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sarahwho · 11-11-2011, 09:29 PM

Hey...rushing in, and then going to bed.

It snowed today - woke up to a sprinkling of the white crap on the leaves - ugh! Luckily tomorrow it will be in the 50's...have to take my son to see his grandparent's from his bio side, and then despite a cold I suddenly got, I have to rake the leaf piles and get them up before it actually decides to snow and kill the rest of the grass!

Leigh · 11-11-2011, 10:46 PM

Hey guys and gals, I hope you all have a fantastic weekend

morningstar55 · 11-14-2011, 12:54 PM

**peeking in **

hey ya singles....... wow a lot to catch up on here.
been busy running the highways to towns and cities near you .. lol
hey is anyone getting on that christmas card exchange thingie?? i been on it for a few seasons now. its kinda a fun and nice thing to do..

welp bbl.....

Leigh · 11-14-2011, 01:35 PM

Hi everyone, I hope your all having a great Monday so far

kannon · 11-14-2011, 04:30 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Jarrek

Hello all you singles! I hardly ever post in threads, however, I saw this one and

felt "at home". Dating is much more challenging, in my experience, as a

transman, so I was wondering if I could have other people's input if they felt

comfortable sharing? Can other guys relate to this?

A question for those who admire us: What types of characteristics in an FTM/Transman attracts you to us? Turns you off?

*I appreciate and respect the honesty and incite anyone would like to share!

I've been thinking about this since you posted this question. I'm at a really weird transitional stage. Some days I pass completely and some days I don't. About a month ago, I had a car accident and every person at the scene addressed me as sir or bud except for the officer who saw my drivers license. However, he didn't front me out. Anyway, a woman stopped to offer assistance and seemed to be interested. Later, I realized that she was. She stayed with me throughout the ordeal and gave me a ride home. Later she comes to my house to "check on me." We exchanged numbers. I didn't feel obligated to explain my situation at that time. I wanted to wait until she got to know me a little better. Anyway, she goes to my work and asked my co-workers about me. I've only told a couple of people that I'm transgendered. I live in the bible belt. I'm waiting until I graduate from grad school and move to more liberal area before I come out completely. So, a co-worker corrects her when she addresses me as he or him. After that, she completely cuts off all communication with me. So, I just left her alone and respected her wishes. I didn't try to explain myself or justify my actions. I just left it alone. Throughout the whole ordeal I struggled with it. The whole situation made me feel uncomfortable. I'm sure it really embarrassed her. It was very awkward. I hope this will be easier to deal with after I move. I really don't want people to know until I choose to tell them. I'm not planning on dating straight woman without telling them. But, I would like to get to know someone before I reveal something so personal to me. So, dating has been more difficult for me.

sarahwho · 11-15-2011, 08:01 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by kannon

I've been thinking about this since you posted this question. I'm at a really weird transitional stage. Some days I pass completely and some days I don't. About a month ago, I had a car accident and every person at the scene addressed me as sir or bud except for the officer who saw my drivers license. However, he didn't front me out. Anyway, a woman stopped to offer assistance and seemed to be interested. Later, I realized that she was. She stayed with me throughout the ordeal and gave me a ride home. Later she comes to my house to "check on me." We exchanged numbers. I didn't feel obligated to explain my situation at that time. I wanted to wait until she got to know me a little better. Anyway, she goes to my work and asked my co-workers about me. I've only told a couple of people that I'm transgendered. I live in the bible belt. I'm waiting until I graduate from grad school and move to more liberal area before I come out completely. So, a co-worker corrects her when she addresses me as he or him. After that, she completely cuts off all communication with me. So, I just left her alone and respected her wishes. I didn't try to explain myself or justify my actions. I just left it alone. Throughout the whole ordeal I struggled with it. The whole situation made me feel uncomfortable. I'm sure it really embarrassed her. It was very awkward. I hope this will be easier to deal with after I move. I really don't want people to know until I choose to tell them. I'm not planning on dating straight woman without telling them. But, I would like to get to know someone before I reveal something so personal to me. So, dating has been more difficult for me.

I do not understand why people are so closed minded and so prejudiced! Maybe I am an

or something! I just don't get it! Maybe people should follow some of them around for awhile and see what makes them so "lily white"! UGH!

CockyDude · 11-25-2011, 01:47 PM

Hey all. Would love to see this thread get more involved.

Leigh · 11-25-2011, 03:18 PM

Just came in to say hello

TEXNSMILE · 11-29-2011, 12:43 AM

I couldn't agree more with the awkward part of timing.
I lived 2/3 of my life as a confident often cocky butch, before my
transition. Out and Proud, front line, flag carrying member of an incredible
movement. I say I'm living my life back ass wards.. lol
Was out and proud, fearless
Now closet case, hard to know where ya fit in, who to tell, who
will see something worth keeping.
I'm no newbie to transition, but I sure haven't got it figured out.
I recently came here, to make some friends, try to feel connected, make
some connections.
Looking forward to the posts
TEX

" Character, what you do when no one is looking. "

Leigh · 11-29-2011, 01:12 AM

Well I'm back to the Singles drawing board again but no worries, I'll be fine .......... just here to be with My friends

ScandalAndy · 11-29-2011, 07:27 AM

Well, I was at dinner with a friend the other night, and the server referred to us as "ladies" again. I'm sick to death of being the one who gets all agitated and flatly states "he's a boy". Inevitably the server gets flustered and apologizes, and this person whom I've known for years now just sits there silently. I know he's pissed because he passes 100% of the time, it's just his voice that is the problem. He's property of the US government for the next 8 years, and while DADT has been repealed, being trans is still a big no-no.

I wish I knew how to handle these situations. I just get so outraged. One of us has to say something, and I know he doesn't correct people because he's too busy being in shock. Any suggestions? I'm not afraid to stand up and say something, I just wish it was less awkward.

KimbaYLRF · 11-29-2011, 08:05 AM

I have been this thread daily and I have never met a trans person in my life, but I feel what you all are going through.

I wish this was a time everyone was open-minded but sadly things are not like that. I would love someone no matter who or what they were so long as they are a good person.

Liam · 11-29-2011, 10:03 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ScandalAndy

Well, I was at dinner with a friend the other night, and the server referred to us as "ladies" again. I'm sick to death of being the one who gets all agitated and flatly states "he's a boy". Inevitably the server gets flustered and apologizes, and this person whom I've known for years now just sits there silently. I know he's pissed because he passes 100% of the time, it's just his voice that is the problem. He's property of the US government for the next 8 years, and while DADT has been repealed, being trans is still a big no-no.

I wish I knew how to handle these situations. I just get so outraged. One of us has to say something, and I know he doesn't correct people because he's too busy being in shock. Any suggestions? I'm not afraid to stand up and say something, I just wish it was less awkward.

I think humor goes a long way in situations like this, and laughter seems to quickly diffuse the tension for everyone in a scenario like the one you described.

Comments directed to your friend, while the server is present after their faux pas, such as, "Gee, I bet you wish you hadn't taken your Mama's Midol when you were a little boy!" or "Wayne Newton did well in Vegas with his voice, maybe we should go there."

It doesn't matter that Midol could never alter someone's voice, nor that your friend would never dream of singing in front of people. You are not jumping the server, and you are being supportive of your male friend, and hopefully everyone is smiling.

sarahwho · 11-29-2011, 11:17 AM

Hey there, hi there, ho there.....been around, just not

- had some bank issues, today that is straightened out, then I find out my son is spending my $$ at the academy, and NOT saying anything about it!

BUT now I know....I will NEVER be out from "under" -

VintageFemme · 11-29-2011, 11:45 PM

Just saying hello to everyone too! Hope the week is going swimmingly well ... quick, effortless and full of smiles.

atomiczombie · 12-02-2011, 06:51 PM

Hi everyone!

atomiczombie · 12-04-2011, 04:11 PM

Single FTM seeks single femme for fun and flirting.

Me: old fashion, charming, Stone Top, mad skills, silly, sweet, and happy to stay single.

You: live within a couple hours or so from the bay area/sacramento, very feminine, sexual bottom, sweet, kind, level headed, up for some fun, not looking to get serious.

I don't have a lot of money for expensive dates. I am just looking for some light dating and sex without commitment. Safe sex is a must. Thanks for reading!

Leigh · 12-04-2011, 05:07 PM

Just came in to say hi to all of My fellow guys & the beautiful girls who enjoy us

ScandalAndy · 12-05-2011, 07:19 AM

I don't know where else to put this, but I have to get it out, so I hope you all don't mind me putting it here.

One of my close friends is in the beginning stages of transition. We went to Friendly's because he had just finished a long recording session, and I'm never one to turn down ice cream. As is my custom, I survey the table we are going to be seated at, and position myself to best avoid conflict. I noticed that the table to the left had two high school aged girls facing our table, and the table to the right was unoccupied, so of course I sat on the right so I could keep an eye on the high schooler situation. Five minutes after we sat down they both got up to "go to the bathroom" and peeked over at our table repeatedly as they passed. Fifteen minutes later one of them went to the bathroom again. As they were about to leave, both of them went to the bathroom AGAIN, and on their way back, as they're standing next to our table one looks at the other and says "oh my god you're right, it IS a girl".

They went up to the front counter and stood next to their mother and I turned ten shades of red. My friend looked at me with big eyes and said quietly "did that really just happen?" I had a five second debate with myself, tossed my phone on the table, and got up. I walked up to those two girls and I said to them "It is completely inappropriate to repeatedly walk by someone's table and look at their chest to try and determine their gender. Furthermore, you should use "he or she" if you think someone is a boy or a girl. The use of the word "it" is completely dehumanizing and utterly unacceptable." Then I turned around and went back to my table to try and comfort my friend, who was shattered by the whole experience.

I put my happy face on and joked, cheered up my friend, and kept an eagle eye on those two girls who were with their mother in the front entryway, gesturing wildly. Luckily, they left.

Our waitress came over to our table and asked if we needed anything else. I apologized for causing a scene, and she said "Honestly, I heard them talking but I had no idea they were harassing you. If I had known something was going to happen, I would have had it taken care of. I'm so sorry, they need to grow up".

I was so angry I was shaking, but I never once raised my voice with those girls, and our waitress was on our side. Now if only we could get to the point where people don't have to act like this and hurt others.

Thanks for listening, all. Let me know if this should be moved to a diff thread.

morningstar55 · 12-05-2011, 07:25 AM

morning to singles have a awsome monday!!

11-11-2011, 09:29 PM	#741
sarahwho Member How Do You Identify?: lonely femme.... Preferred Pronoun?: her/she Relationship Status: single - I quit Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Ohio Posts: 232 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 80 Thanked 152 Times in 69 Posts Rep Power: 2722346	Hey...rushing in, and then going to bed. It snowed today - woke up to a sprinkling of the white crap on the leaves - ugh! Luckily tomorrow it will be in the 50's...have to take my son to see his grandparent's from his bio side, and then despite a cold I suddenly got, I have to rake the leaf piles and get them up before it actually decides to snow and kill the rest of the grass! __________________ You will find a girl prettier than me, smarter than me, and funnier than me, but you will never find a girl just like me.

11-11-2011, 10:46 PM	#742
Leigh Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, etc Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Canada Posts: 7,767 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,029 Thanked 13,024 Times in 4,784 Posts Rep Power: 21474860	Hey guys and gals, I hope you all have a fantastic weekend __________________ "When you fall off the wagon ... clutch the sides of it until you get a better grip!"

11-14-2011, 12:54 PM	#743
morningstar55 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme,she Preferred Pronoun?: she,her, Relationship Status: very single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: western NY Posts: 3,809 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,280 Thanked 4,240 Times in 1,845 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	peeking in hey ya singles....... wow a lot to catch up on here. been busy running the highways to towns and cities near you .. lol hey is anyone getting on that christmas card exchange thingie?? i been on it for a few seasons now. its kinda a fun and nice thing to do.. welp bbl..... __________________ -------------------------------------------- life is to short to wake up in the morning with regrets so love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who dont, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance take it... if it changes your life let it.

11-14-2011, 01:35 PM	#744
Leigh Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, etc Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Canada Posts: 7,767 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,029 Thanked 13,024 Times in 4,784 Posts Rep Power: 21474860	Hi everyone, I hope your all having a great Monday so far __________________ "When you fall off the wagon ... clutch the sides of it until you get a better grip!"

11-25-2011, 01:47 PM	#747
CockyDude Timed Out How Do You Identify?: FTM-man Preferred Pronoun?: He, Him Relationship Status: What is today? Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Midwest Posts: 239 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 151 Thanked 420 Times in 141 Posts Rep Power: 0	Bumping Hey all. Would love to see this thread get more involved.

11-25-2011, 03:18 PM	#748
Leigh Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, etc Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Canada Posts: 7,767 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,029 Thanked 13,024 Times in 4,784 Posts Rep Power: 21474860	Just came in to say hello __________________ "When you fall off the wagon ... clutch the sides of it until you get a better grip!"

11-29-2011, 12:43 AM	#749
TEXNSMILE Junior Member How Do You Identify?: FTM Preferred Pronoun?: Him, He Relationship Status: Open to Finding Love Join Date: Nov 2011 Location: Portland Posts: 4 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 0 Thanked 11 Times in 2 Posts Rep Power: 0	In Agreement ~ I couldn't agree more with the awkward part of timing. I lived 2/3 of my life as a confident often cocky butch, before my transition. Out and Proud, front line, flag carrying member of an incredible movement. I say I'm living my life back ass wards.. lol Was out and proud, fearless Now closet case, hard to know where ya fit in, who to tell, who will see something worth keeping. I'm no newbie to transition, but I sure haven't got it figured out. I recently came here, to make some friends, try to feel connected, make some connections. Looking forward to the posts TEX " Character, what you do when no one is looking. " __________________ "the more you like yourself, the less you have to pretend to be someone else."

11-29-2011, 01:12 AM	#750
Leigh Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, etc Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Canada Posts: 7,767 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,029 Thanked 13,024 Times in 4,784 Posts Rep Power: 21474860	Well I'm back to the Singles drawing board again but no worries, I'll be fine .......... just here to be with My friends __________________ "When you fall off the wagon ... clutch the sides of it until you get a better grip!"

11-29-2011, 07:27 AM	#751
ScandalAndy Member How Do You Identify?: human femme spitfire Preferred Pronoun?: she/her Relationship Status: it's official! Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: east coast USA Posts: 1,167 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,758 Thanked 3,217 Times in 753 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	Well, I was at dinner with a friend the other night, and the server referred to us as "ladies" again. I'm sick to death of being the one who gets all agitated and flatly states "he's a boy". Inevitably the server gets flustered and apologizes, and this person whom I've known for years now just sits there silently. I know he's pissed because he passes 100% of the time, it's just his voice that is the problem. He's property of the US government for the next 8 years, and while DADT has been repealed, being trans is still a big no-no. I wish I knew how to handle these situations. I just get so outraged. One of us has to say something, and I know he doesn't correct people because he's too busy being in shock. Any suggestions? I'm not afraid to stand up and say something, I just wish it was less awkward. __________________ The joy of discovery is certainly the liveliest that the mind of man can ever feel. - Claude Bernard (1813-78)

11-29-2011, 08:05 AM	#752
KimbaYLRF Junior Member How Do You Identify?: I originally posted femme, but not quite I am femme. Maybe a 'tweener. Relationship Status: On the way to being single Join Date: Nov 2011 Location: MA Posts: 61 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 149 Thanked 331 Times in 48 Posts Rep Power: 3875347	I have been this thread daily and I have never met a trans person in my life, but I feel what you all are going through. I wish this was a time everyone was open-minded but sadly things are not like that. I would love someone no matter who or what they were so long as they are a good person. __________________ This is life, not heaven, you do not have to be perfect.

11-29-2011, 11:17 AM	#754
sarahwho Member How Do You Identify?: lonely femme.... Preferred Pronoun?: her/she Relationship Status: single - I quit Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Ohio Posts: 232 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 80 Thanked 152 Times in 69 Posts Rep Power: 2722346	Hey there, hi there, ho there.....been around, just not - had some bank issues, today that is straightened out, then I find out my son is spending my $$ at the academy, and NOT saying anything about it! BUT now I know....I will NEVER be out from "under" - __________________ You will find a girl prettier than me, smarter than me, and funnier than me, but you will never find a girl just like me.

11-29-2011, 11:45 PM	#755
VintageFemme Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Outside Posts: 2,299 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,828 Thanked 7,620 Times in 1,655 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Just saying hello to everyone too! Hope the week is going swimmingly well ... quick, effortless and full of smiles. __________________ Unfinished Business & Open to Serendipity

12-02-2011, 06:51 PM	#756
atomiczombie Member How Do You Identify?: Femmesensual Transguy Preferred Pronoun?: He, Him, His Relationship Status: Dating Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Rio Vista, CA Posts: 1,225 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,949 Thanked 3,220 Times in 759 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Hi everyone! __________________ http://i277.photobucket.com/albums/k...orums_2000.gif Russian Unicorn http://occupiedmedia.us/

12-04-2011, 04:11 PM	#757
atomiczombie Member How Do You Identify?: Femmesensual Transguy Preferred Pronoun?: He, Him, His Relationship Status: Dating Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Rio Vista, CA Posts: 1,225 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,949 Thanked 3,220 Times in 759 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Single FTM seeks single femme for fun and flirting. Me: old fashion, charming, Stone Top, mad skills, silly, sweet, and happy to stay single. You: live within a couple hours or so from the bay area/sacramento, very feminine, sexual bottom, sweet, kind, level headed, up for some fun, not looking to get serious. I don't have a lot of money for expensive dates. I am just looking for some light dating and sex without commitment. Safe sex is a must. Thanks for reading! __________________ http://i277.photobucket.com/albums/k...orums_2000.gif Russian Unicorn http://occupiedmedia.us/

12-04-2011, 05:07 PM	#758
Leigh Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, etc Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Canada Posts: 7,767 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,029 Thanked 13,024 Times in 4,784 Posts Rep Power: 21474860	Just came in to say hi to all of My fellow guys & the beautiful girls who enjoy us __________________ "When you fall off the wagon ... clutch the sides of it until you get a better grip!"

12-05-2011, 07:19 AM	#759
ScandalAndy Member How Do You Identify?: human femme spitfire Preferred Pronoun?: she/her Relationship Status: it's official! Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: east coast USA Posts: 1,167 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,758 Thanked 3,217 Times in 753 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	I don't know where else to put this, but I have to get it out, so I hope you all don't mind me putting it here. One of my close friends is in the beginning stages of transition. We went to Friendly's because he had just finished a long recording session, and I'm never one to turn down ice cream. As is my custom, I survey the table we are going to be seated at, and position myself to best avoid conflict. I noticed that the table to the left had two high school aged girls facing our table, and the table to the right was unoccupied, so of course I sat on the right so I could keep an eye on the high schooler situation. Five minutes after we sat down they both got up to "go to the bathroom" and peeked over at our table repeatedly as they passed. Fifteen minutes later one of them went to the bathroom again. As they were about to leave, both of them went to the bathroom AGAIN, and on their way back, as they're standing next to our table one looks at the other and says "oh my god you're right, it IS a girl". They went up to the front counter and stood next to their mother and I turned ten shades of red. My friend looked at me with big eyes and said quietly "did that really just happen?" I had a five second debate with myself, tossed my phone on the table, and got up. I walked up to those two girls and I said to them "It is completely inappropriate to repeatedly walk by someone's table and look at their chest to try and determine their gender. Furthermore, you should use "he or she" if you think someone is a boy or a girl. The use of the word "it" is completely dehumanizing and utterly unacceptable." Then I turned around and went back to my table to try and comfort my friend, who was shattered by the whole experience. I put my happy face on and joked, cheered up my friend, and kept an eagle eye on those two girls who were with their mother in the front entryway, gesturing wildly. Luckily, they left. Our waitress came over to our table and asked if we needed anything else. I apologized for causing a scene, and she said "Honestly, I heard them talking but I had no idea they were harassing you. If I had known something was going to happen, I would have had it taken care of. I'm so sorry, they need to grow up". I was so angry I was shaking, but I never once raised my voice with those girls, and our waitress was on our side. Now if only we could get to the point where people don't have to act like this and hurt others. Thanks for listening, all. Let me know if this should be moved to a diff thread. __________________ The joy of discovery is certainly the liveliest that the mind of man can ever feel. - Claude Bernard (1813-78)

12-05-2011, 07:25 AM	#760
morningstar55 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme,she Preferred Pronoun?: she,her, Relationship Status: very single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: western NY Posts: 3,809 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,280 Thanked 4,240 Times in 1,845 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	morning to singles have a awsome monday!! __________________ -------------------------------------------- life is to short to wake up in the morning with regrets so love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who dont, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance take it... if it changes your life let it.