03-15-2012, 03:04 PM | #101 |
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I'm sooo out at work that anyone standing next to me is gay too. Lol
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03-15-2012, 03:08 PM | #102 |
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I've been out at every job! Being an invisible femme people
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03-15-2012, 03:29 PM | #103 |
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all 21 years of my Nursing career, I was OUT! and PROUD! I have never, ever been harassed, heckled, or had any kind of hassles with my being gay. Even in public, with discreet PDA's. Even though I am retired, I am still OUT & PROUD! and still NO kind of issues anywhere I go...
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03-15-2012, 03:42 PM | #104 |
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This...is priceless! **chuckling**
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03-15-2012, 03:42 PM | #105 |
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Out at work btw
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03-15-2012, 03:53 PM | #106 |
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I have never been in or out. I know that will sound strange to some but I have always assumed that it was ok to be who I am and if people figure out I am a "lesbian" then good for them. I don't require them to let me know if they are straight therefore I have never considered it to be a requirement that I tell them I am lesbian.
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03-15-2012, 04:24 PM | #107 |
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I’m Out and Proud at work; always have been. There aren’t many gays where I work…..there’s only two of us and he’s the Stone Mason, lol! I’ve not met with much prejudice and so many have said they would never have guessed, lol! The works annual Ball my partner has always been invited.
At work I try to maintain a high level of professionalism, especially as I deal with students, relatives, the Police, etc. I’m Out and Proud at the Disabled Arts Studio. I’m the only Lesbian and there are three gay guys.
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03-15-2012, 05:41 PM | #108 |
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03-15-2012, 06:10 PM | #109 |
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I'm out everywhere, but work is a particularly important place for me. I found that if you mention things in passing ("yes, these flowers are from my partner") rather than announcing ("I'm a big homo! How does that make you feel?"), things tend to go better. One of the most conservative places I ever worked, I simply put up a picture of my partner's Navy photo, and people would ask who it was. I would tell them, and then what were they gonna do? Criticize a veteran? LOL Worked great, and everyone treated me like the Big Gay SME (Subject Matter Expert), which I don't really mind. ("Yes, I know where drag queens put their thingies. No, I cannot fix your car, but I know 5 lesbians who can. Actually, there are hundreds of ways two women can have sex....")
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03-15-2012, 06:12 PM | #110 |
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Oh, and I quoted Dee because I can totally relate. The last thing I want is a flood of bio-men hitting on the new girl! Femmes have to come out as a precautionary measure!
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One of our foremen said to him * are you SURE she is gay???* And of course the one who said *she hasn't met the RIGHT man yet* at which i replied if we were the two people on earth, mankind would end with us. |
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I know right!
I always tell them, if I had a nickel for every time I've heard that I just haven't met the right man yet, or worse, "I'm a lesbian too, trapped in a man's body", I'd be richer than Donald Trump. Guys can be SOOO original
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03-15-2012, 06:53 PM | #113 | |
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03-15-2012, 07:12 PM | #114 |
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LMAO @ Dee!
I tell them God made me a lesbian because I hate body hair so much. LOL
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03-15-2012, 07:41 PM | #115 |
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Totally out to all co-workers, not out to my clients. In order for me to be effective, I don't dare add anything that will put up defenses. Although when I do the diversity training, I spend a few (lotsa) extra minutes on gay issues
On the other hand, my co-workers are freaks. A bunch of straight women, but you wouldn't be able to tell...
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03-15-2012, 07:44 PM | #116 |
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I am so out at work; I'm in.
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03-16-2012, 04:20 AM | #117 |
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yes and no. i'm very out in my non-profit work. i don't hide the fact that i'm queer when i do sex work but since most of my customer base is straight men, i don't exactly trumpet it, either.
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03-16-2012, 04:42 AM | #118 |
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I am out at work. To coworkers, bosses and such. Not to the parents of students I work with or the students. They are really unconcerned with my life. Heck most of the kids think I live at school It is a small town but so far so good.
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Then that settled down a lot, but I was still determined to stay out in everything I did. I didn't advertise it (other than all the pride bumper stickers I had on my car in their parking lots), but I didn't hide anything either. I really didn't get hassled at all. My last company I worked for in FL before moving here and opening my own business, they all knew from right away, about my sexual orientation, about my being in recovery, etc. It actually helped me many times, since I worked in the behavioral health field. I also got to be the "token expert" on all things gay. And yeah, I have had female co-workers (straight) try to hit on me. I have heard on many an occasion that I just don't LOOK gay at all! |
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03-30-2012, 01:24 AM | #120 |
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I am out at work, although I wasn't for the first 2 years that I worked there. You just never know with people in kansas...well people anywhere really. I got tired of hiding it though and just kinda jumped out. Turned out everyone was really accepting and now the guys at work constantly crack jokes with me, I love it.
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