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hey ms. do what you gotta do. scream, yell at folks lol. so what, it's tough. keep your hands busy. stay on the quittin' side! mac |
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Ok ---- just venting. Thanks.
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Approaching the 72hr mark. It's hard. They say to identify your triggers and make changes around those but I find this impossible. There are too many. Mornings and late nights are hardest for me. I think because I am sleepy and my defenses are lessened. Last night, after I went to bed, I was craving so hard that I said "fuck it" and actually got up and dressed, bundled up and went out toward the car with intention to go buy some. I stood there with keys in hand, hesitated and agonized, then went back inside and took off my shoes and coat. Then I put them back on and did the same thing two more times before I finally came back in and put myself back to bed, having not smoked.
Having not smoked. I am a non-smoker. I can do this. I release all of my attachments to addiction and all the emotions, insecurities, and anxieties that I associate with quitting.
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I slipped. Just a little, and I am ready to recommit. I am not much of one for beating myself up when I am imperfect because that really doesn't help - took me a long time to learn that. But I do think it is important to keep myself accountable for the commitment I've made to myself. So I thought I'd come here and "say it out loud".
I am committed to being a non-smoker. I have the strength and ability to overcome my addiction starting right now.
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You got this!! I quit 1 year and 1 day ago!! It is possible even if it makes us do the most bizarre things. It gets easier!! Don't anyone of you give up!!!! That means you to Strappolina! |
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Cut down before you go cold turkey..re read idea through this thread. I know you can and will do this.
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I quit 9 months ago!! I can't believe I quit, yet I find it really hard to believe I ever smoked. I hate the smell and the taste! Go figure
You would think I would have quit sooner. My mother passed away in 2006 from lung cancer. Good luck to all, you/we can do this!!!!!
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This is my 50th time! I was quit for a the year 2009, and for 6 weeks last winter (taught myself to crochet!), and numerous less successful times before, in between, and since. I've cut down from a pack a day, to half a pack, to 1/3. I've got so many tools and coping skills in my arsenal, it's ridiculous. And I'm a little embarrassed - but that's why I'm talking about it. Shame has no place here, and it will just make me want to smoke more. This is totally a psychological issue for me. I've done so much growth and healing, but cigarettes have been my only constant since I was a teenager. Even though I hate smoking, it's like the death of a beloved friend. There. I said it. It's really feels that dramatic. Maybe I need to allow myself to grieve the loss of this companion that saw me through so much, while recognizing I don't need it anymore, and letting go...
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I know for me there was a loss of identity too. Part of my identity was being a smoker. This was not somthing I was ashamed of, either. It has been a bit over 3 years since I have quit. I still miss it. I LOVE the smell of smoke (in the air, not on people). A friend of mine was helping me change my brakes this past weekend and he had a cig. in his mouth when he reached over to help me with something on the rotor. The smell was delightful! Hell yeah, I miss it!
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Celebrated my 11th month smoke free today...smiles I know to some it may be silly to do so but today I officially have not smoked aprox. 13,200 ciggarretts. And have started to regenerate some damage I have done. .
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Today, January 5th I celebrate two full years of being a non-smoker!
I smoked for many years and thought that I would never be able to quit. I think what helped me the most was, before I tried to quit I thought a lot about when I started smoking and what the real reason(s) were that I began in the first place...trying to fit in with "the crowd", wanting to be grown, it was cool back then to smoke, feeling a lack of control in one's life, whatever. Everyone has different reasons. Once I realized what mine was, and told myself the truth, the actual quitting became much easier for me. I also had to get to the point where I truly wanted to stop smoking. Like I said, it's different for each of us. Sometimes I still can't believe I did it. Congrats to everyone who is still working on, or even thinking about quitting! If this is something that you really want, then it will be yours.
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With all my medical stuff creeping up on me, I am asked quite regularly, when I last smoked. I've had a couple of professionals say to me that they think with all that's going on, this will more than likely be my last time fighting it.
Yeh, I have to agree... it's just not worth the hassle when it comes to all the negatives it's brought about to my body. Two months now for me! |
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Keep it up and never pick up again. Soooo happy for you . Today is a grand marker for you. You need to treat yourself with something in honor of your continued choice to say no. .
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So glad you chose health or continued cell generation..smiles I can so relate to the medical side of things. Keep it up! .
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