Healthy Weight Loss

[JustJo]

Both of those recipes sound sooooo good....gonna' have to try them!

And, on another note....as you may recall, I went off artificial sweeteners. No more diet cokes, coke frees, etc.

Instead I drink Sobe LifeWater (sweetened with stevia) or drink unsweetened ice tea I brew at home (part black tea, part green tea for the good stuff in the green tea). Sometimes I drink it plain...sometimes I add a little stevia or agave or even honey....depending on the status of my sweet tooth.

Well....diet coke (or even worse, coke free) was a big addiction for me. If they were in the house, I would drink them...a couple a day. If they weren't in the house, I'd frequently be asking Scoote "can you bring me home a Coke Free honey?"

Addiction.

I would crave them.

Well, it's been a few weeks and....although it was difficult in the beginning...I don't crave them at all anymore. Poof! Gone! I'm totally satisfied with my water, iced tea, Sobe or coffee (or the occasional V8).

It's too early to tell what the long term effect will be. But here's the interesting parallel....I crave sweets much, much less often as well.

I'm not craving cookies or chocolate or candy bars....(almost) at all. And I haven't been craving any McDonald's runs for Big Macs and fries either.

Unheard of.

And makes me very happy.

[Medusa]

Just so we all know? THESE are amazing:



Only 2 points for 10 of them and they are yummmmmmaaayyy!!

[little_ms_sunshyne]

2.70 miles later...400 calories gone...sitting in sauna feeling damn good!

[sweetfemme247]

Originally Posted by JustJo

Hey sweetfemme,

I know how hard this is. Long story, but my family is highly critical...particularly around issues of weight. Since they are naturally slim and athletically built people, and I take after the other (round and soft) side of the family, they really couldn't relate to me or my realities.

One of the things that I found helpful is to call them out on it (and, yes, that's difficult). Generally, people who make passive-aggressive nasty or ciritical remarks aren't expecting for you to respond other than by being hurt.

I'm not saying get into a huge argument.....but a calm honest response that questions them can be remarkably effective.

My mother couldn't speak for about 5 minutes the first time I responded with "So Mom, the last few times I've seen you, you've made critical remarks about my weight. Do you honestly think that the most important thing about me is the size of my waist?"

It might not have been the most brilliant question, but it did slow her down.
After that, every time she'd be critical I'd call it out and question if that's what she really meant to say, and if she was actually defining me and our relationship by my weight.

Eventually, she stopped.

I'm not promising anything....but people who use sarcasm and criticism to control others aren't usually prepared for calm, honest confrontation.

Just something to think about....and wishing you the best.

my family is way bigger then me and she gets pissed if i lose weight and she dont

[Inked_Trinity]

Originally Posted by Medusa

Just so we all know? THESE are amazing:



Only 2 points for 10 of them and they are yummmmmmaaayyy!!

Try the caramel corn ones! HOLY CRAP! I keep a bag in my office.

[PinkieLee]

Originally Posted by Inked_Trinity

Try the caramel corn ones! HOLY CRAP! I keep a bag in my office.

The caramel ones are the SHIZNIT! So good... especially when you are craving sweet, salty & crunchy!!!

[PinkieLee]

Originally Posted by sweetfemme247

my family is way bigger then me and she gets pissed if i lose weight and she dont

I know it has to be hard when family and/or friends don't support you on this journey. But remember, you are doing this for YOU, not for them. People use those bullying tactics out of jealousy. (they are miserable, so they want you to be miserable, too). So, you keep moving in the right direction... and know that you have lots of support here!

[sweetfemme247]

thank you...

[JustJo]

Originally Posted by sweetfemme247

my family is way bigger then me and she gets pissed if i lose weight and she dont

That's a tough one for sure.

One of the biggest things I've had to learn (and learn again and again and again ) is to not compare myself to other people. Somehow it always ends up with me feeling crappy.

And, sometimes, family and friends want to keep you pulled down to their level. It's an unfortunate truth that not everyone is happy to see others succeed, or be happy.

I'd say focus on yourself...do what you know is right for you...and do your best to let the negativity slide off. Like others have said here....sometimes distance is your friend, especially when you're surrounded by negativity.

[Medusa]

What Pinkie says is so true. I would seriously question a friend or family member who did some form of sabotage around my health routine. Whether it be finding reasons why you shouldnt exercise or shaming and blaming around losing weight, I think there can be a lot of enabling stuff around codependant relationships and someone working to keep you unhealthy or immobile.

Not saying at all that anyone but me is responsible for my health but I do think that we have to be super-diligent about surrounding ourselves with people who are positive, supportive, evolved, and invested in US in healthy ways.

If someone wants to be your "diet buddy", make sure they aren't really asking you to be their emotional support/punching bag in ways that are going to drain your energy.

If a family member or friend can't say "I am so happy for you" or "Im proud of you" when you make strides to be healthier, consider limiting their access to your space.

Most of all, you need to be able to say to yourself that your health is a priority for YOU and than nobody has the right to stand in the way of that. You need to be able to look around at the people in your orbit and know that they love you, support you, and want nothing but the best for you not because it will bring something good to *them* but because it will be good for *you*.

Also, don't base your happiness on the "what you'll do when...." stuff. Don't get caught up in "when I lose weight, I'll go on a cruise..." or "when I lose weight, I'll buy a new car...".
Because ultimately, you're alive right now. Get the car. Go on the cruise. Wear that dress. LIVE. Unabashedly.

We're perfect just the way we are. We'll be perfect when we are both larger and smaller, fatter and thinner. Our bodies are not the single determining factor in our "acceptability". We're acceptable NOW!

[Rockinonahigh]

Originally Posted by Inked_Trinity

Try the caramel corn ones! HOLY CRAP! I keep a bag in my office.

Curious..how many carbs are in them???Hummm.......

[Rockinonahigh]

Over the years ive had friends come and go,but a fue months ago I had to drop a long time friend and her partner,now wife, even tho its not leagle hear yet.When I frist met R we became friends while I was in college a long time ago then she met B who has become the guarding wall of all the world to keep who and whatever sheilded from R.it has taken a fue years for B to do this.Now she ansers the phone for R,is the third party in any convo with anyone R speaks to,plands out everyday and everything they do and who is seen at any given time.I can beleave my old friend allows this.As things grew more dramaitc and toxoc with all the changes and problems in there life I became the Dr.Phill they called when probs came up.Any plands we made were changed or canseld without notice or care who or what was involved.So I didnt hear from them for three months,B called and started in about this prob and that family member did this or that.I simply told her I retired for the fixit buisness..also I had moved on so should they.Yes it was hard to do only cause of old friendshilp over the years..but something I had to do.I am better for it..more at peace and no drama to deal with there is a saying about not being tall enough to ride the drama coaster..it is so true.

[Scorp]

Okay...So I had a weak moment today and had a lunch date with some friends...We went to Bertucci's and I got an individual lunch size mushroom pizza.

Needless to say, I felt guilty after the fact...However, it was so damn good...

Tonight i'm skipping dinner because I'm not hungry. Later on I'll have my reduced-fat cheeze-it's while watching my tv shows....

[little_ms_sunshyne]

""We are acceptable now..."

Those words ring so much truth. We forget that we are worthy of living! I am guilty of avoiding certain things because I am insecure. I went to hawaii and didnt wear a bathing suit! One day I looked at T and told him I was tired of not doing things because of my weight. While I have gotten better, I am far from where I need to be with confidence. I dont even like to take pictures of myself lol Oh jeez! This thread makes me open up like a book! In any case, We are worthy of living DAMNIT! And those that judge us and think otherwise..."fuck 'em" *curtsy* sorry I have been cutting down on my profanity to only 5 times a day lol

[Inked_Trinity]

Originally Posted by Rockinonahigh

Curious..how many carbs are in them???Hummm.......

Since I don't eat a lot of carbs.... I really have never looked.

[Rockinonahigh]

Originally Posted by Inked_Trinity

Since I don't eat a lot of carbs.... I really have never looked.

Im staying away from as many carbs as I can cause all it dose is chub me up,I was at wall mart but didnt find any but will check at my grosery store later.

[Rockinonahigh]

I recently got me a big multi pack of chrystal light lemonade mix and now keep it in the fridge to drink,im trying hard to kick the soda habit,I only had part of a diet coke today.


P.S.
For clairty B&R arent on this site nor will they ever be.Once they told me people who are on sites like this cant really beleave it works.There words not mine.

[Leigh]

Originally Posted by little_ms_sunshyne

Matthew~there is nothing wrong with you, just a whole lot wrong with them! Sounds like a bully for sure! And if there is anything I have learned in my years of teaching and dealing with bullies, even the adults bully to distract from their own weakness and insecurities. You are above that Matthew and you have a great heart that it puts you far above those assholes. You are doing a great job, dont let them distract you. You have friends here that will love and support you through it!

I know your absolutely right, and yes J can be a very big bully ~ he admits he doesn't care if he hurts someone, they can either suck it up or move on and then when I get upset he wonders why. Gee what could be the matter, insulting Me all the time and thinking its comical? Sorry, NOT funny. I know he has weaknesses and I can tell more now than ever he is trying to compensate for that by being mean to others. I'm learning My lesson very fast when it comes to him ~ My patience is wearing thin with him and if it comes down to Me walking, then I will have no problem walking away from that negativity!

Originally Posted by Medusa

Matthew- Don't let mean-spirited people get in your head. People who do shit like that usually have their own internal stuff that tells them they can't support someone else or be positive because they are too busy being unhappy. Look yourself in the mirror and see the wonderful person that you are, the sweetness and light and flip the bird to that kind of negativity. You are going places, baby!

I've always had a problem with letting negative attitudes get to Me, but I guess alot of that stems back from My childhood when I was constantly getting bullied and teased by the kids at school for being overweight. My dad has the same kind of negative attitude towards Me (plus many others) and since living with My parents is the only option right now I have to deal with it. I know that I am going to go places very soon, once My sister is back in school I am going to look into either a part time job or full time school ............. either way, come September I'll be working to get on My own pretty quick :-)

Originally Posted by JustJo

And, on another note....as you may recall, I went off artificial sweeteners. No more diet cokes, coke frees, etc.

Instead I drink Sobe LifeWater (sweetened with stevia) or drink unsweetened ice tea I brew at home (part black tea, part green tea for the good stuff in the green tea). Sometimes I drink it plain...sometimes I add a little stevia or agave or even honey....depending on the status of my sweet tooth.

Well....diet coke (or even worse, coke free) was a big addiction for me. If they were in the house, I would drink them...a couple a day. If they weren't in the house, I'd frequently be asking Scoote "can you bring me home a Coke Free honey?"

Addiction.

I would crave them.

Well, it's been a few weeks and....although it was difficult in the beginning...I don't crave them at all anymore. Poof! Gone! I'm totally satisfied with my water, iced tea, Sobe or coffee (or the occasional V8).

It's too early to tell what the long term effect will be. But here's the interesting parallel....I crave sweets much, much less often as well.

My BIGGEST downfall is Pepsi, I've tried stopping them but I don't know what it is I just can't seem to do it on My own. Water is not something I'm fond of and even Crystal Lights don't seem to do it for Me ........... am I doing something wrong? Or am I maybe too used to them that My body craves them even more? I really don't know but I'm going to try again in the next day or two to really get back on a water kick (I was doing so well for a couple of days too). Well it happens we all fall off the wagon, but I'm determined to get back on it and ride off into the sunset

Originally Posted by sweetfemme247

my family is way bigger then me and she gets pissed if i lose weight and she dont

Your beautiful just the way you are honey ~ I know someone specifically who is a big problem where your family is concerned and I'd certainly love to tell them a thing or two!!!!

Originally Posted by PinkieLee

I know it has to be hard when family and/or friends don't support you on this journey. But remember, you are doing this for YOU, not for them. People use those bullying tactics out of jealousy. (they are miserable, so they want you to be miserable, too). So, you keep moving in the right direction... and know that you have lots of support here!

Yes it is hard and since basically 99.99999999999999999999999% of the family on both My mom and Dad's side have labeled us the "black sheeps" of the family, My only true support is My mom and one friend (besides all of My friends here on BFP). I've learned to ignore than bull crap and have been living My life the best way that I know how ........... so far so good, there are always things to improve but things could definately be worse!

Originally Posted by Medusa

What Pinkie says is so true. I would seriously question a friend or family member who did some form of sabotage around my health routine. Whether it be finding reasons why you shouldnt exercise or shaming and blaming around losing weight, I think there can be a lot of enabling stuff around codependant relationships and someone working to keep you unhealthy or immobile.

Not saying at all that anyone but me is responsible for my health but I do think that we have to be super-diligent about surrounding ourselves with people who are positive, supportive, evolved, and invested in US in healthy ways.

Most of all, you need to be able to say to yourself that your health is a priority for YOU and than nobody has the right to stand in the way of that. You need to be able to look around at the people in your orbit and know that they love you, support you, and want nothing but the best for you not because it will bring something good to *them* but because it will be good for *you*.

Also, don't base your happiness on the "what you'll do when...." stuff. Don't get caught up in "when I lose weight, I'll go on a cruise..." or "when I lose weight, I'll buy a new car...".
Because ultimately, you're alive right now. Get the car. Go on the cruise. Wear that dress. LIVE. Unabashedly.

We're perfect just the way we are. We'll be perfect when we are both larger and smaller, fatter and thinner. Our bodies are not the single determining factor in our "acceptability". We're acceptable NOW!

Coming from someone as fabulous as you hun, those are fantastic words! Sometimes I wish I lived closer to alot of My B-F family members, but atleast knowing that your all there just when your needed makes it easier to realize that I have *BIG* chosen family right here :-)

[PinkieLee]

Originally Posted by little_ms_sunshyne

""We are acceptable now..."

Those words ring so much truth. We forget that we are worthy of living! I am guilty of avoiding certain things because I am insecure. I went to hawaii and didnt wear a bathing suit! One day I looked at T and told him I was tired of not doing things because of my weight. While I have gotten better, I am far from where I need to be with confidence. I dont even like to take pictures of myself lol Oh jeez! This thread makes me open up like a book! In any case, We are worthy of living DAMNIT! And those that judge us and think otherwise..."fuck 'em" *curtsy* sorry I have been cutting down on my profanity to only 5 times a day lol

I totally feel you on this one Sunshyne! Putting our lives on hold for eventful day "when we lose weight" does not work! I've been guilty of it myself. I refuse to let my fear of what others MIGHT think & insecurities stop me from living my life to the fullest potential!

You got this pretty lady... keep your head raised high & go out there and do your thing!!!

[PinkieLee]

Originally Posted by Scorp

Okay...So I had a weak moment today and had a lunch date with some friends...We went to Bertucci's and I got an individual lunch size mushroom pizza.

Needless to say, I felt guilty after the fact...However, it was so damn good...

Tonight i'm skipping dinner because I'm not hungry. Later on I'll have my reduced-fat cheeze-it's while watching my tv shows....

Pizza.... one of my downfalls! Not only do I love it, but it's always such an easy route to go when I don't want to cook. If we order pizza, I do my best to keep bags of salad or veggies in the fridge, so I allow myself to eat 2 pieces of pizza & make a salad to go with it.

Don't feel guilty Jackie... you kept it in moderation. A personal size mushroom pizza is not gonna kill you. See, you already had a game plan for the rest of the day, so you were good. I'm glad that you enjoyed the pizza date with friends!