The Older LGBTIQ Crush Thread - Post Age 40

[dark_crystal]

Originally Posted by key

Oh reeeeeealllly? I may just have another real time crush

i may just have to reciprocate

[Oneida]

Originally Posted by apretty

not so, i like the 'real stuff'--prefer it, even.

I was kinda kidding....making fun of myself.

[AtLast]

Originally Posted by apretty

not so, i like the 'real stuff'--prefer it, even.

apretty posted her sweetie!

I want so much to post some pics of real time crushes, especially dog park friends... but, I almost got punched in the nose by a jealous husband of a woman I walk with there sometimes. Very, very weird!!! Came down to ... No, I am not fucking your wife. I don't fuck married, straight or bi women and I don't flirt with them. Operative word being married or just in a monogamous relationship.

It would be kewl to post those random crushees in everyday life, though!!

[Venus007]

I have to say the pinnacle of crushing for me is a big sexy brain.
Be able to engage in witty repartee with me, argue logically, know random science trivia and enjoy things of complexity and depth and not get intimidated on a deep conversation on wherever our minds end up and I am crushing, hard. Crow's feet don't hurt either.

[Legendryder]

Is it strange that the only crush I have is on Bob?

[JustJo]

Originally Posted by Legendryder

Is it strange that the only crush I have is on Bob?

Completely understandable given that pic...

Pups in fedoras...pups in goggles...very, very crushable!

[scootebaby]

ok so i KNOW we arent supposed to be posting crushes on film stars and such,but i crush on attitudes and stuff more so than looks and i just HAVE to add Joan Crawford and Bette Davis...especially in "Whatever happened to BabyJane"

[Sachita]

Originally Posted by UofMfan

Hahahaha! It is the little things, it is always the little things.

I have a crush on you and I was born in Miami.

[AtLast]

Originally Posted by JustJo

Completely understandable given that pic...

Pups in fedoras...pups in goggles...very, very crushable!

Yeah! Right on! Any pup crush is a grand crush!! That's what my Frog Dog says! But, 'cept he thinks maybe his old dawgg Mom just doesn't have it anymore.... Hummm, cookie protest? Must be the fedora...

And this would be his Holiday hat!

[Sweet Bliss]

Originally Posted by AtLastHome

Yeah! Right on! Any pup crush is a grand crush!! That's what my Frog Dog says! But, 'cept he thinks maybe his old dawgg Mom just doesn't have it anymore.... Hummm, cookie protest? Must be the fedora...

And this would be his Holiday hat!

And just what does that mean, that little admission in the middle of "cute dog" remarks? You wanted to get a discussion going, I'm all up for discussion AtHomeLast....... so let us discuss....... what exactly are you saying here? I'm sensing that you may be feeling that you are "not all that", what is the "not all that" you are feeling? You are among anonymous online peeps here, we are just words on a screen, spit it out..... I'm notorious for doing that.....please feel free to join me......

Okay, I'll start. I decided last night to go to a local hangout for the Glbt community. Yes, i was nervous, i've been out the loop for a very very long time...... I stepped out of my usual comfort zone, and after trying my darndest for 2 hours, finally had to come to the conclusion, that single women, are not welcome in those venues.....All the women were paired up with butches, and made sure i knew that i was trespassing and getting too close to "their butch", all i did was ask if i could use one of the spare stools at their table that was not being used...., I needed to sit down, because of health issues......only young gay men said hello to me, and asked if i was having fun......i of course smiled my "thank you for asking smile" and said yes, and said "thanks for asking". The handsome male bartender bought my diet soda for me, cause i don't drink.

So I'm feeling that "I'm not all that" this morning, i managed not to cry when i got home, that's a first, but i'm sitting here re-evaluating what am i going to do with this information, the fact that single femmes are not welcome in places "reserved for couples and pre-established groups".

So now i'm back to, if I'm not welcome, how am i supposed to develop a network of butch and femme friends to hang with, have bbq parties, go camping, fishing, day trips, movies, baseball games, soccer games, get together on Sunday and have breakfast and shoot the breeze?......

So does this mean, that my ex is right? No one will ever love me? That my life as a partner is over? Life will continue to over look my rich personal history of loving and caring for others? That when my laugh lines became a permanent fixture on my face, the party was over? That my heavy breasts that fed two children are not worthy of attention? That my perfect size 6 firm hot body at 20 is the only thing i had going for me? My wit and humor and compassion for others means nothing? My cooking skills and gift for making you feel like a king are just gonna blow in the breeze, like fall leaves?

Good grief. After spending a life time developing my self into someone I can be proud of, this is all that awaits me?

Ya, l guess this is just rhetorical again this morning.... seems no one wants to really get into how they "really feel", i am just going to resign my self to the rest of the nameless faceless online fantasy world and stick to the fluff topics..... cause that's the only 'real' things worthy of discussion.

[Martina]

Gay bars are not for the past forty set, i find. i don't know how old you are, but they are dangerous places for the egos of older folks.

Lesbians are notoriously unfriendly to outsiders. (i know, i know . . . but it's mostly true).

It might not be easy to ease back in.

If you really want to date now, i would suggest a dating site or craigslist or whatever is available where you are.

If you want to meet people and get to know them, you are going to have to keep showing up until people get used to you. Bars would not be my first choice, but i don't know what else is available to you.

Also there will be slings and arrows and possibly drama. My best advice as someone who moved four years ago and had to reestablish community is YOU be picky. Don't bond with the first person who asks you to go shopping or hang out. See if you like them too.

It ain't fun getting back out there. i wish you the best of luck.

[Sweet Bliss]

I posted this once, long ago, so despite the fact some peep will out me on this, here goes anyway.....


All I can offer is my self, standing here, naked before you, I have nothing to give but my love. Such as I am, flawed, imperfect, woman.. is that enough?

What is enough?

Enough is someone who can say, "here i am, such as I am, naked before you, I have nothing to give but my love, is that enough?"

To which i will say, "yes"

Everything else is about compromise, acceptance, tenderness, and understanding.

[Rockinonahigh]

Over the age of 40 or so..or single and not part of a "group".This can be a big problem because of egos on both ened of the spectrum.I hadnt gone to a gbar for quite awhile till I went one evening out of the blue.OMG..I could have parented/grandpareted most all of the ppl in the bar,no one was over 30 at the most.Jayseaus what happend to the peeps I use to hang out with ?There isnt any other place to go hang out xcept another gbar wich isnt much better...so what the H dose anyone do if u r over the so called age limit that is shoved down ur throat?I havent changed much besides geting a bit older and a bit chubbyer.

[Andrew, Jr.]

Rockin,

Move over. I need a place to sit down next to you. No alcohol for me. I have to watch it. Do they sell bottled water here? I sure hope the ac is on high. I am hot as he**.

[Andrew, Jr.]

These ladies get me all hot and bothered:

Vanessa Williams - 44
Diane Lane - 42
Jodie Foster - 44
Meryl Streep - ?
Cher - 60+

[Rockinonahigh]

Sit right hear bro and hear is a botle of water for ya..yeah its hot alright,today it was 101 hear in the shade,all me and the fur kids have done is hug the AC and watch movies.Cher..oh yessssss hot no mater what age sge is.

[Andrew, Jr.]

Rockin,

Cher has those killer legs that get me. Oh my. You are right - any age! WooHoo!

Yeah, the heat and humidity are just killing me. Mostly the humidity. It is about 60% now. I know our furkids would get along just fine. All in line by the ac.

[Sweet Bliss]

Originally Posted by Rockinonahigh

Over the age of 40 or so..or single and not part of a "group".This can be a big problem because of egos on both ened of the spectrum.I hadnt gone to a gbar for quite awhile till I went one evening out of the blue.OMG..I could have parented/grandpareted most all of the ppl in the bar,no one was over 30 at the most.Jayseaus what happend to the peeps I use to hang out with ?There isnt any other place to go hang out xcept another gbar wich isnt much better...so what the H dose anyone do if u r over the so called age limit that is shoved down ur throat?I havent changed much besides geting a bit older and a bit chubbyer.

Omfg, is that fabulous bbq place still there, the one with the giant copper smoker, hotter than hell inside, with the bbq sauce to freaking DIE FOR??????

My daughter was born in Bossier City, at Barksdale AFB, wow, does that take me back,,,,,, way way back.......

Well, i don't know where to hang here either, right now it's my front porch, alone with my dog, and the cool evening breeze. Grab a beer or something, we'll talk about the good ol' days when peeps actually came to your house and brought chips and beer, or soda, and told funny stories, and laughed our butts off.... you know, when people used to show up in person, not on a screen.... and bring their extra fresh crawfish or catfish to throw on the grill.....

Sorry, got really bad news about my health situation today, so am feeling really angry right now.... not doing a good job of hiding it am I? That's what else sucks as we get older, your body betrays you, your mind says you are still a 20 something hottie, and the doc says, "now don't panic okay?, we can do something about this....." Ya, like i trust you after you say "don't panic"....

[AtLast]

Originally Posted by Rockinonahigh

Sit right hear bro and hear is a botle of water for ya..yeah its hot alright,today it was 101 hear in the shade,all me and the fur kids have done is hug the AC and watch movies.Cher..oh yessssss hot no mater what age sge is.

Whoa! My pets get so miserable when it gets hot. Me too, actually. Cool off!

[Rockinonahigh]

Yeah its hot alright,the humudity is at 65% right now,u bet we all are in the house already.Sofar to day I managed to get a workout in by 9am cause its way to dangeroug to wait any later to do it.
Alh..to give my fur kids a boost I put ice in the water bowl as well as keep pop cicles out in two bowls for them to lick so that can cool off.Thank goodness for the huge ac my son put in this place..will freeze ur butt off if u dont watch it.
SB...Do I remember those days of porch siting with friends over cold beers and cook outs,havent done it in a long time,seems like ppl just are to much on the go to sit and chill with good company.I have lived hear three years and u can bet have barely gotten a hello from my neighbors,its not they are rude just dont have much to say.
Yes,Cobbs bbq is still there and still makeing the best bbq in the world..old man Cobb passed a while back but the family is still cooking bbq.I live about a half mild from BAF...I can tell whats takeing off and how heavy its loaded...the roar of the B52s is loud as it always has been.The shuttle has made a stop hear a time or two as well.