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I dont really know where I stand. My brother has told me countless times that im butch. and i do wear masculine clothing and have other traits associated with being butch.
But when i look into the mirror , i dont feel "butch" , I dont feel anything. not femme or butch. I simply exist. I dont feel very feminine or masculine at all. But sometimes the balance i seem to have shifts one way or the other and then i return to the middle. and i tend to be extremely flexible when it comes to a partner. if she is more masculine iam usually more submissive unless she is. and if shes femme I can be her gentleman . I comfortably shift according to the needs or vibes she gives off , but its not something i do at will , it just kinda happens naturally by itself.
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Mormegil, I understand how you feel. When I was younger I felt that way although I always liked more femme women (even if they didn't traditionally present that way). As I get older I am taking on a more butch sense, however in truth I feel a lot like you most of the time...more butch (and in behavior and mental thoughts definitely) soft, athletic butch in presentation but find clothes hard to buy because a lot of time with fashion I am in the middle...mind more metrosexual...body not exactly there these day.
I am just me and each day I feel more and more like that is ok. This week is graduation week at the college I teach at and under my robes (hot in the sun I will tell you that) I will be dressed professionally in linen, soft butch like but will probably wear some eye make up....etc. I think it is more to be comfortable with who you feel you are at the moment and not have to dress or act within the guidelines of any labels...that is my thought for the day...although like I said I ID as butch...even with man liner I feel more butch. when I am with a woman, more dominant and gentlemanly, etc. |
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Anyway, you don't have to be butch or femme. That is just one tiny slice of the lesbian/queer community. Seems to me it is a great way to fly...more choices! ha! Remember, even if you don't identify as butch or femme (or trans, for that matter), you are welcome here. P.S. No one is allowed to define you, but you. Especially not your brother!
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By the way, I understand that there's a societal assumption that masculine=dominant, and feminine=submissive. That assumption is problematic for many of us. You can be very masculine and not at all dominant, and vice versa.
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Just as cloths don't make the person, hair styles, shoes,shirts kilt, whatever one wears does not make them who they are. I could wear a dress and still be presenting as male, you'd soooo know the difference. Here's the thing, how ever she presents doesn't change who she is. Humans have been trying to figure this thing out for millinia, (sp) and it still comes down to ....Be You.
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Speaking for myself only,I would hate it if my lady told me she likes fucking straight men..like WTF!!
It would be I suppose a jealous thing for me,because I like to think I can fullfill my lady's needs in everyway possible. This is the kicker..ready? I do fuck men.I am a butch woman..I don't see anything wrong with me doing it.I mean i'm not involved with any bio-man at the moment.But it was not that long ago that I had an affair with a man,which ended as quickly as it started.She knows about these 'flings' and told me its just primal urges *snort* If She had any primal urges like mine,i'd probably end the relationship. Is it a double standard? Affair to me means some romance and then wham bam thank you,i'm gone. I don't think i'm cheating on her,she doesn't either. I'd like to marry this woman some day,but I wouldn't blame her if she left me tomorrow. |
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Personally my opinion that's a double standard.
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I would like to know what percent of butches do you think are attracted to femmes? And what percent to butches?
I've always been curious about this. Deborah |
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Well.... I'm thinking your data is likely to be a bit squed since this is a Butch/Femme site. Even so, there are some Butches on here who have said they like other Butches.
As for a % ... I couldn't say ... but... you can count me among the Femme fan gang. <~~ say that five times fast! |
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Again I'm asking.. please answer, I've been curious and would like to know.
What percent of butches do you think are attracted to femmes, and what percent are attracted to butches? To clarify, I'm not referring to this website, but the public in general. Deborah |
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Law of attraction equals personal preference.I always liked women who were "girly" in appearance only.Women who are strong and smart.Women who aren't afraid to speak their mind.I'm very attracted to Femmes,generally,all women.They have the energy I crave.
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My only experiences of butches is online B-F forums over the 15+ I have been on them. It is rare to see a butch interested another butch. “In real life”, I mainly see androgynous lesbians/soft butches, and they are interested in each other. I live in the mid atlantic/north east states.
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I dont think a study has been done on this.
But i havent bern on bfp long enough to really think about the percentages.
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I'd say most butches had flexibility. Kinda like most people. Most butches liked tomboy femmes, some practical femmes, androgynous types, other butches of various types. Most butches I knew, hung out with, got with, even married, had *one* butch-butch relationship in their past at the very least. It's rare I know butches who *strictly* absolutely no exception whatsoever, EVER, see femmes. Most have shagged a butch or an androgynous dyke or had relationships with them, either when there are no femmes around, and they can't deal with screwing married straight women anymore, OR they meet an androgynous/butch dyke with "feminine" traits they recognise as attractive and they have an epiphany about relationships. I'd say butch-femme -strictly, no exception- is not common. that's not what people will tell you on some message boards of FB groups but I also know what people say amongst other butches and in front of femmes, and where they have actually shagged is another matter. people have standard deviation lengths that they will allow away from core attractions. It's a matter of how wide those standard deviations are, and how many someone finds acceptable (how fluid someone is in attraction). |
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In regards to what imperfect cupcake said about people (in this case butches), not being honest and having dates or slept with other butches, that is something that I have never considered. I think it is pretty ridiculous to not be upfront about that. I have never slept with a butch, but who the heck cares? I guess I get it though, people are so worried about what others think. Is it like a person is a "gold star butch" to have never slept with anyone but a femme?
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