Status: Happy Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Hanging out in the Atlantic. Posts: 9,234 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,840 Thanked 34,636 Times in 7,642 Posts Rep Power: 21474861	Suggested topic for today..... It was fun rereading the last few pages here. Your answers helped us to get a better picture of who you are and what you are about. Always a nice thing, with pleasant surprises as well. I noticed folks saying that it is difficult to find femmes or butches in their particular area, even if it is a well known or close to a well known "queer" mecca. I live about 30 miles from Ptown so I know what you mean. One of the problems I have as a butch who likes femmes, is my gaydar is differently abled. If I think someone is queer, they arent. If I think they arent, they are. If I think someone is flirting with me, they arent. If they are flirting with me, I am oblivious to it. So, my suggestion for a topic today is how can impaired butches like myself distinguish a queer femme from a straight femme in everyday living? Hope everyone is having a good day. Look forward to reading more here later. __________________

11-06-2010, 03:24 PM	#713
greeneyedlady Junior Member How Do You Identify?: ...... Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: .... Posts: 31 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1 Thanked 47 Times in 18 Posts Rep Power: 11328	[QUOTE=little_ms_sunshyne;222151]I have a similar problem. I am a femme and MOST people just assume I am straight! Blah!!! Hi ya singles..... I have this problem as well. Also I am in a small community where it is very conservative. There are no "Gay" clubs to go to to meet people, and not many butches, most here just identify as lesbian. I don't think I'm quite ready for dating yet after the recent hellish experience I went through lol but it is often in my mind, when I'm ready where will I meet that someone?... Hope you are all having a great day __________________ Every woman I have ever loved has left her print upon me, where I loved some invaluable piece of myself apart from me--so different that I had to stretch and grow in order to recognize her. And in that growing we came to seperation, that place where work begins" Audre Lorde

11-07-2010, 10:05 AM	#718
Zimmeh Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: Me Relationship Status: I am a human and not a possession Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Southern Volusia County, FL Posts: 6,746 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 23,549 Thanked 13,441 Times in 4,316 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	Good Late Morning Everyone, It is chilly outside but beautiful! To bad I have homework to do, or my happy ass would be outside power walking,.... Hope you all have a wonderful day! Zimmy __________________ "A loving heart is the truest wisdom" -Chinua Achebe

11-07-2010, 11:05 AM	#719
Kobi Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Biological female. Lesbian. Relationship Status: Happy Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Hanging out in the Atlantic. Posts: 9,234 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,840 Thanked 34,636 Times in 7,642 Posts Rep Power: 21474861	Mornin all. Hope you all remembered to set your clocks BACK rather than ahead like I did. Going to be a dufus day. It a cold, windy, looks like snow day here. Perfect for a day of watching football. Enjoy your day __________________

11-06-2010, 01:23 PM	#711
bigbutchmistie Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Since You Need A Label. Butch Relationship Status: Still Dreaming Of My Happily Ever After Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Arlington Texas Posts: 4,009 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,950 Thanked 5,364 Times in 1,941 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	But then there are the 2x4 butches like me

11-06-2010, 06:26 PM	#714
cuddlyfemme Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Stone Femme Preferred Pronoun?: her/she Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: South Carolina Posts: 2,271 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 717 Thanked 2,452 Times in 1,270 Posts Rep Power: 11496123	Just a reminder that tonight we change our clocks... I think we set them one hour back

11-07-2010, 07:26 AM	#715
cuddlyfemme Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Stone Femme Preferred Pronoun?: her/she Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: South Carolina Posts: 2,271 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 717 Thanked 2,452 Times in 1,270 Posts Rep Power: 11496123	Good Morning Singles!!!! Its a beautiful day here today...chilly but beautiful. I hope everyone has a wonderful day!!!

11-07-2010, 07:37 AM	#716
lipstixgal Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: coupled Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: New Jersey Posts: 3,028 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 201 Thanked 1,690 Times in 1,064 Posts Rep Power: 1494761	Its cold here too in NJ hope your day is going great. Good morning Singles hope you are having a nice Sunday after we changed the clocks I always feel weird then next day like some big change took place but it was just one hour of extra sleep would never know it because dogs were up at like 5:30 AM this morning geesh animals!!

11-07-2010, 11:05 AM	#720
asphaltcowboi Senior Member How Do You Identify?: butch Relationship Status: HAPPY Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: ..... Posts: 1,509 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,367 Thanked 3,297 Times in 1,042 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	good morning singles.. today is set your clocks back day... for those of you that have to... we dont here in az.