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[asphaltcowboi]

its going to be a tuff holiday season for me.. lost my brother to cancer last month sept 20th, he was always a big thanksgiving guy. lost my mother a few years ago nov 20th...my partner to cancer 2yrs ago she always made a huge thanksgiving. it seems thanksgiving has turned into a day of rememberance for me. ill be spending it with some close friends, two straight couples that are always trying to set me up. shound be fun, but i do know what will be in the back of my mind.

anyway good morning to all the singles and have a great day!

[cuddlyfemme]

Originally Posted by Sunny

You would not believe what I have gotten on dating sites. Never mind the Femmes that want other Femmes, Butches that want other Butches and then there are the Men that put on wigs and call themselves women. Sometimes I am not sure if it is a masculine Butch with a girly wig on. It makes me wonder why a Butch like me who is a CATCH (as my friends tell me) has a problem finding a Femme to date??????? LOL
Anyhow, lets talk turkey. I hope I am going to one of my friends for Thanksgiving. If not I will be alone. I do have a Thanksgiving story.....
My girlfriends entire family was coming over for dinner. I told her I would cook. Why? I was young and took on any challenge. So I made dinner and everyone raved about my stuffing. They all wanted to know my secret receipe. I told them that is was no secret. I put the usual items in. Celery, onion, bread crumbs, and sausage. They said to me there was something else that was a certain flavor they loved. Then I remembered I put alot of white wine in the stuffing. I told my girlfriend the secret item. She said DO NOT TELL THEM. I asked why? She said that most of her family were recovering alcoholics. I had no idea and felt really bad about serving them the stuffing. Who knew?????
Well goodnight everyone. Sweet Dreams.

I've got a few friends that tell me that I'm a catch...in particular one really good friend. I know she's just being supportive which at times is needed. Other times I think to myself "if I'm such a catch why am I still single" Maybe its the fact that I'm a Stone Femme has something to do with it. I don't know but I do know that I won't not be a Stone Femme for anyone...its who I am.

As for Thanksgiving, I'll be having it with my family at either my mom's house or my sister's house. My sister wants it at her house because she's got 2 kids and the kids get bored at my mom's because there's nothing for them to do. For years I didn't spend Thanksgiving with my family because I was in DC and I couldn't afford to fly to SC for both Thanksgiving or Christmas so I'd do one or the other.

Have a good day everyone...its Friday!!!!

[asphaltcowboi]

Originally Posted by cuddlyfemme

I've got a few friends that tell me that I'm a catch...in particular one really good friend. I know she's just being supportive which at times is needed. Other times I think to myself "if I'm such a catch why am I still single" Maybe its the fact that I'm a Stone Femme has something to do with it. I don't know but I do know that I won't not be a Stone Femme for anyone...its who I am.

As for Thanksgiving, I'll be having it with my family at either my mom's house or my sister's house. My sister wants it at her house because she's got 2 kids and the kids get bored at my mom's because there's nothing for them to do. For years I didn't spend Thanksgiving with my family because I was in DC and I couldn't afford to fly to SC for both Thanksgiving or Christmas so I'd do one or the other.

Have a good day everyone...its Friday!!!!

yeah for friday!! i dont think stone has anything to do with it.. me personaly i think to many people have gotten umm .. for a loss of better word "lazy" in thier dating habits. i know i feel i have in the past. counting on the computer to do all the work for me instead of actually putting on my best getting out there and meeting people. i would instead toss a few things out on a dating site and wait for replies.. didnt work for me either.. met a few stalkers and some very strange ones. i feel there is no one "like me" within 100 miles of where i live. being stone and very close to male id'd i may end up falling back into dating straight women. in the past for me this has caused nothing but proplems, fights with hetro guys, being put down for who i am an what i love. i dont want to go to jail for fighting "again" so ill sit back in the "lazy" roll and hope someone comes my way putting me,my dog, my harley,my home and my truck befor dating.. usually keeps me busy an happy and i know eventuly if its meant to be for me it will happen when it should.

[cuddlyfemme]

Originally Posted by cody

yeah for friday!! i dont think stone has anything to do with it.. me personaly i think to many people have gotten umm .. for a loss of better word "lazy" in thier dating habits. i know i feel i have in the past. counting on the computer to do all the work for me instead of actually putting on my best getting out there and meeting people i would toss a few things out on a dating site and wait for replies.. didnt work for me either.. met a dew stalker and some very strange ones. but now i feel there is no one "like me" within 100 miles of where i live. being stone and very close to male id'd i may end up falling back into dating straight women. in the past for me this has caused nothing but proplems, fights with hetro guys, being put down for who i am an what i love. i dont want to go to jail for fighting "again" so ill sit back in the "lazy" roll and hope someone comes my way putting me,my dog, my harley,my home and my truck befor dating.. usually keeps me busy an happy and i know eventuly if its meant to be for me it will happen when it should.

I'm glad to know that you don't think that it has anything to do with being Stone I was talking with a good friend last night who happens to be a Stone Butch and we were talking about this subject and hy was saying the same thing...that its hard to find a Stone Femme because alot of them seem to be dating hetro guys...thats something that I won't do. I know what you mean about getting lazy. Being new to SC, I'm not sure where to find the butches...maybe I need to go to Home Depot or Lowes lol. I do agree with you on if its meant to be, it will happen but I still get a little impatient at times. As for dating straight women, I'm sure there are alot of Femme's that would love to date you

[morningstar55]

Originally Posted by cody

its going to be a tuff holiday season for me.. lost my brother to cancer last month sept 20th, he was always a big thanksgiving guy. lost my mother a few years ago nov 20th...my partner to cancer 2yrs ago she always made a huge thanksgiving. it seems thanksgiving has turned into a day of rememberance for me. ill be spending it with some close friends, two straight couples that are always trying to set me up. shound be fun, but i do know what will be in the back of my mind.

anyway good morning to all the singles and have a great day!

((((((((((((((((Cody)))))))))))))))))
i understand....... the loss of loved ones lately...
for me ....... my dad Nov 10,2007
my 1 and only sis..... 8 months later.. sept 2009
and then my sister in law that was such a good friend and always fun to do the feme stuff with like shopping and such..... lost her sept 2010 ..
kinda wierd my sis and sister in law same month diferent yr.
anyways.............. ya know my family is having a gathering and im cooking... your welcome to come join us here if you like

[morningstar55]

good morning singles
breakfast is on me...

[MysticOceansFL]

Good Morning Everyone!

[AtLast]

Mornin'.....

So, whoever wants to go to the dance tomorrow night here, meet at my house at about 6.

Geez..... wouldn't it be great to really have a "transporter" via Scottie! Would solve so many problems!

Just Beam Me!

Wishing all a great weekend!

[lipstixgal]

For me Thanksgiving is just another day so far no one in my family has invited me to come over. I think I will stay home yet another year!! Last year the trustee of the trust fund invited me to her daughter's house in Ringwood which is far to say the least and really really dark at night couldn't find my way back home that evening so not really looking forward to it!! I really celebrate the Jewish Holidays more then anything at this point in my life!! hope all the singles are having a good day..

[AtLast]

I will spend Thanksgiving at our family ranch in Northern California. What is great about this is that there is room there for us to gather and it is pretty central for all of us to travel to.

If it turns out to be a nice day, all the kids can run and scream and just be kids outside. If not, they will do the same, inside! A football game will be blaring in one room with some that enjoy this and some kind of rivalry will most likely be going on. My sister’s grandchildren will make time to play checkers or just sit with her husband that has Alzheimer’s. Shit, they are starting to do some things like this with me because of my damn arthritis!

The Holidays are a time that I do get to see family and this means a lot to me. There is always reverence paid to those we have lost, lots of laughter, catching up, hugs, tears, arguing, and great food!

We all have things that have been passed down generationally that we cook for each other and family traditions passed on to children, like preparing and serving antipasto, using dishes from my parents and their parents. The basil used is still from seed my own father’s gardening produced that was from his Grandfather in Italy! Yes, one of my adult nephews has made certain that the seeds are preserved each year for this and he also produces olive oil and imported trees from the regions of Italy my Mom and Dad were from. Now, he is working on getting some from Chile as we have uncovered family “secrets” about a part of our family that was hidden from us. He is doing this as a way to combat the internal racism that surrounded this occurring in our family. You don’t have to let wrongs continue and this begins at home! We are hoping that new found family from the east coast will be at the table for Christmas.

I always talk about the "First Thanksgiving" in terms of how Native Americans were treated and continue to be treated. Education begins in all of our homes, within the family. Correcting what is left out in school curriculums is up to all of us.


Elders do sit at the head of the tables and I am proud to be given one of those seats. Younger members learn of the relatives they are too young to have known. We want them to have a sense of our family history, their culture. We bring favorite photos to share.

It is also a time that we reflect together on how much we do have to be thankful for as a family. Arguments over politics will run rampant! We have differences just like everyone, but, there has always been a deep love between us that transcends these differences. We do have each other's backs and always have.

I am very fortunate to have the family that I do and never take this for granted. So many other people just do not have this as a foundation and that makes me sad. Perfect, we are not, proud of our heritage and contributions as a family to our communities and each other, we are. I would not trade my deep love of family garnished with immigrant history for anything.


There will be many stories about those that we have lost and as usual, I will miss my parents, brother and one sister sitting with me and the “clan.” But they are with us.

No, it isn't just another day to me.

[MaggieBluIze]

I wish I had more time to be in here ... Work is insane busy today ...

So... In my one minute of free time just had to come in and say hello to everyone!!!

Hello!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Miss y'all!!!!!!!!!!!

Have a fabulous Friday!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Luckydwg07]

Hello Everyone! I will be working so I will be spending my first Thanksgiving alone (well ~ me & my 3 dogs). visited my family last week for a per-Thanksgiving gathering.

Hope you all have a really nice weekend!

[Zimmeh]

When I was younger, my family and I would drive up to my greatgrandmother's house and have Thanksgiving and Christmas there. When my parents seperated and then divorced, my brothers and I would go to our mom's house on Christmas Eve <it is something we still do> and our dad's house on Christmas Day. After my dad passed away eight years ago, my middle brother decided not to join us and we respected his wishes. I just remember the fun we used to have and how we would do things afterwards once we were old enough to drive. Now we go to the movies after spending the day with my mom or we go bowling. That is something I missed while living in Orlando for seven years and now I am home on the East Coast and I am loving it...

Have a good night,

Zimmy

Originally Posted by AtLastHome

I will spend Thanksgiving at our family ranch in Northern California. What is great about this is that there is room there for us to gather and it is pretty central for all of us to travel to.

If it turns out to be a nice day, all the kids can run and scream and just be kids outside. If not, they will do the same, inside! A football game will be blaring in one room with some that enjoy this and some kind of rivalry will most likely be going on. My sister’s grandchildren will make time to play checkers or just sit with her husband that has Alzheimer’s. Shit, they are starting to do some things like this with me because of my damn arthritis!

The Holidays are a time that I do get to see family and this means a lot to me. There is always reverence paid to those we have lost, lots of laughter, catching up, hugs, tears, arguing, and great food!

We all have things that have been passed down generationally that we cook for each other and family traditions passed on to children, like preparing and serving antipasto, using dishes from my parents and their parents. The basil used is still from seed my own father’s gardening produced that was from his Grandfather in Italy! Yes, one of my adult nephews has made certain that the seeds are preserved each year for this and he also produces olive oil and imported trees from the regions of Italy my Mom and Dad were from. Now, he is working on getting some from Chile as we have uncovered family “secrets” about a part of our family that was hidden from us. He is doing this as a way to combat the internal racism that surrounded this occurring in our family. You don’t have to let wrongs continue and this begins at home! We are hoping that new found family from the east coast will be at the table for Christmas.

I always talk about the "First Thanksgiving" in terms of how Native Americans were treated and continue to be treated. Education begins in all of our homes, within the family. Correcting what is left out in school curriculums is up to all of us.


Elders do sit at the head of the tables and I am proud to be given one of those seats. Younger members learn of the relatives they are too young to have known. We want them to have a sense of our family history, their culture. We bring favorite photos to share.

It is also a time that we reflect together on how much we do have to be thankful for as a family. Arguments over politics will run rampant! We have differences just like everyone, but, there has always been a deep love between us that transcends these differences. We do have each other's backs and always have.

I am very fortunate to have the family that I do and never take this for granted. So many other people just do not have this as a foundation and that makes me sad. Perfect, we are not, proud of our heritage and contributions as a family to our communities and each other, we are. I would not trade my deep love of family garnished with immigrant history for anything.


There will be many stories about those that we have lost and as usual, I will miss my parents, brother and one sister sitting with me and the “clan.” But they are with us.

No, it isn't just another day to me.

[Zimmeh]

I will make you some homemade chicken marsala and Fed Ex it to you!

How are you doing?

Zimmy

Originally Posted by Luckydwg07

Hello Everyone! I will be working so I will be spending my first Thanksgiving alone (well ~ me & my 3 dogs). visited my family last week for a per-Thanksgiving gathering.

Hope you all have a really nice weekend!

[LipstickLola]

Thanksgiving is my favorite of all the holidays. I love the cooking, cleaning and making plans to celebrate! We've had several very stressful holidays in my family over the past years, and for the first time in many, my entire family will gather at my parents home! I'm grateful they are making the effort to travel, our parents are elderly and have been ill this year, it's time we gathered together!

I'm on call, the holidays are a stressful, emotional time and I no doubt will be working.

This may sound lame, but hear me out? if you are alone and/or lonely, please try to find a community outreach that needs volunteers this day? I've never had such a wonderful experience (gut wrenching yes) as giving to those in need and being with those truly less fortunate on a special holiday. They gave to me, and opened my eyes. Try it, you may really like it
Peace

[cuddlyfemme]

I thought I was going to my mom's or sisters but now I'm not sure. It may just be me and my cats

[lipstixgal]

Originally Posted by cuddlyfemme

I thought I was going to my mom's or sisters but now I'm not sure. It may just be me and my cats

I'm probably going to be alone too cuddly which is ashame because no one should be alone on Thanksgiving!!

[Jesse]

That makes three of us. I will be alone for both Thanksgiving and Christmas, but I am thinking of doing some volunteering during this time.

Originally Posted by lipstixgal

I'm probably going to be alone too cuddly which is ashame because no one should be alone on Thanksgiving!!

[lipstixgal]

Originally Posted by Tranzman

That makes three of us. I will be alone for both Thanksgiving and Christmas, but I am thinking of doing some volunteering during this time.

Yeah I'm going to ask at my temple if they are going to volunteer at the homeless shelter this year and volunteer my time. No one has asked me to dinner in my fucking family they don't like that I'm Jewish and they are Catholic or maybe its because I'm gay too I don't know.

[Jet]

I'm alone and I'm going to make myself a fabulous dinner.